Expanding Your Skillset: Bringing Her To Climax 

Throw the Clock out the Window 

For most women, it takes time to achieve an orgasm. Therefore, you must make sure not to obsess over it and you must be patient. A lot of women end up faking their way through or just denying themselves a climax because they are so concerned that they are taking too long.

Being relaxed is one of the most important components of an orgasm, and feeling like you’re on the clock is a definite way to turn her off. Assure her that you have all night and that you want her to experience pleasure, orgasm or not. Once she knows you’re in it for the long haul, she will be more likely to let loose. And by the way, studies show that on average it can take as long as 40 minutes for a woman to climax, so get comfy. The classic sex studies conducted by Masters and Johnson in the 1960s report similar number. This particular study found that the average man was able to reach orgasm in about four minutes, whereas most women took about twenty minutes to climax.[3] 

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10 and 2 

Surely you have heard the reference 10 o’clock and 2 o’clock with regard to hands on the steering wheel while driving. Well, the 10 and 2 positions can come in quite handy when performing oral sex on your girl. Try moving your tongue in a circular motion around the top of her clitoris, paying special attention to the 10 and 2 o’clock positions on either side. Once you’ve got that down, slowly slide your tongue up under the “hood” of her clitoris. This technique is a sure fire way to push her over the edge. The most accommodating position for this technique is to lie flat on your back, having her sit just over your face, allowing her to grab onto the wall or headboard for leverage. 

Guided Practice 

All women are different, and even if you think you have all of the right moves, your moves may not work to bring every woman to a climax. If you’re not sure what brings your woman to the brink, just ask her. Whenever you try something new, ease into it to see if she likes it. If she responds well, then continue to build it up, if she doesn’t, than simply knock it off. Also, it wouldn’t hurt to let her control things; if she suggests a certain position or a certain way to touch her, go with it, because chances are she knows better than you what works best for her. Another tip: watch her as she stimulates herself, you can acquire some great techniques by simply paying close attention to her. 

Slow Your Role 

We’ve established that clitoral stimulation is paramount for most women, but just be careful not to attack it. Ease into oral sex or manual stimulation, there’s nothing worse than a harsh, vigorous assault to the area. The best thing to do is to start off slowly, then build up to deeper, more pressured stimulation. Too much gusto in the very beginning can desensitize the clitoris, making climax next to impossible.  Along this line, it may be best to let her finish first, as you’re a man on a mission and will probably climax no matter what. If you’ve found a position that seems to be working well for her, stick with it and let her go until she finishes. An abrupt change can cause her to lose the build-up and ultimately lose the orgasm. 

Whether you think you’re a well-skilled lover or a novice, learning something new can never hurt. When striving to get your girl to reach the coveted big “O”, remember that all women are different, and some tricks that work for one may not work for another. The best thing you can do is be attentive to her needs and take her cues, as she’s likely to be the best instructor for her own body.