My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few years and I really love him, he loves me and we started having sex about a year ago - November 14, 2011 to be exact! Thing is that I am really tiny like 5'2" 100 pounds, he is bigger like over 6 feet tall and like 240 pounds. I have played with my older sisters toys before and really have a hard time taking some of the bigger and longer toys. My boyfriends penis is like 8.5 inches and like my hands cant get all the way around it when I play with him, so its pretty thick.
When we have sex he is hitting the back of my cervix, I can feel it bump into it. He is older and more experienced than me so he is good at lasting a long time. This is good for me because he always makes sure I orgasm a few times before he cums. He is always so nice to me, treats me well, is nice to my friends buys me gifts and stuff. The problem is that he is so big that it hurts after a while.
When we make love there is this position I get in where my butt is in the air and it gives him a direct shot to my g-spot, so its our favorite position. In this position he can really get his penis in deep and he likes to talk dirty and one of the things he likes to say is that he loves it when he is "balls deep in my p***y". I like dirty talk too so its not too alarming, and I love it when we are making love and he is happy, because he makes me so happy myself.
But I have to ask the other girls out there. How can I make sex with my man less painful? I don't want to tell him that my p***y hurts when he hits my cervix. I ask the ladies, am I lucky to have such a big penis in there? I feel lucky to have him and I just want to know if I can love sex more than I do now?
After reading some other posts I thought it was important to tell you that I have no issues with blowjobs, my man taught me how to deep-throat so don't worry about that. Also we began having anal sex a few weeks ago and it has been, even with his size - completely painless (He has been really patient with me and I read some tips from other posters here on how to make it go good). Lastly my guy is 25, I just turned 17. He was my neighbor growing up so don't think he was preying on me, I love him, my family is in love with him too (yes my parents know we are sleeping together) and he is a great guy - no need to talk me out of being with him.
dont know if you are still looking for some help. my guy too is really big and I am petite as well. What I read is that the positioning was difficult for you. What I hear is that he likes to push it in deep and that when he does it, it hurts. I am assuming you have told him about this, then again I didnt hear you say that. Have you told him how much it hurts? yes I love pleasing my guy and sure it still hurts from time to time. the position you described is an AWESOME position for me too - really works my gspot...Call me old fashioned or something but I too like to please him - so even if I have to not always be completely lost in lust, to take some of the pain from his penis ramming my cervix - I dont mind it.
on the other hand after telling him about the pain he has been more proactive in his extending the foreplay, which leads me to the basis for my response. I have found my cervix retracts some when we are working up to sex, rather than just jumping into it. If your guy can bring you off a couple times too, before sex it helps too - at least with me.
I second the anal sex statement too, it really is something else isnt it?
lastly it sounded like you needed to defend the age difference. Its great that you have your parents permissoon, dating someone who is older is only creepy if your family and friends think so. It sounds like you have that taken care of. Enjoy sex, enjoy your relationship.
I would say take it slower if it's starting to hurt and use lots of lubrication and make sure your clitorus is getting enough love. When I'm not arroused enough or getting dry the sex will start to hurt a bit. Maybe before sex, start with some smaller toys and work up to your boyfriend's size? If he's slamming into your cervix, why not tease him by using your hands to stop his penis from entering all the way. I've done this to my boyfriend and it drives both of us crazy and builds the pleasure! If you are relaxed, well lubed, and thoroughly arroused I think you will be surprised what your body can take. ;D Good luck!
My girlfriend is 5'1" and I am 8.25" long and 5.25" around, so we have similar dimensions between us that petite_flower and her boyfriend have. It is a very rare combination, and fully of potential pleasure.
The trick to avoid banging on her cervix and causing her pain is to *not* stroke in and out. Instead, we achieve deep penetration, then I simply press into the back wall and release, putting a great deal of pressure on the glans and back through the shaft of my penis, but moving only a half inch or so.
There is a space up and behind the cervix called the posterior fornix. It feels like a little pouch to the man if he is long enough to get in there, which your boyfriend obviously is. We first get her very excited and wet with lots of foreplay, so her vagina tents and her cervix pulls up and away from her vagina, making more space.
We then achieve very deep penetration into the posterior fornix with missionary and cowgirl. To get in, I gently slide about four inches into her very gradually. Then I bring my body forward and up until she is facing my chest. This causes my penis to pivot down in her vagina, entering more horizontally rather than at an angle, and the glans slips under the cervix. Pushing forward then puts the penis up into the posterior fornix. The man should gradually push forward until it feels like no more will fit, then use the press and release motion described earlier.
The motion maintains continuous contact with the cervix and ends up rocking it gently from the side rather than banging on it. No pain. And it causes a continuous series of orgasms for her. The motion is not overly stimulating for me, and leads to a very long edging session, where I stay close to orgasm while she has multiples to exhaustion. We can do this for hours before I finally have a huge orgasm. Be prepared with a washcloth, this technique results in very large ejaculations. This is literally the best sex either of us has ever had.
You two are very fortunate to be in a tiny / huge sexual relationship. Try deep penetration, no stroking, and rocking the cervix. You will be blown away by how good it is for both of you.