If you meet a female (at a casual group dinner party) that you might be interested in asking out on a date... how long do you wait to make said contact?
Just do it....especially if you connected then. Did you make any indication that you might be calling her, i.e. so she's sitting around thinking, "I wonder if that hot runner dude I met is gonna call me?"
3 days to a week.
It was more of a "let's exchange business cards type of connection."
The safest (i.e. least likey to get you a rejection) thing you can do is ask her to meet you for coffee or lunch. That way, there is no major investment of time and/or effort on either party. If things work out, you can continue the "date" at dinner or a movie. Otherwise you both say bye and leave it at that.
As a young Lieutenant in the Army, I had access to free horseback riding at the Post stables. I would ask young ladies if they wanted to go riding on Saturday AM followed by a light breakfast. I usually got positive answers and a couple of meetings resulted in longer relationships.
As a young Lieutenant in the Army, I had access to free horseback riding at the Post stables. I would ask young ladies if they wanted to go riding on Saturday AM followed by a light breakfast. I usually got positive answers and a couple of meetings resulted in longer relationships.
That's a good suggestion, andy. I was thinking along those lines myself. Something casual where there's no preconceived notions or expectations and you can relax and just be yourselves might be easier than a formal "date."
Go for it, sonny....if she says no, at least you're done worrying about whether she'd say yes or not And if she does say no, she's a bonehead anyway. ;)
Go for it, sonny....if she says no, at least you're done worrying about whether she'd say yes or not And if she does say no, she's a bonehead anyway. ;)
In a related side question - Does age difference really matter? Said potential date is alot younger then I to the tune of like 9 years. Although I think there is some mutual attraction there, I think that this might be a waste of time (in the end). :|
It depends.....how old are you? I personally have ALWAYS dated guys who were a good bit older than I am and never had a problem with it, but it really is about the individuals involved. Some younger women might be more mature and able to handle a relationship like that, some won't. Plus, there's the different places you are at in your lives too, which also depend on age....again, it's very individualized.
For instance, I have never been as committed to having a baby as some of my friends, so dating an older guy who might not want any kids....or any more kids....was OK with me. It may not have been for my friends who really wanted to get married and have kids. I never minded dating a guy with kids, because I love them, but that wasn't a must have or must not have factor for me. Does that make sense?
For instance, I have never been as committed to having a baby as some of my friends, so dating an older guy who might not want any kids....or any more kids....was OK with me. It may not have been for my friends who really wanted to get married and have kids. I never minded dating a guy with kids, because I love them, but that wasn't a must have or must not have factor for me. Does that make sense?
I dunno about that. I know a couple that is 8 years apart, quite in love, engaged to be married. It all depends on the two people. I say, give her a call. See if she'd like to meet you for drinks. Unless she's too young to drink
Unless she's too young to drinkShe isn't that young! :D
Plus, it's what you're looking for too. If you're looking for a serious, committed relationship and you want to settle down and have a family someday, then a 21 year old who's still in the partying stage is probably not the person to be dating.....although again, that's individual too. You really won't know if you're compatible til you start spending time together. If you just want someone to hang out and have fun with, then it really doesn't matter how old either of you are.
Business cards is perfect, that way you can email casually 2-3 days later and set up a lunch and see how things go.
I don't think 9 years is too much, no.
Oh. To answer your first question, I'd go with 2 days before calling. :D
Why wasn't e-mail around (popular) when I was dating? That would have saved me a lot of stress.
That brings yet another issue... Is e-mail acceptable form of contact? I would think yes (for our younger generation). But many folks think that its considered tacky.