So me and my partner are going away on vacation to London soon, but we've been arguing quite a lot recently over petty things. We're only staying the night...and as stupid as it sounds...we're arguing over her choice of clothes.
Now, I was initially intending on having a nice romantic meal and then later on hitting it off in the hotel room - however when she wears certain things I become less attracted to her. She has a thing for being a Skinhead, and given she doesn't dress much like one around me (since she know how much of a turn off it is for me), she wants to go to London in her skin gear. The problem is I don't find it remotely attractive..at all.
Just like some people may not like the idea of their parter gaining weight..it may turn them off of wanting sex with him/her. Yes, maybe this is low of me, but to each their own. If we have photos taken or be seen together, I don't like the idea of her being dressed as a Skin around me....I just really don't find it attractive - and I never 'fell' for her when she was like this, she was a normal girl before but now she's evolved into this phase and it is a real turn off.
How am I supposed to be happy with her that day if I'm not remotely attracted to her? What about the sex?
Hi Guest,
In a relationship compromise is necessary. I do think it unreasonable of her to insist upon dressing in a manner which she knows you don't like on this occasion. It's not like you go to London every day for vacation and you have limited time there.
Tell her you'd rather go somewhere else where she can dress up as a Skin.
Really, if your big concern is the sex you have other problems within your relationship.
Good luck.