can stress cause birthcontrol to fail?

Stress doesn't cause BC to fail, BUT stress CAN cause it to fail!!!!!! I know that sounds nuts BUT IF you are so stressed out and overwhelmed you could forget to take your meds! Also the pill is only 99% effective when taken perfectly! So 1 out of every 100 women will get pregnant! A dear friend of mine became pregnant 3 times on the pill! It all depends on the timing and the hormones involved!

I know how you feel regarding the loss of you mom!!! My heart and hugs go out to you! The whole world keeps going on, and you are like "HEH!!! I've just lost my mom!!!" Yet you still have to get up and make the kids lunch, and cook dinner and do groceries! So my sympathies and congratulations! This WILL be hard for you - at the beginning anyway - that your mom isn't here, but I truly believe they are! Cyber hugs and support! Good luck and health - if you have any other questions ask away OK?

Thankyou so much for sharing that with me. I guess all that can be done now is to move forward.

It's hard, but yes! It sounds so cold doesn't it?! BUT I want you to think of it this way, with your mom passing a gift was given to you, so I think this MIGHT help you deal with the loss! Not that this baby is replacing your mom, but it's kind of like she IS still here - do you understand what I mean?

Other than everything else going on, have you had enough time to think about how you FEEL about this "surprise"?! Just know honey, I'm on here to help and counsel! So you can talk away - perhaps say things you can't say to anyone else! So IF you ever need a shoulder to cry on or some help I'm here OK? HUGS!!!

I know you mean well by your comments and or advice and I find what you say to be true. I am not sure what to do and know it will take some thinking. My situation is complicated but yet a part of me wants to have this child. I am 41 years old and my two boys are 24 and 21. I am not living with my boyfriend who is the father, I have been my moms care giver for the past 6 years and live in her house with my two boys. My moms death really hit me hard do to I found her and tried to revive her but she didnt make it. My youngest really took it hard and was close to doing something stupid. My boyfriend has no children but talks often about having a family. Although he has always been clear as to wanting to be married before he had children. He knows I have always wanted another child but im afraid to tell him because it will look like I planned this which I didnt. I work a non traditional line of work (heavy contruction) and am going to college to change careers. This past few months have been awful for me but now im afraid as to how to go about this especially telling him. I Love him but am afraid he will hate me for this, thinking I planned this. I know he is a good man who has always wanted to do the right thing, Get married, plan a baby and have a happy family. Now here I am screwing up what he had hoped for. Im really nervouse about telling him. I feel like just writing him a letter and leaving.

You know what honey?! He could be this solid guy that wanted to get married THEN have children, but he still had sex! I know that sounds harsh, but half the world wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for oops's!!! IF he truly loves you and knows exactly how devestated you have been through these last years and especially months he HAS to know that you would have never done this on purpose! IF he was to bring it up then just say "WHY would I do that with everything else going on!?" I don't think he will, It hink you are just SO sad and overwhelmed! When ALL this is going on, how in heavens name can you sort it all out by yourself!? You NEED to talk to him - one on one - and get his help and support, so you can muggle through all that has happened! This is TOO much for you to handle on your own honey! And IF and I really underline IF, he feels like he doesn't want any part of this, then there's your answer! Because the only person going through this right now is YOU! You are dealing with your moms loss, trying to change careers, dealing with your sons sadness, and now you are pregnant!!! That's a LOT for a couple never mind someone by themselves!

I know you are worried honey, but IF people never took that step forward and put their faith and trust in another human being, there would be a LOT of single lonely people in this world! You say your boyfriend wanted a particular order of things, WELL now he gets the same things just a little out of order!!!! ;-) The results are the same right?! What is the difference if you add 2 +3 or 3 +2 ? you still get 5!!! So it doesn't matter how you did it!

I totally get you wanting to leave! I have looked at Greyhound tickets more than I can say!! BUT that's what life is about isn't it, just stiking with it, with the hope that it will all end up being what it is supposed to be! So tell him honey, just you and him - no phone no kids no noise! And be open with him about how you feel he might react! He might be not that overjoyed, but if he has any sense of loyalty or an ounce of compassion the shock will turn into exctasy! And that's EXACTLY what you need right now - all of you actually - to look forward to something! And what better "thing" to look forward too that a beautiful baby?!

HUGS!! and I will keep my fingers crossed for you and sending you out all the support I can muster and strength!!!