I am a woman and am uncertain about breastfeeding. I always thought it was natural and the right thing to do but have always been turned off by the idea of it. At work some time ago I overheard women speaking about the joys of breastfeeding, which is fine but they took it to a sexual level. One said it felt better than sex with their husband. I thought that was totally disgusting and I thought other women would to, but some acted like it was normal and as if they agreed. My sister always had a bad time with it because it was painful for her. I think I may just milk and save however, I heard it is the right thing to bond with your baby. I think the pain is understandable, I am not fond of the other stimuli - It seems kind of wrong if this happens
Why would you feel it's wrong to get satisfaction from breast feeding? It should be a pleasant, actually wonderful, experience for you and your baby. How did you end up with a baby if you don't enjoy sex? Many women say they get a lot of satisfaction from it and some even experience an orgasm. Maybe that's why you like to have your lover play with and suck on your nipples during sex. My wife always wants me to work on her nipples with my tongue and suck on them as part of our love making.
It shouldn't be painful. If your sister found it so, did she find out why?
I think you need to look at it positively and go for it, never mind someone else's negative experience. The health benefits for your baby are also a big plus.
Thank you for your insight. I do enjoy sex and I also enjoy my nipples being played with and sucked during sex, I like it with my lover. The idea of sexual enjoyment during breastfeeding seems odd, I did not realize this would happen. My sister had a common issue which happens in some women but not all. I am not saying I wouldn't breastfeed for the other issue. I really want to bond with my baby and give nourishment as nature intended. I do not want to ask anybody about the sexual aspect of it, so I thought I would get others opinions thru this site. Thank you for your experience and advice.
I say do it and enjoy it and if it comes with benefits for you, enjoy those too. It's not unusual for nursing mothers to derive sexual pleasure during breast feeding from what I have read on other sites. I find a lot of angst from new mothers over their baby's foreskin and what to do about cleaning and retracting. Being the owner of one for many years I jump in to reassure them where I can. On those sites they also talk about how good it feels sometimes when they are breast feeding and many mention having orgasms. So I think it's certainly normal and nothing to feel ashamed about.
Personally I think it's great if you get some benefits like that.
When I was still single I was visiting a married friend. We were sitting at the kitchen table having a beer when his wife picked up the baby and lifted up her sweater and hooked him up. That was when breast feeding wasn't as common as today so I was a little surprised but what surprised me most was the feeling I had of it being just so right. I can't really describe how I felt but it certainly was NOT "oh boy I got to see her boobs". It was more like feeling included in a family.
Thanks again. Your input is really helpful. I think I am going to try to do some research on this subject. I did not find anything on this site about it. I would like to hear others reactions, good or bad. My friend did not breastfeed after hearing the woman at work talk about their sexual experience with breastfeeding. She found it unnatural that one would have an orgasm. Nobody ever told me about this before so now I am unsure. After my research, I am hoping to find some resolution. Your input was very helpful. Sorry to hear about your foreskin problems...I am not an expert in that field yet.