this is my story and feelings about abortion. for those who may read this and think "what a monster" realise that before i knew i was pregnant, i was completely against it. i would have been the last person anyone would expect to go through with it, but when i was faced with the reality of the situation, i knew i couldnt handle it. it was my personal choice, and i decided what was best for me. im not writing this to tell girls/women "its ok to do it, go ahead youll be ok". 1. im writing this because im bored to tears at work and needed to get this off my chest in any way 2. i want to be able to help anyone who is going through the same thoughts, doubts and fears that i went through and 3. i want to set the record straight about abortion and make people who may be going through it realise that most of the crazy stories you read online are written by pro-life extremists trying to scare you and it really isnt as bad as they make it sound
here we go,
august 25,2008 i found out i was pregnant. september 19,2008 i had an abortion i was 7 weeks pregnant. although i dont regret my abortion because i feel that it was a learning experience and it made me realise just what it takes to be a mother. i want to be able to give my baby everything he/she deserves and being 19 years old i just dont have everything. i want to be out of my parents place, with a great guy (my bf DID NOT want me to have it) who actually wants to be a part of our childs life, and i want to be ready both financially and mentally.everything just happened all at once and i was faced with a million decisions and questions and concerns. it was just wayy to much for me to handle, so i made the decision.
my advice to anyone who is facing the same situation as i did would be to do ALL YOUR RESEARCH. look at what your province/state can offer you as a single mother or for financial aid. i was too scared to look for help when i wanted to and now im stuck. getting an abortion is something you can never take back. some women deal with it fairly ok, for some it destroys them, and for some they just go back to normal as if nothings happened. and DO NOT listen to those crazy stories that are on the internet. i know that if your thinking about abortion youll be googling something like "does getting an abortion hurt alot". the truth is (for me) not at all. the procedure itself felt like it lasted a minute however i was in the clinic for about 3 hours. the only part of the procedure that was remotely uncomfortable for me was the needle they give you in your cervix for freezing, dialation, and the very end of the suction (only lasts maybe 10 seconds).
the best thing you can do after you have an abortion is surround yourself with loving, caring people. it is completely NORMAL to feel sad afterwards. remember, your hormones are going crazzzy and it takes a few days for your hormones to get back to normal. try renting some funny movies and just taking it easy for a few days. my bleeding was minimal for the first 3-5 days after my abortion, and then it got heavy. **keep pads on you always**. its been 2 weeks since my procedure and im still bleeding. im not having alot of cramping but when i do i pop a couple advils and put a heating pack on my lower back and abdomen. ALSO one thing ive noticed and this may be too much info lol is masterbation makes the cramping go away and puts your body in a completely relaxed state and you feel alot better but DO NOT put anything inside your vagina until you have been to your followup appointment and your doctor gives you the ok, doing so may result in infection and i dont know about you but i dont want anything else going on in there lol.
well this is very long so ill end this with a few last words
-dont be scared if you decide to go through with it
-dont beat yourself up over it after. believe that you made the right decision for you and God loves you not matter what
-understand that there are people who do not believe in abortion and try to keep the people that know to a minimum. *i made the mistake of confiding in someone i considered a friend and it was thrown in my face*
-remember too, you do not have to justify yourself or your choices to ANYONE
-LAST BUT NOT LEAST
- do not let anyone pressure you into doing it if it is not what you truly want to do. if you are truly against abortion, there is always adoption. if you are in a relationship and your bf does not want you to keep it, dont do it out of fear he will leave you. i have to admit my bfs opinion was a huge influence on my decision and our relationship has been extremely rocky since the procedure.
if you need more advice or just want someone to talk to and listen to you you are more than welcome to contact me at _[removed]_
best of luck xoxoxox
When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but
merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this
sentence... 'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God
will not protect you.'
here we go,
august 25,2008 i found out i was pregnant. september 19,2008 i had an abortion i was 7 weeks pregnant. although i dont regret my abortion because i feel that it was a learning experience and it made me realise just what it takes to be a mother. i want to be able to give my baby everything he/she deserves and being 19 years old i just dont have everything. i want to be out of my parents place, with a great guy (my bf DID NOT want me to have it) who actually wants to be a part of our childs life, and i want to be ready both financially and mentally.everything just happened all at once and i was faced with a million decisions and questions and concerns. it was just wayy to much for me to handle, so i made the decision.
my advice to anyone who is facing the same situation as i did would be to do ALL YOUR RESEARCH. look at what your province/state can offer you as a single mother or for financial aid. i was too scared to look for help when i wanted to and now im stuck. getting an abortion is something you can never take back. some women deal with it fairly ok, for some it destroys them, and for some they just go back to normal as if nothings happened. and DO NOT listen to those crazy stories that are on the internet. i know that if your thinking about abortion youll be googling something like "does getting an abortion hurt alot". the truth is (for me) not at all. the procedure itself felt like it lasted a minute however i was in the clinic for about 3 hours. the only part of the procedure that was remotely uncomfortable for me was the needle they give you in your cervix for freezing, dialation, and the very end of the suction (only lasts maybe 10 seconds).
the best thing you can do after you have an abortion is surround yourself with loving, caring people. it is completely NORMAL to feel sad afterwards. remember, your hormones are going crazzzy and it takes a few days for your hormones to get back to normal. try renting some funny movies and just taking it easy for a few days. my bleeding was minimal for the first 3-5 days after my abortion, and then it got heavy. **keep pads on you always**. its been 2 weeks since my procedure and im still bleeding. im not having alot of cramping but when i do i pop a couple advils and put a heating pack on my lower back and abdomen. ALSO one thing ive noticed and this may be too much info lol is masterbation makes the cramping go away and puts your body in a completely relaxed state and you feel alot better but DO NOT put anything inside your vagina until you have been to your followup appointment and your doctor gives you the ok, doing so may result in infection and i dont know about you but i dont want anything else going on in there lol.
well this is very long so ill end this with a few last words
-dont be scared if you decide to go through with it
-dont beat yourself up over it after. believe that you made the right decision for you and God loves you not matter what
-understand that there are people who do not believe in abortion and try to keep the people that know to a minimum. *i made the mistake of confiding in someone i considered a friend and it was thrown in my face*
-remember too, you do not have to justify yourself or your choices to ANYONE
-LAST BUT NOT LEAST
- do not let anyone pressure you into doing it if it is not what you truly want to do. if you are truly against abortion, there is always adoption. if you are in a relationship and your bf does not want you to keep it, dont do it out of fear he will leave you. i have to admit my bfs opinion was a huge influence on my decision and our relationship has been extremely rocky since the procedure.
if you need more advice or just want someone to talk to and listen to you you are more than welcome to contact me at _[removed]_
best of luck xoxoxox
When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but
merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this
sentence... 'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God
will not protect you.'
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Im only 20 years and I am no where near financially stable and even though I want to keep to this child, I know that the most responsible thing to do is to get an abortion. But thank you soo much for posting this because it has helped me calm down and worry less about the procedure.
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It seems like you are very content with your decision, but I would remind everyone reading your story that you are only two weeks out. Regret often doesn't hit immediately. It is normal to feel regret, but weight your options carefully. Like you said, abortion is not something you can ever take back. One of the individuals who commented mentioned abortion being the most responsible thing. Why not consider adoption? It changes so many lives for the better, including your own.
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this site gave me a relief of what i've done. i know that's wrong but i didn't have any option.
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True, regret doesn't hit immediately nor do the feelings that come along with it. I am 5.5 weeks out from having my abortion and it has been pure hell. No one told me that pregnancy tests still come up positive up to 8 weeks after, i have been torturing myself with taking up to 4 pregnancy tests a day. I still have not grieved over my loss. No one told me that I might have to have the doctor help me out with removing left over tissue (yes, you can have an abortion and have it not be complete). No one told me that my period would come and bleed for two damn weeks. No one told me that it literally takes a long time for your body to heal naturally. No one told me that the physical toll an abortion takes on your body is a pretty big deal. My advice- ask as many questions as you possibly can to get ALL your knowledge on this process. No one told me about the waiting, I thought that it was going to be over with in a few days or so. Not the case. This nightmare has cost me my happiness, my inner peace, relationships, and almost my job. Please consider all aspects before you do like I did and just immediately have an abortion asap.
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