I am a 47 year old women. I dont have sex often, because I havent been dating much. I have recently started dating. When we decided to have intercourse, I started bleeding. This has never happened before. I am scared and he wont have sex with me again, stating he is scared. Any idea whats going on with me. Please help.
How well lubricated were you and how tight are you?
How big is he?
It sounds like you might have been tight and dry. When you are all revved up your brain releases endorphins that prevent you from feeling much pain, if any. If the two of your are close enough to try to work this out together you might have him try inserting a finger (well lubricated) then two, to see what happens. Or try using something else with a condom on it, like a hot dog or something that would be about the same size as his penis. He can then watch what's happening as he inserts it and you can tell him what it feels like as he does it. It needs to slide in easily without dragging on the sides or hurting you.
If you aren't comfortable asking him to do this, you can do it yourself.
I normally dont have to use any lubricates. My body does well on its own. I am a very sexual person. He is thicker than any other gentleman I have been with. I too thought it was because I was tight because I have not been sexually active in quite a while. You think there is any chance it will happen again?
This has made me very nervous, and him as well is nervous. Thank you for your help.