I broke up with my alcoholic boyfriend and still miss him terribly. We dated 1/1/2 years and for the first year it was pretty much great. We both did drink but it wasn't until he started really drinking to excess that it imploded. I couldn't/didn't want to keep up with his drinking so let him continue until he passed out. Talk about a romance buster! Before you know it we were not sleeping in the same bed...he either passed out on the couch or slept in the other bedroom because of his snoring. He is depressed, anxious and feels like nothing goes right for him. I tried my best to raise his spirits and keep him positive. His emotional/verbal abuse was opposite of what you ususally think about. He talked down about himself and put himself down..then I brought him back up. (tried too) He said things like I would be in a better place without him, he was just pulling me down. I finally broke up with him for the 5th time in August. Withink weeks he is dating someone else and made the remark "she is better suited for him and gets him better". Seriously??? All I can think is she has no idea who and what she is dating. It still hurts like Hell though. I loved him and he broke my heart.
You are perfectly normal to feel this way. I felt this way. I lived with my alcoholic boyfriend for two years and 50% of the time was pleasure and the other half pure hell. I came to a point when I was tired of not having peace of mind. Plus he made I lot of irresponsible financial decisions and blew a lot of money on booze and alcohol. Furthermore, he would often loose items such as cell phones, house keys, his wallet on a normal basis from being so drunk and not focusing. I felt so free once I made the decision to let go. Even though it was emotionally painful, I will never go back to living a life in bondage. You deserve peace of mind. You didn't decide to drink - he did. It's his problem, so let him deal with it. Both of my grandfather's were drunks so I guess broke the family cycle of attracting alcoholic men. After my grandfather passed my grandmother said that after 50 years of marriage the only (emotional/mental) rest that she ever got was after my grandfather died. He put her through that much turmoil. I refuse to be like that. Get out and get out fast.
Get out fast!
I will pray for you if you pray for me too as I am in the same situation
Reading all of these are helping me realize that I am not crazy. I have been dating my boyfriend since end of August, almost 6 months. This short amount of time has been a whirlwind of good and terrible. He tells me that I am a terrible parent and my child is the worst(My child is 6 yrs old). He has a daughter, but she was taken away from him because of his drinking. He says his daughter is such a great kid, because he is such a good parent and he wants to help with my son. He gets angry that my ex husband and I work together to make sure all of our son's needs are met. He wants to be the one to communicate with my ex and does not want me to have any contact with him. He gets angry if my ex comes inside the house when picking up my son. Obviously we argue about these things, because I think it's ridiculous. He says that me not cooperating forces him to drink. When we first met, he never led on that he had a drinking problem. I found this out in January when we returned from a trip to meet his family and daughter. My son and I were both sick with the flu for a week and he said that he drank because I didn't have time for him. He wanted me to leave my son with a sitter, so I could go spend time with him. He drank a liter of vodka, then was violently sick for the next few days and said I needed to take care of him since it was my fault he drank. I have been wanting to end things with him for a while now. The last time I tried, he made me think he was going to do something to himself. I stupidly took him back and when I wanted to talk about that comment, he said he never said that. He blew up at me yesterday, because I was not responding to his text quickly enough(I was in a meeting at work). I told him that I could not handle the up and down of this relationship anymore. He told me all kinds of terrible things about myself and my child through text and calls. Now this morning he sent a text like none of that ever happened. I have not been responding. I feel bad for him, but I have to do what's best for my child and myself.