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I am being accused of being the father by a "suspectable pahological liar" (Heard from friends) pending DNA test results that im waiting on next week.

I had intercourse with her on August 12th and 13th, 2011. (No other days, based my recollection) Sex was 30 and 31 days before a September 12th conception date. I also believe she had her period on August 29th (or on about) based being with her that weekend, and her having cramps and what the due date calculator tells me.

I also know from a man that left me with her on September 3rd, 2011 at a bar @4am, who told me angrily "YES" that he slept with her. He lines up with her in a due date calculator. shes repeatedly denied his name is not who he said he is, and that she didnt sleept with him, and I’m the only guy she slept with after our august dates.

She claims thought she had "never had her period, and on two types of birth control, First depo short and then plan B while on depo shot. (the birth control sounds suspicious).I believe based on the dates, it is theoretically not mine.  This was told to both of us from a doctor on her 26 week ultrasound on February 27th of 2012. She ended up having the baby on May 30th, 2012. So if Im the father, she would of had a post-term 44 week baby (gestational age) and 42 week fetal age. This is 4 weeks longer then a normal pregnancy.

I hear there is a 10% chance that women have a post term pregnancy past the 42 week and I fall in the 44th week.

My question is ,

Do you know in your lifetime, if a doctor's 2nd Trimester conception date has ever been wrong by 30 and 31 days???? - I heard its usually 1-2 weeks off at the most

What are the chances I am the father and the DNA test resulting in me being not the father????? - Im awaiting results next week..

Please respond, thanks

Hi L,

IF she had a period around August 29th then it is unlikely you are the father but...

1.  It is unlikely she'd get pregnant by the other guy, assuming she had her period on 8/29, having sex on 9/3.  The timing is poor.  Normally she'd ovulate between days 11-16 of her cycle.  Sperm can survive about 5 days or up until about her day 10.  

2.  Most doctors base dates off of her last menstrual period.  Why?  Because women remember that.  So, a two week difference would be understandable.  Sometimes however, about 5-10% of pregnancies run longer than normal.

3. If you had sex on 8/12 and 8/13, it would have been days 11 and 12 of her cycle.  Your sperm would be there, ready and waiting, for ovulation to occur.  You cover her peak times of fertility.

You really do need the DNA test results.  Good luck.

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Ok thanks, yeah Im thinking that Im not, but Im just assuming she had her period based on the due date calculator and 14 days after her last period and that her ex boyfriend told me she always had her normal period.

Reply to 1. Well she could have , remember sperm can survive up until 5 days, and with her period being 8/29 - that was from the due date calculator. I was with her august 26th, and that was the night she had her period, I was thinking that cause she didnt want to have sex with me that night. Plus, I saw the baby and the baby has similarities with the guy she supposedly did on september 3rd. and also the doctor and his assistant told me CONCEPTION happened in september, no other month.

Reply to 2. Yes I am aware of them base them off her last period. He gives two weeks either way, meaning her conception window was from august 29th to September 26th, 2011. I was did sex with her august 12th and 13th, - 16 and 17 days before her conception window!

Reply to 3. Yes I did do it on the 12th and 13th with her, but that was in august and she would of felt symptons on labor day weekend last year and she didnt feel them until end of september. and who knows when her period started.

and I know she did have the baby 5 days earlier then her original due date, which was may 30, which in hind-set, her conception date of September 12th could of been September 7th! Meaning four days after her September 3rd encounter and enough time for the sperm to swim.
I did do the DNA test already and awaiting results next week. By the way, I saw the baby and its 3 months old, it looks nothing like me and everything like the guy she left with, his facial recognition and his jaw line.

so to ask again, Do you know in your lifetime, if a doctor's 2nd Trimester conception date has ever been wrong by 30 and 31 days???? - I heard its usually 1-2 weeks off at the most
-Have you ever heard that?
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My mother held a baby for 10 months so yess..it is very possible that this child is yours
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Also i might add my mums first gyno was way off..buy a whole month..my baby brother was a teenie tiny little fella hehe..eitherwy not too long till you know for sure..goodluck mate!!
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When you say 10 months, are you talking 10 actual calendar months ?? like from start august 1st (period starts) to due date of May 30th. That would be a 44 week pregnancy = a 11 MONTH pregnancy. 4 wks X 11 months = 44 weeks

The girl that's accusing me that Im the father did indeed have a 10 month pregnancy but NOT 10 calender months (Aug-June) BUT by 39 weeks and 3 days because she has her last period august 29th.
- Like I said I was with on august 13th and did not ejaculate in her, only pre-cum would of been if this child is mine

She had a early c-section on may 30th, (original due date was June 4th. Remember 39 weeks and 3 days equals just under a 10 month pregnancy, 9.975 month pregnancy, and she ended up having a 7lbs 3 oz baby, which lines up with a 39 week pregnancy on a baby fetal chart. 4 weeks X 10 months equals 40 weeks (gestational age of course),
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thanks angel, how far along into the pregnancy was your moms gyno off by a month?
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My mums gyno told her she was almost 9 weeks pregnant from fertility date and last period but my mum has irregular monthly so my mum never really questioned it.. My mum got sick a month later with a massive flu infection and ended up having an ultrasound to make sure baby wasnt affected in any way..it was disovered that my mum was much further along then told. She was just over four months instead of the three that the doc originally said.
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Doctor's conception dates are based on what information they see, usually from the LMP.  Ultrasounds are not exact, despite what anyone says.  Like humans, fetuses all develop at different rates.

Without knowing exactly when her last period was it all just an assumption.

I would also caution you that appearances can be deceiving.  You are doing the right thing with the test.

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ok thanks guys
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Also adding if she was on both plan b and depo together from experience and also hearing stories from friends etc it can mess up a womans cycle pretty bad.(btw depo and plan b have diff names in aus so i almost didnt kno what you ment lol sorry)
I hope the tests come back with the news you had been hoping for :))
Judging from what you have said theres a 50/50 chance that her baby could be yours.
All the best mate.
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yeah, but the thing is, She told me she was already depo shot starting august 4th, why would there be need to take the plan B? In other words, its like taking soda and coffee in the morning, Its presumably, that she is lying to me. She told me that the plan B cancels out the depo shot. And even if it did miss her cycle up, cycles are only from 22 to 44 days, a variance of 10 days either way, I have a 30 day variance.

How do you get a 50/50 chance?

Judging from the dates, they say there's 10% chance a woman has a post term pregnancy (longer than 42 gestational weeks), so I like 10% rather than 50%

Thanks
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Like I said, the doctor said originally September 12th was conception date, if her cycle got messed up, it would of messed it up by subtracting a period 30 days before, it all doesnt make sense, cause she always told me "she was never on her period" and its obvious hiding stuff from me,

We will see though
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Well she was miss informed about the plan b and depo.im not sure were she is getting her info from but i kno for a fact ( from experience) it doesnt cancel out anything..it doesnt do anything that coinsides..
Now you dont really know for sure when she had her actual period unless you seen it for yourself..seems like shes abit all over the place..
So i just asked my mother and she carried a baby just passed ten months 46 weeks to be exact. (poor woman lol)
So this means anything could happen.
Docters and gynos arnt always right and as i said 50/50.
It seems your aiming for the test not to be positive .but it isnt long now and you shall know for sure. :))
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ok thanks angel girl. Yeah, we'll see
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