Hello. I'm 25 year old female and I have some questions about mother-daughter relationship. You see, I have this 12 year old daughter who wants to know everything about everything.
Just the other day she asked me something about the time when girls start to have periods.
So, I told her some facts because I thing she must know something about it. But, yesterday, she asked me a weird sex question- what sex felt like when I was teenager? Can you believe this is coming from the mouth of one 13 year old girl? I couldn’t! This is my first and only child and I don’t know is it normal for one 13 year old girl to ask these kinds of questions and what should I tell her about this!?
Hi. I have just read your post and I've been thinking a lot about it. Only conclusion I could have made is that there is nothing weird about your daughter asking you these questions. Tell her everything she should know about this subject. Menstruation is something she could experience next or even this year because girls normally start their periods around 10-14 yrs old. So, the time has come to explain her what she could expect.
I don’t even want to tell how important is for her to know some facts about sex. Beside the fact how was your sex when you were teenager- you might want to make sure she knows the consequences of having sex as well, since she is obviously curious, and you probably do not want a sexually active teen. But I doubt I would explain any details to her.
Why is it so hard to believe that a 12 yr old would ask these types of questions? Unless you had a MAJOR typo, you said you were 25 w/ a 12 yr old daughter, which means you had HER at age 13??? So, why would it be SO hard to believe that your daughter would ask that question if you were THAT young when she was born?
explain to her everything you want her to know from you rather than from somewhere else. trust me should go to all the wrong places and get wrong information and then you cant do something about it. at least cover the basics with her and feel free to talk the more open and at ease you are while you are talking to her she will feel so free and close to you and will ask you anything in the future and when ever she is about to do anything including a relationship emotional or physical and not only now but even in the future. tell her about the facts and the effects of sex but dont over do it and make her scareed because thats now normal and be prepaired to answer questions about your own experience and here you should be careful not to send the wrong msg. i mean dont sound too negative about wt u did after all she was the result but dont be too excited about it, tell her the conditions were different n giving birth to her was possible but today its not possible for her to handle such resposibilties so she should be very careful n shouldnt get involved in any act until she is mature or old enough to realize wt she is doing.
i hope u know wt i ment :-)
i hope u know wt i ment :-)
There are no dumb questions when a young daughter asks her mom about sex... Do not make her feel uncomfortable with her questions, that will only make her not want to go to you... You were there, tell her the truth, be open and honest....
Hi there. I do not believe that there are any weird questions when it comes to sex. By your question, you too were obviously sexually active when you had your daughter (unless she was adopted or you married her father of course) so think back to when you were her age. If she is asking what it feels like to have sex, try and let her know that she can come to you no matter what with this sort of thing and really think about your answers before giving them. Chances are that they are just taking some type of a sexual education class at school right now that is sparking the questions and they will pass or subside with time. She is still at an age that she is curious about this sort of thing but she is also at an age that her friends are starting to develop (and herself as well) and this can be an awkward stage. Make sure that she is informed properly and knows that when she decides to become sexually active, she can come to you to figure out the correct method of birth control.
Good luck and remember, there are thousands of other parents out there in the same boat as you. If you need any more help, just ask us!
Good luck and remember, there are thousands of other parents out there in the same boat as you. If you need any more help, just ask us!
In my opinion it's normal. I think you should tell her things that are important for her health, like all about STIs and contraception. you should also tell her that it is normal to satrt your periods between 11 and 16. maybe her friend has started their period and this has triggered these wuestions or maybe they are doing the puberty thing at school. It's nothing to worry about. she'll be able to understand everything .
it is easy to believe actually. back in the day no body ever really talked about sex, now it's a completely different story. kids hear about sex all over the place, from tv, music, school, friends, magazines. Just be happy she is atleast coming to you with questions. you know how some mothers say "my child just wont open up to me and i don't know what's wrong with him/her?" she want's to know because she is curious, don't push her questions to the side. TELL HER THE TRUTH CAUSE WHEN SHE FINDS OUT FROM OTHER PEOPLE, SHE WON'T COME TO YOU ANYMORE BECAUSE YOU LIED TO HER.
Well then if your 25 and shes 12 doesn't that mean you had her when you were 13 so there for it shouldn't be shoking to you to hear a 12yr old(or is she 13...im confused since you changed her age half way through...)asking about sex because clearly when you were her age you were already having sex..right??
and you just told her about periods..? don't some girls get it at like 10 get it..i mean I would have told her earlier just incase so she didn't freak out had she got it young...and so she didn't get pregnant young as you did because the reason most kids have kids is that they were never told the true facts of life...
By the way it might come off as it but im not judging you bacuse I also had a baby young, not as young at 13 but young enough so I understahd that part...
oh and her asking about sex...the only thing that is weird about her asking you at 12-13 is that she asked her mom most girls her age would feel uncomfortable talking about that side to sex and would just ask cousins friends or look on the net..its normal for her to be thinking about it she is probably just curious it doesn't actually mean shes thinking of having sex any time soon...
and you just told her about periods..? don't some girls get it at like 10 get it..i mean I would have told her earlier just incase so she didn't freak out had she got it young...and so she didn't get pregnant young as you did because the reason most kids have kids is that they were never told the true facts of life...
By the way it might come off as it but im not judging you bacuse I also had a baby young, not as young at 13 but young enough so I understahd that part...
oh and her asking about sex...the only thing that is weird about her asking you at 12-13 is that she asked her mom most girls her age would feel uncomfortable talking about that side to sex and would just ask cousins friends or look on the net..its normal for her to be thinking about it she is probably just curious it doesn't actually mean shes thinking of having sex any time soon...
If your 25 and shes 12 then doesn't that mean you had her at 13.? right? so therefore that means you were having sex when you were her age and asking questions is nothing compared to having sex so I don't see why you are shocked when a 12(or is it 13..im confused since you changed the story half way through..) asks you about sex...
and you are just telling her about her period and shes 12(or 13?)...don't some kids get it as young as 8...? and most get it at 11-12...I would have told her when she was 10 incase she got it young and freaked out cus she was scared and alone..on top of that I wouldn't want her getting pregnant young like you had, thats why most kids have babies young because they don't know the full facts of life since no one was smart enough to tell them in time...
by the way I'm NOT judging you on having a baby so young because I also had a son young, not quite as young at 13 but I was 16 so i guess I can relate sorta( and yeah some one had been smart enough to tell me the facts when I was young so that prevented me having a kid young not that I was having sex at 12 or 13..i just ended up making a mistake when I was 16 thats all)
anyways enough about me...
To do with her asking you those types of questions at 13(or 12...)its not weird at all, all thats weird about it is that she asked her mom...most kids her age would have found out that stuff from cousins, friends or the net or something...and remember just because shes asking about how sex feels doesn't mean she is thinking of doing it anytime soon she just curious as most kids are..
and you are just telling her about her period and shes 12(or 13?)...don't some kids get it as young as 8...? and most get it at 11-12...I would have told her when she was 10 incase she got it young and freaked out cus she was scared and alone..on top of that I wouldn't want her getting pregnant young like you had, thats why most kids have babies young because they don't know the full facts of life since no one was smart enough to tell them in time...
by the way I'm NOT judging you on having a baby so young because I also had a son young, not quite as young at 13 but I was 16 so i guess I can relate sorta( and yeah some one had been smart enough to tell me the facts when I was young so that prevented me having a kid young not that I was having sex at 12 or 13..i just ended up making a mistake when I was 16 thats all)
anyways enough about me...
To do with her asking you those types of questions at 13(or 12...)its not weird at all, all thats weird about it is that she asked her mom...most kids her age would have found out that stuff from cousins, friends or the net or something...and remember just because shes asking about how sex feels doesn't mean she is thinking of doing it anytime soon she just curious as most kids are..
about your doughther being 13yrs old well that would be perfectly normal because well all teens have a point in lifwe where they look at or think about sex and cant stop thinking bout it maybe ur doughter is well very interested in sex and wants it know maybe shes been looking at porn some time in life but dont worry its perfectly normal...right try not to laogh while talking to her bout this stuff she might feel neervous inside and get scared and wont ask u no more questions ....
maybe its the actual 12 yr old girl taht is writing this reply or just that the mum doesnt want to give information bout herself...... i dont think ne thing would happen ne ways
nothing wierd she probly tried it but dident think it was that great so she asked you how it felt when you were her age plus its perfectly normal to be sexualy active from 10 upwards
tell her to come to my house tonight. im just kidding im a guy and honestly im only 14 and girls usually wont actually do that unless they dont have the knowledge. talk to her about and then give her my number, and maybe i can help her out.
You were 13 when you had you daughter!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!