I was diagnosed with PCOS about 4 months ago, I'm turning 21 in a couple months. I have since been put on birth control pills and now on my 3rd month of these pills, and so far my cycles have been normal...as they get with help from the pills.
Before I started teh pills, I was getting my period about 3 times a year, thats it. It was hard, never knew when it was going to come. I also have several of the other symptoms..unfortunatly.
I have always been a bigger girl, I will never be small, its just not in my genetic make up, but I would like to loose weight. I have lost about 20 pounds. and I feel fine. But I was wondering what everyone with PCOS does to loose weight?
I also want to know something else.....I have met a great guy online (I'm a virgin...I have always been ashamed of my body, weight and.....some body hair, so I never ventured out to meet guys very much, I have great friends, but never wanted to seen naked by anyone)
This guy I have met, I have talked everything over with him, and he is cool with EVERYTHING! he knows everything, and seen everything. But how does someone talk about these things with someone that you love? I don't know how this is going to work out with me and the guy online, the distance between us, so at somepoint I think I may have to start meeting people locally, but how did you all bring up these symptoms and talk about it with a loved one? What did they say?
Thanks, Canadian Girl
Before I started teh pills, I was getting my period about 3 times a year, thats it. It was hard, never knew when it was going to come. I also have several of the other symptoms..unfortunatly.
I have always been a bigger girl, I will never be small, its just not in my genetic make up, but I would like to loose weight. I have lost about 20 pounds. and I feel fine. But I was wondering what everyone with PCOS does to loose weight?
I also want to know something else.....I have met a great guy online (I'm a virgin...I have always been ashamed of my body, weight and.....some body hair, so I never ventured out to meet guys very much, I have great friends, but never wanted to seen naked by anyone)
This guy I have met, I have talked everything over with him, and he is cool with EVERYTHING! he knows everything, and seen everything. But how does someone talk about these things with someone that you love? I don't know how this is going to work out with me and the guy online, the distance between us, so at somepoint I think I may have to start meeting people locally, but how did you all bring up these symptoms and talk about it with a loved one? What did they say?
Thanks, Canadian Girl
I feel your pain! I have also been diagnosed with PCOS, just last month. I am insulin resistant as well, which is a major cause of PCOS, so get your basal blood count checked. It's very difficult to lose weight with this condition as the Insulin Resistance makes it more difficult than for most people. Everything you eat just turns straight to fat. My gynae told me that now for me to lose the weight it's going to be 80% exercise and 20% diet. Not very encouraging as she said it's going to take time and I have to remain positive and stick with an exercise routine. You can take Glucophage if you are insulin resistant and that will help a little bit.
As far as discussing this with a loved one, the best way is to be upfront and honest. It is a genuine physical problem you have that will not just disappear easily. I understand your concern over the body hair, that is due to the PCOS, but you need to put shame aside and just explain the problem straight out. Anyone who cannot accept that about you is not the one for you, no matter how you love them. As far as the online relationship goes, be very careful. I'm not a doomsayer, but it's very hard to trust any online relationships as you can never quite know what you're getting yourself into until it's too late. There are so many sicko's out there. It's healthier to meet people in the flesh and in your local area as they get to see you first hand and know you as a real person. We change our personalties a little when online, even when we don't realise we're doing that. We tend to put our best foot forward, and that goes both ways, so how could you be sure what you're going to get on the other side? At least meeting people in your area dispells a lot of that and you and them can make a better, more informed decision to either accept or reject one another.
I can understand it's difficult to bare your body, or feel like you have a right to be happy with anyone as being bigger carries such a stigma. I am also big, have always suffered with weight problems and am currently the biggest I've ever been in my life. I'm not happy with myself, battle to lose weight and have a ton of issues. So I speak from experience. I am also married to a wonderful man, for the past 12 years who loves and accepts me for who I am, not what I look like, although he still compliments me all the time and says I'm just the most beautiful woman he has ever met. :-) I think what you need to do is realise your worth as a woman, it's not about your size, but about your heart and inner beauty. Anyone that can't see past the fat rolls and love you for who you are doesn't deserve you and by the same token you don't need to put up with that lack of acceptance. Respect yourself, love yourself and remember we all come in different shapes and sizes, nobody is perfect and even the most beautiful among us have their physical imperfections.
Another helpful exercise for you to do is to see a psychologist to help you accept yourself warts and all and realise your inner worth. It's a very difficult road to travel, but most beneficial and helps you to even realise what can be behind the weight problem, as well as confront inner demons that hold you back from enjoying life to the fullest. Trust me, I have travelled this road, still do; but have found much peace in getting that help and advice, as well as understanding from my psychologist. Please don't feel alone, there are SO many other women in your situation and they are struggling through this. Research PCOS on Wikipedia, you will get so much valuable insight into your problem and that goes a long way to dealing with it.
Good luck my friend, and be strong!
As far as discussing this with a loved one, the best way is to be upfront and honest. It is a genuine physical problem you have that will not just disappear easily. I understand your concern over the body hair, that is due to the PCOS, but you need to put shame aside and just explain the problem straight out. Anyone who cannot accept that about you is not the one for you, no matter how you love them. As far as the online relationship goes, be very careful. I'm not a doomsayer, but it's very hard to trust any online relationships as you can never quite know what you're getting yourself into until it's too late. There are so many sicko's out there. It's healthier to meet people in the flesh and in your local area as they get to see you first hand and know you as a real person. We change our personalties a little when online, even when we don't realise we're doing that. We tend to put our best foot forward, and that goes both ways, so how could you be sure what you're going to get on the other side? At least meeting people in your area dispells a lot of that and you and them can make a better, more informed decision to either accept or reject one another.
I can understand it's difficult to bare your body, or feel like you have a right to be happy with anyone as being bigger carries such a stigma. I am also big, have always suffered with weight problems and am currently the biggest I've ever been in my life. I'm not happy with myself, battle to lose weight and have a ton of issues. So I speak from experience. I am also married to a wonderful man, for the past 12 years who loves and accepts me for who I am, not what I look like, although he still compliments me all the time and says I'm just the most beautiful woman he has ever met. :-) I think what you need to do is realise your worth as a woman, it's not about your size, but about your heart and inner beauty. Anyone that can't see past the fat rolls and love you for who you are doesn't deserve you and by the same token you don't need to put up with that lack of acceptance. Respect yourself, love yourself and remember we all come in different shapes and sizes, nobody is perfect and even the most beautiful among us have their physical imperfections.
Another helpful exercise for you to do is to see a psychologist to help you accept yourself warts and all and realise your inner worth. It's a very difficult road to travel, but most beneficial and helps you to even realise what can be behind the weight problem, as well as confront inner demons that hold you back from enjoying life to the fullest. Trust me, I have travelled this road, still do; but have found much peace in getting that help and advice, as well as understanding from my psychologist. Please don't feel alone, there are SO many other women in your situation and they are struggling through this. Research PCOS on Wikipedia, you will get so much valuable insight into your problem and that goes a long way to dealing with it.
Good luck my friend, and be strong!
ReaperAJ,
Thank you! That was a great reply. I have been working on more of my diet, I have kind of fell of the wagon lately, but I'm going to make it more steady, its hard when no one else in my family is doing it.....They all complain they need to loose weigh, which they do, but with our life, everything is so busy, we need to change some things. But its so hard, I eat the less out of everyone, but I still can't loose weight with out lots of hard work. I'm working on it though.
Thank you for all the advice and information, it was really helpful.
- Canadian Girl
Thank you! That was a great reply. I have been working on more of my diet, I have kind of fell of the wagon lately, but I'm going to make it more steady, its hard when no one else in my family is doing it.....They all complain they need to loose weigh, which they do, but with our life, everything is so busy, we need to change some things. But its so hard, I eat the less out of everyone, but I still can't loose weight with out lots of hard work. I'm working on it though.
Thank you for all the advice and information, it was really helpful.
- Canadian Girl
I was reading over this post and I was really touched by it and it sounds like you got some really good advice. Have you got any updates for us on your weight loss plan, CanadianGirl? I would like to know how you are doing because it seems like you were really upset when you posted this last. Thanks!
Hi,
Thank you for the interest! and asking about me.
So Far since Starting to follow the diet that I have in one of my books I have lost about 30 pounds since The Fall. But recently I have been loosing it more steadily, and its been great. I need to work on staying on track...its so hard to eat all the right things, my life is so busy its hard. But I'm working at it. Right now I just need to work on getting in some excercising. I Live on a Farm so I do have my fair share of walking and lifting etc, but I need more streanuous excercising. I will get there slowly but surely.
I can give more specific things as for the diet, but I don't have the book in front of me to get the proper name.
I have to go for a Doctors Appointment in July, and I would be on my 4th month of pills, but I forgot to book my Doctors appointment right away, so I have to wait, and the Receptionist at the Doctors Office wasn't sure if my Doctor could give me another month of pills with out seeing me...So Unfortuntly I have to wait, I'm kinda stupid for not calling ealier but With working 12 or 15 days straight at work, its hard to remember little things!
Thank you
-Canadian Girl
Thank you for the interest! and asking about me.
So Far since Starting to follow the diet that I have in one of my books I have lost about 30 pounds since The Fall. But recently I have been loosing it more steadily, and its been great. I need to work on staying on track...its so hard to eat all the right things, my life is so busy its hard. But I'm working at it. Right now I just need to work on getting in some excercising. I Live on a Farm so I do have my fair share of walking and lifting etc, but I need more streanuous excercising. I will get there slowly but surely.
I can give more specific things as for the diet, but I don't have the book in front of me to get the proper name.
I have to go for a Doctors Appointment in July, and I would be on my 4th month of pills, but I forgot to book my Doctors appointment right away, so I have to wait, and the Receptionist at the Doctors Office wasn't sure if my Doctor could give me another month of pills with out seeing me...So Unfortuntly I have to wait, I'm kinda stupid for not calling ealier but With working 12 or 15 days straight at work, its hard to remember little things!
Thank you
-Canadian Girl
I'm really glad to hear that the new diet is working out for you especially since it sounds like you have the exercise component of losing weight for you. Now out of curiosity though I would like to know the name of the diet if you have it! Let me know when you find out, okay?
Hi, Thank you for the interest about me and the diet.
The Diet is in this book...the main objective of this book is to go through the diet for Women suffering from PCOS, but honestly anyone could follow it.
Its called, the Natural Diet Solution for PCOS and Infertility. Thats the name of the book...I don't think I can add links so I hope thats ok.
Its just a natural type diet, cut down on the already prepared stuff. Its not a bad diet to follow for anyone!
-Canadian Girl
The Diet is in this book...the main objective of this book is to go through the diet for Women suffering from PCOS, but honestly anyone could follow it.
Its called, the Natural Diet Solution for PCOS and Infertility. Thats the name of the book...I don't think I can add links so I hope thats ok.
Its just a natural type diet, cut down on the already prepared stuff. Its not a bad diet to follow for anyone!
-Canadian Girl
Ah okay, so it's a PCOS specific diet! I thought that you were doing something like Atkins or something. :-) What do you mean by natural stuff though? What kind of foods do you end up eating? Is there anything special about it?
Hi,
As for the natural stuff....
Red Meats are allowed, Poultry is allowed, Fish is great, of course. Pork is slightly frowned apon. (Fatty)
Dairy Products are a no- no...this one is hard for me (living on a farm, and not being allowed to drink milk...almost impossible to get away from that one)
No beans of any sort....Green beans would be your best bet, but no kindey, Lima etc. (I'm not complaining much on that one)
Most Veggies an Fruit are ok. Corn isn't even discussed, they don't really concider it to be in the category. No White Potatoes.
No prepackaged stuff, so no frozen meals, the problems with this stuff is the sodium level is so high. SO I understand, no chips etc.
The One thing that it doesn't talk about is Grains...either they don't talk about it or I missed it.
I will have to get the book and give a full desciption.
Melissa
As for the natural stuff....
Red Meats are allowed, Poultry is allowed, Fish is great, of course. Pork is slightly frowned apon. (Fatty)
Dairy Products are a no- no...this one is hard for me (living on a farm, and not being allowed to drink milk...almost impossible to get away from that one)
No beans of any sort....Green beans would be your best bet, but no kindey, Lima etc. (I'm not complaining much on that one)
Most Veggies an Fruit are ok. Corn isn't even discussed, they don't really concider it to be in the category. No White Potatoes.
No prepackaged stuff, so no frozen meals, the problems with this stuff is the sodium level is so high. SO I understand, no chips etc.
The One thing that it doesn't talk about is Grains...either they don't talk about it or I missed it.
I will have to get the book and give a full desciption.
Melissa
Hi Melissa, not to jump in on this discussion but I'm not sure if I understand why dairy, pork, and beans aren't allowed. Did they discuss exactly what the logic was behind that? the only reason I ask is because this diet sounds very unusual and I'd like to learn more about it. My sister has PCOS and I'm sure she would be willing to try almost anything at this point.
Hi, does anyone know of any herbal remedies to help weight loss when having PCOS? I've tried lots of diets and getting very depressed due to very slow weight loss. Thanks