Abnormal masturbation. I want to masturbate like normal people.

I read this topic with interest a. i too have had unconventional or abnormal masturbation since I was about 10, perhaps earlier. I am now over 50 and when I masturbate, I still do it that way as I cannot ejaculate doing it the conventional manner, i.e. hard, rubbing it till ejaculation. The way I masturbate, my penis needs to be soft. I lean and push against the edge of a desk or table, supporting my entire body with the base of my penis against the edge, then flex (tense) & move my legs sideways back & forth while pointing my toes until I come. Yes, I need to wear briefs or else it wouldn't work too well. It's that easy.  

As I got older, i knew this was not the way most guys would masturbate. I also never experienced wet dreams, ever, and I seldom had morning erections, even when I was young. in relationships, I couldn't come when my partner gave me blow jobs or hand jobs.  I just couldn't ejaculate like that.  The first girlfriend I had when I was 18,  had sex with her quite often for close to 3 months but I never came once.  Then I met another girl and somehow during sex the first time, I was able to come as I tensed up my legs a bit like the way I masturbate, even though I was hard as opposed to soft when I masturbate normally, but still, that didn't come easily.  Still, it was a relief for me as I knew I could come normally like most people in having sex.  I went on to have other normal sexual relationships with other girlfriends, never had problem getting hard, never had problems coming while inside her but never could come from my partner's hand job or blow job.  Still can not.

 

I came across this on the internet as I got curious, and with the ever expansive internet of knowledge, googled and found this thread discussion.  Also, I want to reassure those who are concerned that I am over 50 years old, have had many normal and happy sexual relationships since age 18 ( except for my first sexual encounter and partner for 3 months, had sex with her probably 10 times or more and couldn't come once), and I have been happily married for over 20 years with two children.  No problems having sex over the years other than lately perhaps due to getting older, my sex drive is not like it was in my younger days.  Sure, I still masturbate regularly, and have sex with my wife quite often, and yes, it's still the same unconventional masturbation technique like I have always done it.  

 

This seems to be a serious discussion so I hope this adds to the discussion and reassure others that even though it doesn't seem conventional or normal with the way I have always masturbated since the age of 10 or younger, ver the past 35 + years since my first sexual encounter, I never had a problem with a sex partner ( all women by the way) and with two children too. 

 

Whether I will develop problems or not as I get even older, I guess I will find out as I age.

 

I want to further add, following my previous post, that I guess one needs to get used to the feeling of ejaculating inside your partner while the penis is hard. I suppose one, who has this unconventional masturbation technique, needs to stop worrying and simply relax.  Enjoy sex with your partner and you will come inside her when your penis is hard as opposed to being soft like when you masturbate.  i have masturbated close to 1/2 a century and it's always squeezing it out when my penis is soft rather than hard, the way I described in my previous post using the edge ( more correctly, the corner of a desk, table, preferably squared corner) to press agains the base of my penis.  That's how I have always been able to relief myself over the years.  

Perhaps youngsters here can try changing this to the normal way.  i wish I had done that early on, even though as I said, i had no issues over the years having normal and great sex, but I wish I could come when my partner gave me a blow job or a hand job too Or experience wet dreams or morning erections more regularly like most guys, just to feel more normal, if nothing else.

True, at times, very few times thankfully,  i had a little trouble coming but that was a good problem as I made my partner happier by lasting much longer but I always came in the end.  Almost always, we both do and makes a real happy ending.

Other than posting here, i have not mentioned this to anybody.  Even my wife doesn't know about my unconventional or abnormal technique. Perhaps too embarrassed to tell but feels it matters not. 

lol i cant do it normally either . i rub my penis against my leg vigously with lubricant usually vaseline , soap if in shower,dont need a boner to masterbate, have fetish also

thank the sweet jesus i'm not the only person like this.

i don't have problem with sex, but the masturbation aspect of it... well, it always kinda concerned me that i did it this way, but at least now i know i'm not alone. best of luck my friend.

i basically do the same thing you do, but instead of a towel i just make a fist and push and rub against the base of my penis (the top side of course), most of the time while half hard or completely flacid. i rarely cum durring sex and never come when trying to masturbate normally, which isnt much of a problem because my girlfriend enjoys going for an extended period of time, but shes telling me that she wants me to come on her face and chest and mouth and i am just unable to do that seeing as how i would need to masturbate normally to do so

I have the same exact problem you took the weeds out of my mouth I'm very scared also

Hey believe or not I'm like that too did you recover yet?

My issue is that I punch my penis as hard as I can while I watch fruits being smashed. This isn't normal isn't it, A lot of times I will crush my penis with a rock and that usually forces me to cum sense I usually can't. I don't think I'm interested in women or men. I'm turned on by fruits and hard surfaces. Please help

I had the same issue when I was younger. I would lay on my stomach with my penis between my legs and squeeze to ejaculate. I tried jerking off the traditional way (stroking) but I couldn't ejaculate and ultimatley ended up with a sore penis. I figured out by doing a bit of research that this was completely normal. How I fixed this issue was, I sat down and jerked off the normal way until I came. It took a lot longer than usual ( about 30 minutes) but I forced myself to sit there and continue until I ended up ehaculating. Once i did this I found the next couple of times much easier and quicker. This ended up fixing the problem and I now jerk off normal every time with no issues. Hope this helps!

Hello everyone. I am the thread op. First, I would like to apologize to those who kept wondering how i turned out since I posted this thread. I have been quite busy and totally forgot about this post until I came across this again by accident. Although I did not try to fix it right away, I tried out the suggestions eventually. I tried to refrain myself from masturbating excessively (I used to masturbate 3+ times everyday but now I only do it about x 1-2 times a month). I found success once I stopped over-masturbating and start to engage in regular conventional intercourse. first six months were very difficult because I was constantly making sure that the only time I ejaculate would be during intercourse. many sleepless nights and I was constantly irritated. I was so turned on back then, every woman looked great to me. instant attraction. lol. But I toiled away trying my best to not masturbate; e.g using my bed for the purpose of sleeping only, not watching porn or receive any excessive erotic stimulation via visual/verbal/tactile senses, immediately distracting myself with something else once the desire popped up etc. Basically trying my best to make sure I don't ejaculate anywhere other than during intercourse. Once I was able to cum with my partner, I found that I could cum by conventional masturbation method (took a bit longer in the beginning) . the process was gradual....slow and tedious but found myself feeling a lot better and more productive in present days. I realized that many social and psychological "anxieties" also went away, along with my old habit. Everyone is welcomed to try the things that I did to fix your own habit. It may or may not work, but at least you will experience something new and different. If it helps you like it did for me, try helping someone else who is in the same boat. Don't be ashamed, discussing about it and taking action is the only way you can transform your life into something better.

Same but I use a blanket
Idk how to stop

I have the same problem as well I found out when I tried to masturbate the normal way and it didn't work. But one day I grind the floor and it works all the time.

I would advise against in. I've done that since I was young (around 10), and now I'm 22 and have been dealing with erectile dysfunction for the past few years, and I believe it's due to the unconventional masturbating. Not only can I not cum when my girlfriend blows me, but now I generally can't even keep it up for more that a minute or two during sex, and sometimes can't get it up at all (due to the fact that I don't even have to be hard to masturbate the abnormal way, so my penis doesn't feel the need to be hard during sex)

Hey ive had the same issue as yall, had to be soft and would lay face down to masturbate but I overcame this. You have to force yourself to masturbate normal. At first with me it made my boner go down but I didn't stop, trust me you will ejactulate eventually and after that first time you ejactulate from normal masturbation it gets easier and feels better trust me. I at a point where I can literally do both but I do not think it is healthy at all to masturbate any way other than normal.