after an abortion do your breasts get smaller?

I had an abortion at 18 weeks, and I'm finding it very hard to come to terms with this, Inside I felt like something wasn't right with the baby from the beginning, but I only had my "motherly instincts" to go with on that one, but I had an abortion because I am 19 with no job haven't finished college yet, and I felt that bringing a baby into the world right now, was the wrong thing too do because I believe my child deserves all the love and attention that I can give which would of been nearly impossible for me to do at this age, i simply couldn't look after a baby at this age and it took me a long time... Of very hard thinking, tears, confusion... Not being able to accept the fact that at the end of the day, an abortion was best for both of us, I didn't want to accept that, but it was practically my only option. Adoption was not in the question, my family had said that they could never let a family member go and never be seen again, and I'm sure after labour I would never be able to let my child go, I'm struggling now with the fact that it's gone, I keep crying... Telling my mum I need to find it, I feel like I need to keep it safe, it must be scared, I'm a horrible person, I feel like it's a missing child and I'm never going to have that empty space filled... I loved my baby with all of my heart, and that's why I did what I did, he or she will be getting the life they deserve, and the love they deserve up in heaven with god and my grandad, and one day I will join them and be able to see him or her in a situation that is right for us both. I couldn't have a baby at this age, I want to give my children everything, and I was afraid of having the baby and resenting it, and eventually it resenting me for not being able to give it the stuff it wanted, I couldn't love a baby right now as much as I could in the future when I have a good job and the right mind set, I wasn't prepared for a baby, I miss it with all of my heart and I tell it I'm sorry every night before I go to sleep, they will always be my number one, many people won't understand this because they are too consumed on religion and how getting abortion is the wrong thing too do and telling people "god will hate you". That's not the case, god loves me, god is proud of me making such a hard decision, I believe in god, and I believe that he is there for me when I need him, and I believe if I was meant to have a baby, then I wouldn't of even considered abortion and I wouldn't of been able to go through with it, so it happened for a reason and god made it happen for a reason, because if it wasn't meant to happen god wouldn't of let it happen. Just like when people have illnesses... If they weren't meant to have illnesses then god wouldn't let them, god wanted my baby in heaven with him, if he didn't then he wouldn't of let me abort it. I feel horrible guilt and I will never ever be able to forget about this and I will never be fully complete but I will be able to get an amazing education and a good job and one day be able to give a baby the love and financial support it deserves.

Please go have your religious beliefs and talks elsewhere. I also encourage this to people who think their doing well with defending others for going through abortion. This isn't fb or a social media trend where ppl appreciate or care for your opinions so please A) get a life and stop searching for websites to bash ppl on your religious views and B) ppl who think their doing well by arguing with them but aren't doing any good at all. Kindly p*****f.

Wow that christian woman is abit overboard. i had an abortion at 18 weeks and i was raped what does that mean im disgusting too ? Whats disgusting is when people judge others for their own lifes decisions. were not affecting you so get over it ! we make these decisions for the best interest of our selves and the baby. its not an easy one so people shouldnt be judging us for it. you dont know our circumstances so you have no right to be judging other people.

Thankyou so much for saying this. I completely agree with you i just needed a confirmation that I am doing the right thing since I cannot financially support my baby and I don't have family on my side of my fiancees side (epic christian conservatives) and we both feel this way, even though this goes against his background and beliefs.

That's a straight up lie. Abortion ends life. Ending life is murder. Especially ending the life of a innocent being. God said He knew us before we were born. You think He stops when the baby is in the womb? If you don't repent of that sin, you will go Hell. And repenting me asking for forgiveness, and NEVER doing that again. And please hold that nonsense about Him creating that opportunity, because He didn't. Why wold He create something, that is intended to end life or sin? God is perfect and sinless. Look, we have the opportunity for drugs, and stripclubs but you honestly think He created that, or condoned that? Nuh-uh. It was created by Satan. The King of lies. And unfortunately sweetheart he as you deceived.

God forgives 70x7.

Hi, I had an abortion two days ago because the baby would not have survived and was also very dangerous to my health. I was 17 weeks, but to day I started to get tender and swelling in my breast. It is quite uncomphterable and I want to know the best way to stop the swelling and pain without going to the doctors

Everyone's choice to have an abortion or not. I have fallen pregnant and I would be 42yrs when I would give birth and my husband would be 59yrs. We have two children already and we both feel we are now to old to have a third child - we did not come to this decision lightly and are both very upset at the choice we have to make it is a life we have created and we both love children but unfortunately life has dealt us an impossible card. We now have to live with this decision for the rest of our lives. Abortion is not an easy option. It's one of the most difficult things we will ever do.

I just think it's sad people having abortions. If you don't want kids than don't have sex! Not my place to judge but you are killing a human being.

I understand that you may not agree but let me just tell you my story... Weather you care or not it doesn't matter but maybe this will help someone else! I had an abortion 3 days ago, I was 16 weeks and 2 days. My Husband and I thought we were ready to have a child and grow our family but we later knew we very much are not ready for a child to be brought into this world! If that is selfish of me fine that is your opinion which you are intitled to! We as a couple are not financially ready and my husband is not emotionally ready at all! We both decided that it was the best thing not only for us but for our child as well! I have thought about everything possible I could have done before thinking about getting an abortion. I thought I can keep my child and divorce my husband but I couldn't do that because I love my husband, I could keep the baby and let us all suffer my marriage would be torn and the baby would have two parents that constantly fight over money and things that a baby shouldn't have to see! I could give my child up for adoption (this is what everyone one what's) but this is probably the biggest reason I made my decision to do what I did, I have a friend who was adopted a few days after he was born he grew up with his parents and later found out that his birth mother gave him up for adoption but kept his two sisters. Now think to yourself how would you react knowing you were given away but your sisters were kept.... Kinda heartbreaking to think abkut! I couldn't live with myself knowing I have my child to someone else to raise as their own and then later on when I was ready for a child to keep that one while my first born was with another family instead of with me! I would rather go through what I am now then to know that I made my child think I never loved or wanted them when that's all I ever wanted! I made my decision after thinking long and hard how it will effect everything in my life! Please if you don't agree keep it to yourself some of the women here honestly just need a safe place to talk about how they are feeling or ask questions they don't understand having something like this be said just makes it harder for them to feel like they have a safe place to go!

massage. but u may need to see doc anyway

Unfortunately milking them caused you to start more production. A woman will continue yo produce milk until milking ends. You can keep producing for years if u milk or feed. U MUST stop and not stimulate them in ANY way in order to stop production. It is painful and a couple weeks at the most but EVERY woman goes thru it whether they give birth or have an abortion it is natural when you quit/don't start breastfeeding. Stop milking or you will keep producing.I made the same mistake. Thank god my mom corrected me and they dropped after a week and a half since I dropped milking. But it would've been shorter if I never started. It only makes it worse.

I think you should not have abortion after 12 weeks, anything before is OK... But after 12 weeks it is a baby.. X

Thank you!!! You could not have said it any better!

The hardness is your milk "ducts" that were produced inside the breast it's completely normal