hi there,

to get straight to the problem, i get very anxious when meeting new men...but not so much socially in a busy environment as there i can talk to strangers all night...it's when i am meeting someone on the pretense of getting to know them more than just a 'friend'...

my anxiety comes in the form of feeling sick...like butterflies gone wrong, this effects my eating as i lose appetite, after a few days this is not very good for my physical health either.

i feel like i'm never going to meet anyone unless i put it all on the line straight away and hope the other person doesn't get bored of all the tears and self loathing and sickness that comes along with the anxiety of meeting up with them until i know them...then it will all be okay...as if...

once i get to know a guy on the few times i have gone on a second date...i feel less anxious, and then lose the anxiety as soon as i realise i don't like them that much...but the way i am going at the moment i can't do it to myself anymore, it makes me feel so low and i don't know how to cope.

i take anti depressants and have been for about 5 years, this is due to previous bowts of severe anxiety to do with my previous job...i now don't do that any more due to how ill it made me.

any answers apart from buy a cat??

i joke but this is ruining my life