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my boyfriend and i have been experimenting with anal sex. we have tried it many times, i try very hard to enjoy it, but end up not being able to take the discomfort. we use a lot of lube, and he is very patient, as soon as he goes and inch in, i can feel discomfort in my whole body, and we end up not going through with it. is there a certain position, or procedure that im just not getting??...any answers??...help!

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Well, it is important in anal sex to make the anal muscle ready to receive the penis. This can be done by massaging the anal opening (in a romantic way) while kissing and hugging. Tongue massage is also very god for relaxing the anal muscle but you need to make sure you have washed the area very well because this is the easiest way to catch bacteria.
During the massage, lubrication should be used. Once he is at the entrance, he should stop there and just slightly pushing in while you get accustomed. Then you can be the done who can decide when to go further in by moving.
To make you interested and want the same thing, his hand should constantly be on your clitoris to keep you excited and eager for anal. This is very important.

There are nerve endings in the anus and you could come from anal sex, you just need the right approach. Enjoy!
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Anal sex is great. Make sure you masturbate yourself to the point of orgasm before you allow your boyfriend to insert his penis in your anus. The lubrication from masturbating yourself will help to loosen up your anal muscle so he can insert his penis in you without you feeling much pain.
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I find that the spooning position is comfortable for anal sex.
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or any position that allows you to relax completely
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How do u do the "spooning position" ?
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first lay on your right side and him one his put your left leg over his left now this sounds gross but coming for one of the top 5 porn stars jenna jameson spit not lube and as far as masterbating to a orgsam point not the best way have him go down on you for just a little bit to get you worked up then stop let him rub you while he eases in this only hurts for a second then you are so worked up and it feels so good you are baggin for it screaming at the top of your lungs and by the way you will bleed a little and it will burt the next day but keep trying wait about 3 to 4 days before trying agian but it feels great everyone i tell this to love anal
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No matter what any porn star says, they are getting paid to be as dirty as you want them to be. Spit is no match for lube. Spit absorbs into the skin very quickly and unless you enjoy being dehydrated and stopping to hock loogies on your partner's chocolate starfish every 5 seconds, like they do in porn, then invest in some store-brand KY and leave it by the bed. When that starts to get sticky, and believe me it takes a long time, then yes a drip of saliva will re-activate its slipperiness. But even 100% pure olive oil is better than spit.
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Im 15 and i unno if they sell lube to 15 yo and even if they do sell it id be too embarrassed to go buy it ... when i had sex my bf used one of those condoms that have no lube so we had to use our spit and i would like to know if its bad to use spit and if it is is there anything around the house that i can use and wont harm me in anyway... Is baby oil okay ?
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First of all, don't be afraid to buy K-Y. It is commonly used as a sexual lubricant, but it is a medical lubricant first. It is something that no medicine cabinet should be without. K-Y can also used as a thinner for acrylic paints and is used in movie special effects to create anything that need to be slimy.

If you are embarrassed why you buy it, people are going to know why you're buying it, but they won't care very much, if at all. If you are confident and nonchalant, there is no way for them to be sure that it is going to be used for a sexual purpose.

And no, they won't card you. It is an over-the-counter personal lubricant, not beer. They won't care how old you are.

Baby Oil will work and won't harm you (unless you're allergic) but it is petroleum based, meaning that it will weaken condoms.
It is a good idea to use condoms for anal sex, since it is easy to transmit many diseases this way and fecal bacteria in the urethra can lead to urinary tract infections.

As for the anal sex issue, I recommend that you practice when you are alone. If your fingernails are cut short, slowly and gently penetrate yourself with a finger and relax your sphincter. When you are able to do that comfortably, start moving your finger in and out while keeping your sphincter relaxed. When you can do that comfortably, add a second finger. Then add a third. When you can take three fingers without pain, you should be able to take a penis. Do not to this if you have long fingernails. If you think buying K-Y is embarrassing, there is nothing quite like going to the emergency room with a perforated rectum.

Before anal with your boyfriend, give yourself an enema. This isn't entirely necessary, but cleaning yourself back there can make it easier and safer. You'll have more free space, and there will be less chance of your fecal bacteria getting into his urinary tract.
If you're both comfortable with it, you might want to have him participate in this as part of a foreplay ritual.

He should start by gently massaging your anus with a lubricated finger, massaging the outside until you relax enough that penetration becomes easy. Once you accept one finger, without discomfort, he should add a second, and then a third, slowly. Anal sex should never be painful for the recipient. When your open and relaxed, able to take three of his fingers comfortably, then he can try his penis, just as gently and just as slowly.

For extra safety and easier cleanup, you might consider using latex glove or a condom when either you or your partner is using fingers on your anus (or on his anus).

Also, make sure to remind him that the human rectum is curved. He can only penetrate so deeply without hitting the wall at that curve, and he won't be able to make his penis turn or straighten your intestine, no matter how hard he tries. Pressing against this with a significant amount of force will be painful. He should penetrate gently at first and if he reaches a point where is is obstructed from penetrating further he should not press the issue. That is probably the back wall of your rectum and that would be exactly as far as he can penetrate without hurting you. He shouldn't try to push in any farther.

Also, it is very important that you never go from anal to vaginal without cleaning up (either throughly washing with warm water and soap or changing condoms). Fecal bacteria in the vagina is a very bad thing.
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