my now ex girlfriend and I found out she was pregnant about a month and a half ago. We agreed on an abortion (she was certain to do it as she brought it up first) and she had the procedure about a month ago. I went to the doctors appointments with her but when it came down to the day she was aborting, she told me she would do it on her own and would call me if she needed anything. She asked me to come over late that night and I didn't show up until several hours later. I was out shopping, eating dinner and fell asleep. I was angry that she first pushed me away and then she wanted me, but when she did need me I got really scared, nervous and didn't know what to do, so I prolonged going over to her, hoping that it would just be over with and I wouldn't have to deal with it. She was angry and said she would get over it. About 5 days ago, she told me she feels empty inside about everything and she needs to fix herself and get over her feelings of guilt, anger and sadness. I feel terrible and I am not sure what to do?
Abortions usually destroy relationships. Everyone feels confused, scared and angry and in the end it leads to nowhere. I think that if you guys really care about each other you will find a way to be together and get over this problem. But, regardless of whether you want to stay with her or break up with her, you should definitely be there for her; at least as a friend. She needs you now, so be persistent about talking with her and being there for her. She must feel devastated, you should comfort her and later when she gets better then you can talk about your relationship status. But now, just be there and try to help as much as you can, as a friend. Hope this helps