I'm going to be perfectly honest and it's killing me. To be honest I'm kind of a late developer, in a way. I'm 15 and I only started masturbating just before my 15th birthday, so about 13 months ago. This isn't a problem and it goes well. However, the glans of my penis is really sensitive, is this because of how short I've been masturbating? The main problem is, though, that I met a girl in June and we're dating now. I told her that I received oral once at a party, which is lies, because I didn't know what she'd think if I hadn't.. I think she's willing to give head but I'm extremely scared because my penis head is sensitive and the foreskin won't retract all the way. I
Is this normal and does my glans have to be exposed to receive oral? Please respond because I've been perfectly honest and I'm afraid to death.
Thanks in advance.
The penile glans can be sensitive, just as can the clitoral glans for a girl. It is not an insurmountable problem. Any considerate girl will adjust accordingly. But be honest with her. Don't lie. Having limited sexual activity is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact she might be pleased you are her first. If she is willing to give you oral, you must be prepared to give her oral. You will both need to be guided by each other as to what you like and don't like. Everyone is different, and you need to get to know and respect each other.
I don't even know if I can tell her the truth about it now in case the trust is gone..
That is a risk, but one that I think you need to take. If you owning up to your mistake she is more likely to trust you more, but if she rejects you, then the relationship is likely to fail anyway. Tell her your reasons honestly, but don't try to excuse yourself. If you don't tell her, when the truth eventually comes out, it will be much harder. Meanwhile you will have to cover up with more lies."Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practise to deceive!" (Sir Walter Scott).
How will you react to questions like: "Is this better than your party girl?"; "Did you give her oral as well?". I don't just mean "what will you say", but "what subliminal messages will you give out through facial expression and general body language?"
Before receiving oral, I suggest you try and stretch your foreskin so that it fully retracts so that you can ensure your penis is scrupulously clean. The build-up of smegma could be a problem.
Take things slowly. Get to know her as a person first - her hopes and fears, interests, joys and delights &c. Support her in every way.
I was perhaps thinking that I could tell her the last girl didn't exactly pull the foreskin back all the way so it was okay that way. I don't know how that would work though.
Why would you tell her that?
"the last girl" sounds like the last of a number of girls!
You are now finding out how you have to compound the lie to try to give credence to that first lie. It won't work. It is best to be honest.
How are you planning to keep sufficiently clean without full retraction?
That's a very good point.
And to be honest, I don't know. I've been worried about it for ages and have been afraid to consult anybody about it.
Can you ask a health professional? Or a parent?
My usual feeling about anyone who spends time telling me how honest they are is that they are lying like a rug. You've already lied to a girl with whom you hope to be intimate.
Having said that if you do get to the point where she is willing to give you oral you need to let her know that your foreskin won't go back and that it hurts to touch your glans. Or you can just let her go, suck up the pain, and learn to like it. By the time you get to where she pulls your foreskin back to lick your glans it may not be very sensitive at all. At least not until after it's all over.
To get rid of the sensitivity you need to skin it back and touch it a lot or let her touch it a lot because that's more fun. Sort of like bare it and bear it. It and you will get used to it being touched and it will be much more enjoyable.
SOMETIMES GILS COULD BE RUDES, SHE COULD HURT YOUR FORESKIN, DURING ORAL SEX YOUR PENIS HEAD MUST BE EXPOSED AND YOU COULD FEEL A VERY HARD PAIN. I SUGGEST YOU WAIT AT LEAST 2 YEARS TILL YOUR FORESKIN BE ABLE TO RETRACT AND YOUR GLANS LOSE SENSIBILITY. ARE YOU THROUGH PUBERTY OR NOT YET?
DO YOU LIKE TO MASTURBATE?
I told her about the problem with the foreskin and glans and she understands fully and we agreed to work to each other's likes and dislikes. However, to anyone who has received oral, is the sensitivity as bad as it feels when you touch it first? And will it be sensitive when receiving oral or will it feel good?
The sensitivity seems to be much less of a problem during sex, vaginal or oral. It is most sensitive when you are touching it. I don't even remember it being much of a problem when my girl was giving me hand jobs all day. I think the pleasure of her touch, in whatever way, just over rode the sensitivity.
During oral, the pain is similar at the pain when you touch it, in my case it is more intense. :( Be careful please.