i had a abortion 9 days ago a surgical one i was 8 weeks i deeply regret the decision that i made i was pushed into it i wish i had been stronger and said no but my dh did not want another baby as he has just losed his job. My problem is i havent bleed after it just some brown loss sorry if its too much info but i have over the last 2 days had a bad stomache ache and it feels really tender i also done another test and the test line was alot darker than the control line im so worried that something is wrong or am i just punishing myself for the bad decision that i have made
Hi Annie, I'm sorry to hear that you're regretting your decision, and I hope that you will be okay soon. I think that the problem you're experiencing right now is pretty normal for being post abortion. If you feel that the stomach ache has been going on for far too long--and I think it has probably--then it would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about it so please go see one if you can. Let me know how you're doing okay?
You know what Annie, what's done is done and stop beating yourself up over it. If you are having a constant stomach ache you really need to see your doctor. Some women bleed a lot after a procedure, some not so much. I had two abortions when i was younger and i remember bleeding a lot after the first one and only a little after the second. When is your post surgery check up?
I remember having a stomach ache, it is an invasive procedure and things take a little while to get back to normal. It wouldn't hurt if you called the doctor and just give him the 411, this way you won't worry so much.
As for the bad decision you "THINK" you made, don't be so hard on yourself. The decision was made because you felt that it was the right thing to do. Move ahead with your life and try to stop dwelling on the could have beens. It's done and over and it's time to go forward. Just learn from your mis judgements. Stuff happens all the time and this is not a perfect world that we all share. If you need some help in getting some closure w ith this, there are many counselin groups that offer some help and advice. You are not the first and you positively won't be the last women to ever have an abortion. Talk to some of the folks that re in the same boat as you, they all have stories to tell and it will comfort you.
I remember having a stomach ache, it is an invasive procedure and things take a little while to get back to normal. It wouldn't hurt if you called the doctor and just give him the 411, this way you won't worry so much.
As for the bad decision you "THINK" you made, don't be so hard on yourself. The decision was made because you felt that it was the right thing to do. Move ahead with your life and try to stop dwelling on the could have beens. It's done and over and it's time to go forward. Just learn from your mis judgements. Stuff happens all the time and this is not a perfect world that we all share. If you need some help in getting some closure w ith this, there are many counselin groups that offer some help and advice. You are not the first and you positively won't be the last women to ever have an abortion. Talk to some of the folks that re in the same boat as you, they all have stories to tell and it will comfort you.
I had it done on the nhs so no follow up scan or anything you just have it done and sent home after a hour with a 7 day course of antibiotics to take which i have taken. I cant go to my dr because she knows my family nd i dont want them to find out cos they wont understand and will be upset i didnt come to them for help i got my referal through the family planning near me but they arnt open again till next week im just gonna have to wait it out til i can go then. My stomache ache has dulled down a little today but still there im hoping that it will go compleatly by next week. How long will it be before the pregnancy tests come back negative? im really worried about that showing so strong still. Thanks for the advice. Also bbfeet i did raed a post on here which has other ladies stories of how they feel bad and kinda regret the decisions they made i did kinda make me feel less alone i just wish i had joined here before i had it done and had a bit of pre waring of how i could feel
I know that you can go to your doctor though for whatever because your doctor cannot tell your family that you went to her. That would violate patient-doctor privacy and I think it works the same in the UK as it does here in the US. I think that you're probably just anxious at this point so you're feeling stressed. I know that your hormone levels will drop soon and you'll be back to normal. Keep us posted on how you're doing, okay?
If you still not feeling well, why not go to your ER? You can't ignore it if it feels that bad. Like the previous poster said, your doctor will treat you and he is not allowed to breath a word of it to anyone, not even your mom/dad. He isn't even able to discuss certain issues regarding a patient with his wife over morning coffee, so don't even worry about that part of it.
I am glad that you decided to check us out, tho it's after the fact we are still able to help with just about anything. Please feel free to continue visiting the site, we are good folks who are just at the other end of your computer. Many of us share the same stuff, and we try to give advice to folks just like ourselves. We are not Doctors, but we have ears and a lot of experience in many areas. What one doesn't know much about, the other one will.
I am glad that you decided to check us out, tho it's after the fact we are still able to help with just about anything. Please feel free to continue visiting the site, we are good folks who are just at the other end of your computer. Many of us share the same stuff, and we try to give advice to folks just like ourselves. We are not Doctors, but we have ears and a lot of experience in many areas. What one doesn't know much about, the other one will.
I totaly stumbled aross this site but i have found it really helpful to read other peoples experiance and be able to say what i really feel without being judged by others and having honest advice from others i thank you so much for that you are all good people that have given up time to answer other people in tough spots in there lives. If i have learn one thing from this site it is that i have to forgive myself for this for my sake and the sake of my other children that i love dearly, and that my baby even though i chose not to keep it i will alway love and will have a special place in my heart forevee. Also to anyone that is reading this that is in my situation or is judging me for what i have done abortion is NOT the easy way out it is the hardest thing i have ever done and i thought i would have a sense of relife after that is was over but no i have been left with guilt and sadness that im going to have to work through but i do feel better knowing thanks to the fantastic people here im not alone and there are others out there just like me. I would like to thik i to could help someone get thro a tough time to or just be a some one to vent at so i will definately be sticking around
Just to let you all know the bleeding has become more period like and the stomache ache has all but gone i have decided to go to the family planning and see there drs there to get a check up next week if im still worried about it but im hoping in the next few days it will stop
Thank you to you all again and i will keep in touch and let you know how im gettin on
Just to let you all know the bleeding has become more period like and the stomache ache has all but gone i have decided to go to the family planning and see there drs there to get a check up next week if im still worried about it but im hoping in the next few days it will stop
Thank you to you all again and i will keep in touch and let you know how im gettin on
annie2009 I'm really glad to hear that you're doing well and that things seem to be returning to normal. And I'm also glad to hear that you find that the site is helpful so hopefully you'll be able to share your experience with other people as well! Thanks for keeping us updated and I'll look for your update soon.
Thank you im still struggling to get over this and im consantly thinking omg why didnt i just get up and leave the clinic when i had the chance and i wouldnt be feeling this guilty but i could have been left a single parent of 5 kids. I dont know what would be worse If i had kept it knowing dh didnt want the child i would alway wonder if he loved it like me, or the guilt im feeling. I just dont know if this is going to finish our marage off cos i dont know if i can fogive myself for this. Sorry for the rant im having a really bad day with the guilt today
Hi annie. I am sure that you do feel guilty but you know, what's done is done and it's hard to deal with but I think that you will eventually come to terms with it. Is there someone you can talk to or maybe a therapist you can talk to? it sounds like you're going through some grief here and I think that would really help you. What do you think?
Just wanted to pop by and let you all know how im doing, I have had a long talk with Dh and told him exactly how i feel and how i felt he had left me no choice in the decision of what we should do. If nothing else it has shown us we need to talk more. I still feel guilty but i do know i did do the right thing at that time of our lives. Thanks so much for listening to me
Annie, I'm so glad to hear that you're at least coping with it. I know that it can be difficult but I think ultimately you'll realize that you made the right choice. IT's normal to feel some regret but you should be okay in the long run. Thanks for keeping me updated.