my daughter is 3 1/2 years old she came home to me from her dads house a few months ago and told me she saw him and his wife having sex. she told me this after i caught her touching herself i wanted to know where she saw it and was just making sure nobody had touched her. she puts stuffed animals in between her legs her hands her blanket anything she can get ahold of. i catch her doing it alot she has done it today about 10 times she is in her room watching tv and doing that . when i caught her she was lying there watching tv and it looked like she was in a daze she has been doing this for awhile what is wrong with her i am scared she has been touched!!! is this a sign of molestation? and if so how do i ask her?
I would not be to concerned at the moment, maybe talk with your child about how often she does it because she does run the risk of irritating the sensitive areas of her body. But as far as abuse masturbation is a normal thing that usually begins in females between three and four years of life. Experiencing something like two people having sex, is a traumatizing experience, but it sounds to me like it made her curious (what was daddy doing and why) so she decided to experiment and has discovered what it was and how it felt so now she can't get enough. Like a child with a new toy they play with it a lot at first then gradually lose interest. She will probably slowly cut back as she gets older. I would keep a look out for other signs of sexual abuse just to be on the safe side however it is not something I would fret over. Just next time you catch her doing it try to tell her to be careful so she doesn’t give herself an infection or create a sore raw area. Also watch what she uses if she is using pillows and stuffed animals, that is okay they are soft. Children however will tend to experiment especially after witnessing someone having sex they will try to insert objects which can cause a lot of damage. So monitor what she is using if you ever catch her trying to insert anything really enforce that it is bad to protect her from really hurting herself. But as a whole it is normal and natural just try to be understanding and stress privacy and safety.
My daughter started masterbating about 2 months before kindergarden started. The first time her father and I noticed it she was sitting on the couch hugging her bear and sweating a lot. I was concerned she was sick and had a fever at first but then noticed she was moving back and foth with the bear. I confronted her about it and she told me that it was tickling her down there. I explained to her that she need to try not to do that and suggested using the restroom. A couple days later her father and I noticed her doing more and more I was concerned so I asked her how she new how to do it she said she didnt know. I asked her if someone had touched her or showed her how and she said no. Its definitly not abuse but as time has gone by she has gotten more and more frequent to the point that Im having to be called to the school. She cant seem to control it and Im thinking she might have higher than normal stimulation there. I did it when I was a child and I myself had a hard time controlling it I still to this day have high stimulation could this be something hereditary and how do I help my child to control it if redirecting is not working.?
I'm a bit late but it sounds like a problem at such a young age.