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How can u have anal sex without feeling the pain?

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It isnt possible if u are a 1st timer sry 
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Anal sex is something that needs to be taken SLOWLY.  First, if you don't practice kegels daily, I'd strongly suggest that you begin.  This exercises your PC (pubococcygeal) muscle that runs from your anus to the tip of your urethra.  Just from where this muscle is located you get some idea HOW VITALLY IMPORTANT IT IS IN SEX.  BOTH MEN AND WOMEN NEED TO DO KEGELS TWICE A DAY; ONCE IN THE MORNING AND ONCE IN THE EVENING.  You can do them almost anywhere, so they are easy.  You can do them sitting at your desk, standing on the subway, or watching TV.  (A kegel is performed by simply bearing down on your anal ring.... i.e. closing your rear hole and then relaxing it.  Close it, keep it closed for a couple seconds and then release it.  I suggest to my clients doing 100 per session in sets of 10 to 20....... once in the morning and once at night.  If this is too many then start with 40 or 60.  DON'T RUSH.  TAKE YOUR TIME.  Also when you urinate, clamp down and STOP THE FLOW COMPLETELY, THEN RELAX AND START IT AGAIN, THEN CLAMP DOWN AND STOP THE FLOW ETC.  STOP AND START THE FLOW OF URINE AS MANY TIMES AS POSSIBLE.

WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T BE ROUGH.  DO NOT OVERDO THE PRESSURE.  DON'T TRY TO HERNIATE YOURSELF.  JUST OPEN AND CLOSE YOUR ANUS AS I DESCRIBE.  THE POINT IS SIMPLY TO CLOSE IT AND THEN OPEN IT; OR WHEN PEEING TO STOP AND START, STOP AND START.  IT SHOULD FEEL OKAY, WITH NO PAIN.  (Your goal is to gradually increase to 300 per session in a month, then 400 per session in two to three months, and finally to 500 in the morning and 500 in the evening by the end of four to five months.)

WHEN I TALK ABOUT SEX AND MASTURBATION I'LL GIVE YOU A LIST OF BENEFITS FROM DOING KEGELS.  THEY ARE AMAZING FOR MEN AND WOMEN............ GUYS, THEY'LL ENCOURAGE YOUR PENIS TO GROW....... TO GET HARDER DURING ERECTION...... AND FOR YOU TO SHOOT WHEN YOU EJACULATE (MOST MALE PORN STARS DO KEGELS TO GET LARGER, HARDER, AND SO THAT THEY SHOOT UP TO THEIR CHINS, INSTEAD OF DRIBBLING INTO THEIR PUBIC HAIR.  MORE LATER.

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ONTO ANAL SEX

First you'll want to clean yourself out with an enema, both so your rectum is clean and also to partially open your anus.  Rinse yourself with warm water.  Some people add a bit of MILD SOAP...... no perfumed soap...... no harsh soap........ Ivory Soap or Glycerin soap is a good example.  Fill an enema bag or enema bulb with warm soapy water, insert the plastic tip into your rectum, through your anal ring, and either release the water from the bag or push it in SLOWLY, pressing on the bulb.  Hold it inside for three to five minutes and then sit on the toilet, and release it.  Repeat till the water runs clear.

With anal sex DO NOT BEGIN BY TRYING TO INSERT THE PENISStart by lubricating a finger with lots of KY Jelly or another super slick lube and gradually insert that........... GRADUALLY!!   Once that feels comfortable you'll want to move the finer in and out slowly, all the way to the last knuckle......... in and out till that FEELS COMFORTABLE.  If it hurts you're going too fast and/or trying for too much finger too soon.  GIVE YOURSELF TIME!!! Once that feels comfortable you can BEGIN to add a second finger and slowly get used to the increase in size.  You may want to get comfortable with two fingers and then quit for a while.

You can start again later that day....... BEGINNING ALL OVER, or you may wish to wait a day.  (Waiting is NEVER a waste of time.  Each time you "practice" insertion etc. your sphincter gets a bit more used to these stretching exercises.  Ask a woman who has had three or four children if each time was like starting all over like the first child again....... OR if indeed her labor was shorter and her vagina stretched more easily each time.  Don't get discouraged if it takes you a few days to work yourself up to a small to medium dildo.  REMEMBER, A LARGE PART OF THIS PROCESS IS TO LEARN TO RELAX.  A GLASS OF WINE BEFORE EACH SESSION NEVER HURTS.  That first night with your partner, it might be a good idea to have a beer or some wine with dinner

You shouldn't feel any great residual pain after what I've described.  Keep doing your kegels and you shouldn't feel any post stretching exercise pain to speak of.  If you feel some muscular discomfort, try a hot bath.

You CAN CONTINUE that first session till you can accommodate three fingers, and then switch to a small to medium dildo.  When the size (fingers or dildo) you can fit without much discomfort, is equal in size to your man's penis you can try fitting in his WELL LUBRICATED equipment.

Tell him to GO SLOWLY and to STOP if you ask him to.  Unless you are in PAIN, it's better to stop for a moment here and there until you feel OK to go a bit further.  YOU MUST LEARN TO GUIDE HIM AND EXPLAIN THAT AS SOON AS YOU A FULLY AT EASE, YOU'LL LET HIM TAKE THE LEAD IF HE WANTS.

It may take one session of stretching, or it may take five, to get to the one where you'll give his penis a try.  Remember to CLEAN OUT YOUR RECTUM before having him try to enter you.  Fecal matter can be a major turn-off for a couple's first attempt at anal sex.

Follow these simple rules and you should be able to have an OK time, leading to a GOOD time, leading to a GREAT time, in no time:

1.  Get your rectum and colon clean........ and rinse out till the water runs fairly clear.

2.  GO SLOWLY................THIS IS BY FAR THE MOST IMPORTANT RULE......... IF IT HURTS STOP!!!  THEN, WHEN YOU ARE OK,YOU CAN      CONTINUE.  IF AT ANY POINT IT GETS TOO PAINFUL QUIT FOR THE DAY.  NEVER CONTINUE THROUGH REAL PAIN.  THIS IS WHY
     IT'S OFTEN BEST TO DO ALL THIS EARLY STRETCHING BY YOURSELF.  (THE SAME GOES FOR ORAL SEX AND WORKING PAST
     YOUR GAG REFLEX........ WHEN YOU WORK ALONE YOU CAN BE AS PATIENT AS NECESSARY FOR YOU, YOU, YOU.)

3.  USING THE TIP OF YOUR LITTLE FINGER OR YOUR INDEX FINGER APPLY LOTS OF LUBE...... A LITTLE AT A TIME, GOING A BIT         
     DEEPER EACH TIME TILL YOU ARE WELL LUBED AND HAVE MOST OF YOUR FINGER INSIDE YOUR RECTUM.

4.  SLOWLY WORK WITH THAT ONE FINGER UNTIL YOU CAN EASILY AND PAINLESSLY MOVE IT IN AND OUT OF YOUR RECTUM.......
     ALL THE WAY TO YOUR LAST KNUCKLE.

5.  GRADUALLY ADD A SECOND FINGER...... GO SLOWLY................ NEVER FORCE A FINGER OR A DILDO ETC. INTO YOUR RECTUM.


6.  WHEN YOU GET TO THE DAY YOU WANT TO TRY THE "REAL THING" EXPLAIN THE PROCESS AND THE RULES TO HIM.  MAKE SURE
     HE FULLY UNDERSTANDS (BEAR IN MIND THAT HE'LL BE EXCITED AT THIS NEW ADDITION TO YOUR "COUPLES REPERTOIRE," SO
     MAKE SURE HE KEEPS HIS EAGERNESS IN CHECK, AND IF YOU TELL HIM TO "STOP" HE MUST BE READY TO DO JUST THAT.  YOU
     NEED TO ASK YOURSELF, IF THIS HAPPENS, DO YOU WANT HIM TO STOP AND STAY PUT TILL YOU'RE READY TO GO ON...... OR.....
     IF YOU WANT HIM TO PULL OUT AND START OVER IN A WHILE OR WAIT UNTIL TOMORROW.  (IF YOU DECIDE YOU WANT TO WAIT
     TILL TOMORROW, I'D STRONGLY SUGGEST THAT YOU ASK HIM TO REVERT TO VAGINAL SEX, ASSURING HIM THAT YOU'LL GIVE
     ANAL ANOTHER TRY IN A DAY OR TWO....... i.e. let him know you tried a bit too soon, BUT you will continue to prepare yourself
     for his mighty manhood

That ought to do it.















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