I am 16 years old and I lost my virginity only 3 days ago to a 17 year old boy, who I have loved for almost two years now. Of course it was painful during the beginning but later as I relaxed the pain lessened. Following that, I experienced no pleasureable feeling othan that a slip-in, slip-out feeling. Also, I have never been so depressed in my life. I wake up at night and I end up shaking myself back to sleep and I have a lost of appetite. My body is extremely tired and for some strange reason, my feelings about my partner are no longer the same. I was so disappointed with the experience but perhaps it'll get better. I have told no one about this...I need help.
It's normal to not feel pleasure for the first time, and even for many times afterwards. Some woman never figure out what can give them pleasure. It takes a lot of practice and more practice. The depression isn't good but its also not unheard of. Sex can be a very emotional thing. Especially if your relationship becomes centered around it. I would talk to your partner about how you feel, and work on figuring out how to make it better for you. Does either him or you rub your clit during sex? Most woman cant orgasm without that and it should make sex feel a lot better. Just keep practicing, use lube if it helps. Good luck.
Don't forget foreplay, the anticipation of sex can make it feel all the more better when it happens, for example, rubbing the thighs can stimulate the vagina without having to touch it. As for the depression, I agree with agentlove, talk to your partner about it and see what's going on, I would also kicking up the romance level; =P a nice dinner, good conversation, massage, nice bath together, that sort of thing can get people relaxed and in the mood for 'love', instead of just lustful sex.
I am tired and I hope I've made sense,
have fun and be merry,
Drew.
I am tired and I hope I've made sense,
have fun and be merry,
Drew.