Ya the site gave me some problems too...but their slowly figuring things out.
It goes back and fourth, like my mom will sometimes be like my dad, with put downs. But she doesn't yell at people for no reason and slam everything around and like hate the family like he does. Nothing is ever his fault and he never does anything wrong. But now i'm seeing that he like plays me. Because when I was having problems with my mom, he was mr. nice guy and playing me and her. But no, it is mainly him. I still have problems with both but I still get what you said before and understand some what why they do what they do, but they never treat my brother like they treat me, and I just don't get why me.
I do understand it, I do...but it hurts really bad, like I'll try to take a moment and breath and get whats going on and try to ignore it I guess and try to somewhat let them know it's not okay without bluntly saying it and then something really happening. But it like never ends and its starting to take its toll. But ya I am surprised and happy that shes starting to admit the problems and talk about it, but only when hes not around. She still would never stick up for herself though. Like everyone else is as though things are back to normal. Like the other day my dad was still in a mood and mean to her, yet she had the audacity to kiss him goodnight, wanted to barf, mind you she probably didn't have much of a choice in the matter, but the look on his face after sickened me.
And sometimes I think maybe its a mid-life crisis, but its kind of always been this way. I won't dare flat out ignore him like he does with me, but I'll give him short answers and not go out of my way for him, at dinner I did ignore him though because I couldn't stand it. But he'll like target me more, or do childish things on purpose and ignore me and put me down more. It makes things worse when he knows I'm mad at him because he can't take the fact that I'm the only one who won't fully put of with his c**p. And I think thats part of them problem with all my relationships with them, I'm not like them and I do somewhat, not fully of course, stand up for myself and others like my mom. And I am different from them in some ways, but then they take that into everything when its not. And me being so clsed off does not help matters. But ya, back to the question, it just makes him more angry.
I was watching a HiLARIOUS movie the other day, you must watch it if you haven't already! Its called 'Death at a Funeral', my friend said its a remake of an old english film, but this one has Chris Rock in it and its Really funny!! but anyways, in it one of the guys was saying how "it's not a mood if their always in it" it was so funny but its soooo true! Have you seen any Teen Mom episodes yet? lol sometimes I think my parents are like Farrah's mom, sophia's mom. Ya now I can finally understand Farrah, and I feel so bad for her!
It goes back and fourth, like my mom will sometimes be like my dad, with put downs. But she doesn't yell at people for no reason and slam everything around and like hate the family like he does. Nothing is ever his fault and he never does anything wrong. But now i'm seeing that he like plays me. Because when I was having problems with my mom, he was mr. nice guy and playing me and her. But no, it is mainly him. I still have problems with both but I still get what you said before and understand some what why they do what they do, but they never treat my brother like they treat me, and I just don't get why me.
I do understand it, I do...but it hurts really bad, like I'll try to take a moment and breath and get whats going on and try to ignore it I guess and try to somewhat let them know it's not okay without bluntly saying it and then something really happening. But it like never ends and its starting to take its toll. But ya I am surprised and happy that shes starting to admit the problems and talk about it, but only when hes not around. She still would never stick up for herself though. Like everyone else is as though things are back to normal. Like the other day my dad was still in a mood and mean to her, yet she had the audacity to kiss him goodnight, wanted to barf, mind you she probably didn't have much of a choice in the matter, but the look on his face after sickened me.
And sometimes I think maybe its a mid-life crisis, but its kind of always been this way. I won't dare flat out ignore him like he does with me, but I'll give him short answers and not go out of my way for him, at dinner I did ignore him though because I couldn't stand it. But he'll like target me more, or do childish things on purpose and ignore me and put me down more. It makes things worse when he knows I'm mad at him because he can't take the fact that I'm the only one who won't fully put of with his c**p. And I think thats part of them problem with all my relationships with them, I'm not like them and I do somewhat, not fully of course, stand up for myself and others like my mom. And I am different from them in some ways, but then they take that into everything when its not. And me being so clsed off does not help matters. But ya, back to the question, it just makes him more angry.
I was watching a HiLARIOUS movie the other day, you must watch it if you haven't already! Its called 'Death at a Funeral', my friend said its a remake of an old english film, but this one has Chris Rock in it and its Really funny!! but anyways, in it one of the guys was saying how "it's not a mood if their always in it" it was so funny but its soooo true! Have you seen any Teen Mom episodes yet? lol sometimes I think my parents are like Farrah's mom, sophia's mom. Ya now I can finally understand Farrah, and I feel so bad for her!
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Yeah I watched it the other day! When the one girl crys - the one who gave up her baby - I BALL! I LOVE those two kids! They are SO cute and in love and look at their parents! I'm not really a fan of Farrah nor her family! They are ALL WHACKED! The girls family - the one with Bently - seem to be ROCK solid! The big ones - HOLLY COW!!
You HAVE to see the British one! I almost peed myself watching that! It is beyond hilarious! I know they did it almost scene for scene! And the actor who plays the love interest is the same in the British movie! He is SO talented! I loved him in Elf!
Like I said before honey, I can tell you know - from living through all of it and looking at it differently - you are living it! I think your parents are hurt children in big bodies, I think they are trying their very best to get you on their side! They don't concentrate on your brother as they know he doesn't care! You - as am I - an easy target! So they KNOW that they can get something from you! And who better to have on your side as the "nice one" I also think - from your brothers response - that he is just trying to get the hell out! so you can't really blame him! also - just like my husband with my eldest - IF my husbadn was to push it with him, it could be BAD! My son is 6 ft 2inces and about 200lbs and ALL muscles! My husba nd is about 5ft 6 and NO muscles! 8-| So IF they ever got into it, my son would FLATTEN HIM! You see me I have NO problem with Flattening my son! I DEMAND respect from him! When I found out about his arrest, and went to the jail, I actually slugged him twice and my husband didn't do anything! My son knows that I was at the bottom when I did that! And he respects it that it wasn't done for "nothing"! So It hink that is why they don't push your brother! And also - due to you shutting down - they know that you would NEVER take it further!
The cross we bare - when being daughters! My parents NEVER talked to my sister like they talked to me! Becuse she just didn't CARE! Where I did! And they knew it! My dad tells his friends "Our Dawn is too sensitive!" BUT yet he will work on that sensitivity any chance he can get! What you have to know in your heart Claire is that this is NOT your fault OR your cross to bare! And I also want you to know that more families than not are dysfunctional! Especially your mom and dad, an my age group! We grew up - with most of the time - violent parents, with BIG problems, And now try and rectify with our own, what we don't have a clue how to do! This is why I think your parents struggle with it all - they don't have a clue!! Dloes this help your pain - of course not! Does it answer some of the "WHY?!" I hope so!
As I stated before, from 16 on I was NEVER home and moved out fairly young! And they had NO ONE to blame but themselves!
You HAVE to see the British one! I almost peed myself watching that! It is beyond hilarious! I know they did it almost scene for scene! And the actor who plays the love interest is the same in the British movie! He is SO talented! I loved him in Elf!
Like I said before honey, I can tell you know - from living through all of it and looking at it differently - you are living it! I think your parents are hurt children in big bodies, I think they are trying their very best to get you on their side! They don't concentrate on your brother as they know he doesn't care! You - as am I - an easy target! So they KNOW that they can get something from you! And who better to have on your side as the "nice one" I also think - from your brothers response - that he is just trying to get the hell out! so you can't really blame him! also - just like my husband with my eldest - IF my husbadn was to push it with him, it could be BAD! My son is 6 ft 2inces and about 200lbs and ALL muscles! My husba nd is about 5ft 6 and NO muscles! 8-| So IF they ever got into it, my son would FLATTEN HIM! You see me I have NO problem with Flattening my son! I DEMAND respect from him! When I found out about his arrest, and went to the jail, I actually slugged him twice and my husband didn't do anything! My son knows that I was at the bottom when I did that! And he respects it that it wasn't done for "nothing"! So It hink that is why they don't push your brother! And also - due to you shutting down - they know that you would NEVER take it further!
The cross we bare - when being daughters! My parents NEVER talked to my sister like they talked to me! Becuse she just didn't CARE! Where I did! And they knew it! My dad tells his friends "Our Dawn is too sensitive!" BUT yet he will work on that sensitivity any chance he can get! What you have to know in your heart Claire is that this is NOT your fault OR your cross to bare! And I also want you to know that more families than not are dysfunctional! Especially your mom and dad, an my age group! We grew up - with most of the time - violent parents, with BIG problems, And now try and rectify with our own, what we don't have a clue how to do! This is why I think your parents struggle with it all - they don't have a clue!! Dloes this help your pain - of course not! Does it answer some of the "WHY?!" I hope so!
As I stated before, from 16 on I was NEVER home and moved out fairly young! And they had NO ONE to blame but themselves!
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Ya Tyler is really hurting! But I can't believe she lied to him. But they are an awesome couple and do really love each other, their families are messed up but Tyler's mom is awesome. Well I feel bad for Farrah and her and her family is really messed up, but that girl really needs some parenting classes. Cannot believe she just left her child in the hallway while she hung up towels and stuff, or the fact she left her unattended in the sink!! A. she could have drowned and B. she burnt herself. Shes still not fully responsible enough. Ya I love Maci's family!! Their all awesome. And I can't believe Gary still sticks around, he was treating her nice then she had to blow it and throw a tantrum for no reason. They do not have a healthy relationship but she needs him because shes all alone, but their daughter Leah is amazing.
Lol, okay I'll try and find the British one, because it was really good! I watched it twice already and can't stop laughing.
My brother is like 6"1 and he does work out, my dad is like 5"9 and big. And although my brother works out and has muscles, hes a stick! Like he cannot for the life of him put on weight and he hates it. I think he finally got up to 160...its funny. But my dad is big, he has muscles, more fat then muscles but ya lol and my brother won't mess with him because he knows he can't, but I think he wants too. And then I'm short :-( I think I'm stuck at 5"4 lol but I could never take it further even though I want to, I would die. But sorry to hear your son went to jail. Even though I think my mom hurt me more emotionally, actually their probably about even, but I respect her more then I do my dad, but she respects us more then he does. Ya, my dad says the same thing, but he will also tell people to watch out.
And I know it's not my fault, but it just sucks. And I know its not their fault that they grew up with c**p, and only know what they were taught, and I know their better then what their parents are, but again it just sucks. And I know there's a ton of dysfunctional families out there, my friends all live in them too. But ya, it does answer some of the "WHY?"
Well I love it when their at work, I feel like I can breath and then dread it when 4 o'clock hits. I do go out a lot, but I have to be home for dinner which is at like 6 and then I have to be home for 10 unless I can justify why I'm staying out. Which again I don't really get because my brother could do whatever he wanted, he wasn't always home for dinner and that was fine and he could stay out and that was fine, but with me its not and I don't really get that other then I'm a girl but still that's not really fair.
But thanks. I always feel a bit better when I can talk, and you talk.
Lol, okay I'll try and find the British one, because it was really good! I watched it twice already and can't stop laughing.
My brother is like 6"1 and he does work out, my dad is like 5"9 and big. And although my brother works out and has muscles, hes a stick! Like he cannot for the life of him put on weight and he hates it. I think he finally got up to 160...its funny. But my dad is big, he has muscles, more fat then muscles but ya lol and my brother won't mess with him because he knows he can't, but I think he wants too. And then I'm short :-( I think I'm stuck at 5"4 lol but I could never take it further even though I want to, I would die. But sorry to hear your son went to jail. Even though I think my mom hurt me more emotionally, actually their probably about even, but I respect her more then I do my dad, but she respects us more then he does. Ya, my dad says the same thing, but he will also tell people to watch out.
And I know it's not my fault, but it just sucks. And I know its not their fault that they grew up with c**p, and only know what they were taught, and I know their better then what their parents are, but again it just sucks. And I know there's a ton of dysfunctional families out there, my friends all live in them too. But ya, it does answer some of the "WHY?"
Well I love it when their at work, I feel like I can breath and then dread it when 4 o'clock hits. I do go out a lot, but I have to be home for dinner which is at like 6 and then I have to be home for 10 unless I can justify why I'm staying out. Which again I don't really get because my brother could do whatever he wanted, he wasn't always home for dinner and that was fine and he could stay out and that was fine, but with me its not and I don't really get that other then I'm a girl but still that's not really fair.
But thanks. I always feel a bit better when I can talk, and you talk.
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Same old same old....
I don't know, I'm just really upset with my dad! Last week, my mom went away with my grandma, to go visit my great grandma and look at homes for her. Well, when my mom came back she was talking about everything and how shes doing, and it was like my dad could care less, he just kept watching t.v. It made me so mad!! So I was listening for her. And when she was gone, it was like he was happy, like some s****d bachelor or something. He bought beer, and he never ever drinks unless at family functions or something. So I don't know whats going on with him, but I don't like it! And when I say goodnight, he doesn't say it back anymore :-( and he's still kind of mean towards me. But I hate how he is with my mom, and I keep asking her whats going on, I think some of it she won't tell me, and some of it she really doesn't know! Like yesterday, he was breaking plans they made with family friends, and he was saying how hes not doing that and doing this, just s****d stuff. And I know he's tried because hes done extra hours at work, so my moms accommodating to that. And last night he couldn't fall asleep, which is frustrating, but then I couldn't sleep because of him. Like he has to make everyone else suffer for it! I don't know, I just feel like he doesn't love us anymore :'( and I want to say it, but I'm scared to hear the answer! :'( He's just never happy anymore. And I almost said it too my mom, but I don't want to upset her.
And this Sunday is family pictures with my moms side of the family, so my grandparents, and aunts and uncles and cousins.
And what do you think about that other girl? Do you think its all real? and if so, you think she'll be okay? - do you know who I'm referring too?
O ya, and my friend is leaving soon :'(
I don't know, I'm just really upset with my dad! Last week, my mom went away with my grandma, to go visit my great grandma and look at homes for her. Well, when my mom came back she was talking about everything and how shes doing, and it was like my dad could care less, he just kept watching t.v. It made me so mad!! So I was listening for her. And when she was gone, it was like he was happy, like some s****d bachelor or something. He bought beer, and he never ever drinks unless at family functions or something. So I don't know whats going on with him, but I don't like it! And when I say goodnight, he doesn't say it back anymore :-( and he's still kind of mean towards me. But I hate how he is with my mom, and I keep asking her whats going on, I think some of it she won't tell me, and some of it she really doesn't know! Like yesterday, he was breaking plans they made with family friends, and he was saying how hes not doing that and doing this, just s****d stuff. And I know he's tried because hes done extra hours at work, so my moms accommodating to that. And last night he couldn't fall asleep, which is frustrating, but then I couldn't sleep because of him. Like he has to make everyone else suffer for it! I don't know, I just feel like he doesn't love us anymore :'( and I want to say it, but I'm scared to hear the answer! :'( He's just never happy anymore. And I almost said it too my mom, but I don't want to upset her.
And this Sunday is family pictures with my moms side of the family, so my grandparents, and aunts and uncles and cousins.
And what do you think about that other girl? Do you think its all real? and if so, you think she'll be okay? - do you know who I'm referring too?
O ya, and my friend is leaving soon :'(
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Actually honey! After reading SO many emails, NOTHING would surprise me anymore!
I think you dad has a lot going on - men can have a midlife crisis - similar to a womans menopause! He sounds even depressed! What I DONT like is everyone being afraid of him! THAT is bullying!
I know you don't want to upset your mom! BUT there is NOTHING more dangerous than a female protecting her young! And I think that IF you and her just sit down and you tell her how your dad is making you feel, I think this will empower her to do or say something! IT sounds like he is making your lives miserable! And that is NOT right! I told my dad once - "Just leave will you? We will be SO much happier" That is when I was moving out at 19! He was SO mad that I was leaving the "happy home" that he made it a living hell!
I don't think children should EVER be afraid of their parents, they should respect them yes!< but fear them NO! So IF he gets violent with you Claire, get out of there and even call the police! HE needs MAJOR counselling - as I think the whole family does! But really talk to your mom! Let her have a say in things! She might be upset - because she wanted better for her children and will be upset that things aren't going the way she planned! BUT she already knows what you will say honey! She's there too remember?
Will that thing be there at the photos? IF he is, remember stand tall and eye to eye! Stare him down! I want that slug to be quaking in his boots!
I think you dad has a lot going on - men can have a midlife crisis - similar to a womans menopause! He sounds even depressed! What I DONT like is everyone being afraid of him! THAT is bullying!
I know you don't want to upset your mom! BUT there is NOTHING more dangerous than a female protecting her young! And I think that IF you and her just sit down and you tell her how your dad is making you feel, I think this will empower her to do or say something! IT sounds like he is making your lives miserable! And that is NOT right! I told my dad once - "Just leave will you? We will be SO much happier" That is when I was moving out at 19! He was SO mad that I was leaving the "happy home" that he made it a living hell!
I don't think children should EVER be afraid of their parents, they should respect them yes!< but fear them NO! So IF he gets violent with you Claire, get out of there and even call the police! HE needs MAJOR counselling - as I think the whole family does! But really talk to your mom! Let her have a say in things! She might be upset - because she wanted better for her children and will be upset that things aren't going the way she planned! BUT she already knows what you will say honey! She's there too remember?
Will that thing be there at the photos? IF he is, remember stand tall and eye to eye! Stare him down! I want that slug to be quaking in his boots!
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I know, but what do you do about it!? I'm so tired of it, and my mom is too now. Shes just like whatever with it. And its annoying, and my brother is never home, but he and my dad talk like their all fine and I hate that, I want that! There was one time where it was really bad, where he fought with my brother, and that was a few years ago, and it feels like that again. I want to bring something up, and almost did last night, but I don't want to make anything worse. I think he is having a mid-life crisis, because when my parents were on holidays, everything was great, but soon after it went down. Like hes not happy unless hes in Florida. Hes tired of work, hates our house and wants to move but my mom doesn't want to because its finally paid for. Just things he wants to do, but theres no money for and it makes him mad. But to me, like we have a home, and its not the best, but its HOME and I like it. I just want him to be happy again with the simple things. And be happy with my mom and love her, and its like he only does when their on vacation.
I want to say those things too him, but I don't want to hurt him either. I think hes at the point in life where hes like "is this it!?" its just how do you get past that?
ya, my cousin and uncle will be at the photos. I think their doing like group ones, and then individual family ones, and my mom and sisters, and probably one of all us grand kids. I'll try! but who knows.... 8-|
I want to say those things too him, but I don't want to hurt him either. I think hes at the point in life where hes like "is this it!?" its just how do you get past that?
ya, my cousin and uncle will be at the photos. I think their doing like group ones, and then individual family ones, and my mom and sisters, and probably one of all us grand kids. I'll try! but who knows.... 8-|
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Last night, was actually good. He started to talk to me more, and nicely, and didn't ignore me. He was trying to joke around too, his way of saying "I'm sorry" but he will never actually say it. He was even talking to my mom nicely, and listening to her and asking her questions. I don't know, everything was just calmer which was a nice feeling for a change. Maybe my mom said something too him because I told her what I thought about it. Or maybe he just got some more weed because he came home 30mins later then normal, who knows! We'll see how long this lasts for. Maybe now we can actually all smile for the pictures, without having to really fake it!
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well, we had our pictures today, we were suppose to do it tomorrow but because of the rain we did it today, even though it rained on us a bit, which sucked majorly!! I straightened my hair for nothing! I really hate frizz, and then of course it has to go all wavy on me. >:( but everyone's hair was like that.
well, i wasn't really near them which was good. we did like individual family ones, then grand kid ones and then individual ones and group ones, so i wasn't near them which was good. But my dad was like complaining the whole time of course! The only one that ever does! And I hate that! Like grow up and s**k it up! I hate hate having my picture taken, but I did it, and the lady was awesome because she found out I hate them so when it was my individual one she made everyone leave :-D but we were waiting for my aunt and her family to show, and there was one awkward moment where my uncle looked at me weird so I gave him a look and felt uncomfortable so I looked and moved away, and he stopped. But he didn't try to go near me or talk to me so I was happy about that. And after we all went out for dinner and while we were waiting to be seated I somehow ended up near my cousin and he was trying to talk to me but I gave him a look to and so he stopped and then I moved away. But that was it. Still never said anything 8-| :-( but its really hard to!!!! And with everyone else there, it's even harder.
well, i wasn't really near them which was good. we did like individual family ones, then grand kid ones and then individual ones and group ones, so i wasn't near them which was good. But my dad was like complaining the whole time of course! The only one that ever does! And I hate that! Like grow up and s**k it up! I hate hate having my picture taken, but I did it, and the lady was awesome because she found out I hate them so when it was my individual one she made everyone leave :-D but we were waiting for my aunt and her family to show, and there was one awkward moment where my uncle looked at me weird so I gave him a look and felt uncomfortable so I looked and moved away, and he stopped. But he didn't try to go near me or talk to me so I was happy about that. And after we all went out for dinner and while we were waiting to be seated I somehow ended up near my cousin and he was trying to talk to me but I gave him a look to and so he stopped and then I moved away. But that was it. Still never said anything 8-| :-( but its really hard to!!!! And with everyone else there, it's even harder.
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Hi Claire! I think this computer is still messing up! I didn't see that message till just now! And several I sent didn't show up either!!! Anyways VERY proud of you for standing your ground at the pictures! How's things this week with the dys(functional) parents! ;-)
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Ya, sometimes its really slow and I have trouble signing in sometimes.
Its the same as always! Things were getting better, but then yesterday my dad was grumpy and mad again, because apparently my mom never told him something, but she did and was talking about it all week, but he claims she never told him. So hes all mad again >:( :-( not as bad as before, but hes ignoring everyone. So again my mom is tip toeing around him and trying to please him, but shes fed up too and ignores him a bit too.
I don't even care anymore, I'm so tired of it, no one cares about anything or me, so why should I care about anything. Its so bad right now.... :'(
Its the same as always! Things were getting better, but then yesterday my dad was grumpy and mad again, because apparently my mom never told him something, but she did and was talking about it all week, but he claims she never told him. So hes all mad again >:( :-( not as bad as before, but hes ignoring everyone. So again my mom is tip toeing around him and trying to please him, but shes fed up too and ignores him a bit too.
I don't even care anymore, I'm so tired of it, no one cares about anything or me, so why should I care about anything. Its so bad right now.... :'(
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I CARE ABOUT YOU! And so does your parents! They are just not looking around at the damage they are doing1 You know what I will tell you somehting BAD so bare with me OK?
When I was about 13 - my mom and dad, always attacked each other physically etc - so this time my dad was choking my mom to death! It was HORRIBLE! I ran to them and in the middle of this horror, I screamed "I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE YOU ARE KILING ME! STOP IT!!!!!!!!!" My dad just stopped and I ran out of the house to my cousins house! And stayed there the night! They NEVER mentioned it!! it was CRAZY!
BUT he NEVER attacked my mother infront of us again! He did it when I moved out of the house! BUT my mother was just as bad it was HELL! So I want you to do this! Next time your dad does something or say something! Say something like this "You know what dad?! How do you think what you just did/said does to myself and ? (brother) ? ALL I want to do is leave and NEVER come back! You are making our lives HELL! And just let me know if this is going to continue or are you going to get some help? Because if it continues I want you to phone Aunty ? (or friends house etc) and tell them I want to live there! Because I can't take it anymore!
IF you dad becomes violent, you grab your dog, and go to the nearest friends house! I did when I was VERY young - about 7/8 my mom and dad were trying to kil each other, and what myself and my sister saw was HORRIFIC! I took my sister (4/5) by the hand and ran down the street to my grandmas!!!! All the neighbours were on the street, and trying to stop me from running! BUT I just wanted to get somewhere AWAY from my so called parents!
Parents can be VERY VERY selfish and just think about themselves without looking down at their kids! So demand more! BIG HUGS HONEY!
When I was about 13 - my mom and dad, always attacked each other physically etc - so this time my dad was choking my mom to death! It was HORRIBLE! I ran to them and in the middle of this horror, I screamed "I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE YOU ARE KILING ME! STOP IT!!!!!!!!!" My dad just stopped and I ran out of the house to my cousins house! And stayed there the night! They NEVER mentioned it!! it was CRAZY!
BUT he NEVER attacked my mother infront of us again! He did it when I moved out of the house! BUT my mother was just as bad it was HELL! So I want you to do this! Next time your dad does something or say something! Say something like this "You know what dad?! How do you think what you just did/said does to myself and ? (brother) ? ALL I want to do is leave and NEVER come back! You are making our lives HELL! And just let me know if this is going to continue or are you going to get some help? Because if it continues I want you to phone Aunty ? (or friends house etc) and tell them I want to live there! Because I can't take it anymore!
IF you dad becomes violent, you grab your dog, and go to the nearest friends house! I did when I was VERY young - about 7/8 my mom and dad were trying to kil each other, and what myself and my sister saw was HORRIFIC! I took my sister (4/5) by the hand and ran down the street to my grandmas!!!! All the neighbours were on the street, and trying to stop me from running! BUT I just wanted to get somewhere AWAY from my so called parents!
Parents can be VERY VERY selfish and just think about themselves without looking down at their kids! So demand more! BIG HUGS HONEY!
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It's too late now to do or change anything anyway. I don't even care about myself anymore! And its not going so good.
My dad doesn't care about me, or anyone! Before I thought I had problems with my mom, and I did, she has hurt me a lot emotionally, but I kind of got over that and realized that she is there for me and does kind of care about me, and now shes showing it more, where before she only did with my brother. Still not to the point of hugging and saying I love you, but part of that is my fault. But my dad, who I thought was there for me, isn't! And he shows it well! Like tonight, when I went to bed, I said goodnight to both of them, and only my mom answered back, my dad always did! It's little things where I'm like what the heck did I do to you. And the ignoring part I hate, and when I talk he brushes it off and doesn't care or listen, and he's always been like that with me, my whole life! And my mom. I just hate when he's mad, because he lets everyone know he is, and we all hurt and suffer in the process.
My brother, hes never ever home, never asks me anything or talks to me or helps me or sticks up for anyone. I get what you said before that he just wants out, but I wish he would care and do more.
I would want to leave so bad, and stay at my aunts house, but they live 30 mins away, they all do except for my one aunts house their like 5 mins away, but my cousin lives there so I would never go there. And that would hurt my mom so bad!! And I don't want to do that, and leave her all alone. And no one knows about anything so ya.
And if I were to say something, I be scared of the consequences and he would be like here, let me pack your bangs for you! And ya I want to leave, but that would hurt so bad!! And hurt my mom so bad! And again, I don't want to leave her.
My dad doesn't care about me, or anyone! Before I thought I had problems with my mom, and I did, she has hurt me a lot emotionally, but I kind of got over that and realized that she is there for me and does kind of care about me, and now shes showing it more, where before she only did with my brother. Still not to the point of hugging and saying I love you, but part of that is my fault. But my dad, who I thought was there for me, isn't! And he shows it well! Like tonight, when I went to bed, I said goodnight to both of them, and only my mom answered back, my dad always did! It's little things where I'm like what the heck did I do to you. And the ignoring part I hate, and when I talk he brushes it off and doesn't care or listen, and he's always been like that with me, my whole life! And my mom. I just hate when he's mad, because he lets everyone know he is, and we all hurt and suffer in the process.
My brother, hes never ever home, never asks me anything or talks to me or helps me or sticks up for anyone. I get what you said before that he just wants out, but I wish he would care and do more.
I would want to leave so bad, and stay at my aunts house, but they live 30 mins away, they all do except for my one aunts house their like 5 mins away, but my cousin lives there so I would never go there. And that would hurt my mom so bad!! And I don't want to do that, and leave her all alone. And no one knows about anything so ya.
And if I were to say something, I be scared of the consequences and he would be like here, let me pack your bangs for you! And ya I want to leave, but that would hurt so bad!! And hurt my mom so bad! And again, I don't want to leave her.
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As a mom, let me tell you something about your mom Claire! IF your dad was SUCH a J**K to do that! Your mom would NOT just sit there, her motherly protectivness WOULD come out in spades! I have been married for 22 years! And have ALWAYS said to my husband - when he was fighting with my boys - especially my eldest - "DONT make me choose, as you WILL LOOSE!" I would rather sleep on the streets with my kids then let them think they are alone!
I know you are hurting, and I am quite worried about you actually, you sound VERY down! BUT you HAVE to let your mom become a mom! She has to be given the chance to have it out with your dad, put him on the spot and give him an ultimatum! IF he was to get violent you phone the police right away! I think he is an addict, and when he can't get high he is a "J##K"! TOO BAD BUDDY!!!!! And GROW UP!!
My father was a violent alcoholic - the things I saw and had to endure are written in nightmare books!! I was NEVER home - because of ALL the fighting etc. My sister and I had NO relationship! One night my dad was HAMMERED beyond even being able to stand! My sister came home late - from work - and she was making a fried egg! My dad staggered into the kitchen and demanded that she give him the egg! she said "No I'm hungry!" All of a sudden I heard the wind being hit out of her chest, my sister fell to the floor, my mom screamed at my dad "SLAP!!!" My mom went down! I was wearing high heels I grabbed one and a glass pop bottle, I hit him over the head with the shoe, and then the end of the bottle! He fell into the closet, I thought I had killed him! BUT I couldn't care less! We ALL went to bed, with him lying in the closet -- o.O 8-| - and the next morning my dad or my mom or myself and my sister didn't say a THING! BUT it never got to that point again! He knew and everyone else knew that I would NOT allow his dispicable behaviou anymore!
And event hough you feel you are too young, you STILL have RIGHTS! And you have EVERY right to tell him off! And verbally support your mom in front of him! He HAS to know that all 3 of you - and talk to your brother, he is feeling the same as you - are NOT going to take it ANYMORE! You have to stand shoulder to shoulder and stare him down! It's the only way! OR you just tell your mom in private that you can't handle it and want to move! See what your moms reaction is going to be! Right now she is just accepting everything - thinking "Well if it was SO bad Claire and ? would have said something to me!" NOW you need to say something!
Just know I'm here and I CARE VERY MUCH about you Claire! And also know, just because today might suck, tommorrow might be the best day of your life!!! So you hang in there OK? Much Love and BIG HUGS!
I know you are hurting, and I am quite worried about you actually, you sound VERY down! BUT you HAVE to let your mom become a mom! She has to be given the chance to have it out with your dad, put him on the spot and give him an ultimatum! IF he was to get violent you phone the police right away! I think he is an addict, and when he can't get high he is a "J##K"! TOO BAD BUDDY!!!!! And GROW UP!!
My father was a violent alcoholic - the things I saw and had to endure are written in nightmare books!! I was NEVER home - because of ALL the fighting etc. My sister and I had NO relationship! One night my dad was HAMMERED beyond even being able to stand! My sister came home late - from work - and she was making a fried egg! My dad staggered into the kitchen and demanded that she give him the egg! she said "No I'm hungry!" All of a sudden I heard the wind being hit out of her chest, my sister fell to the floor, my mom screamed at my dad "SLAP!!!" My mom went down! I was wearing high heels I grabbed one and a glass pop bottle, I hit him over the head with the shoe, and then the end of the bottle! He fell into the closet, I thought I had killed him! BUT I couldn't care less! We ALL went to bed, with him lying in the closet -- o.O 8-| - and the next morning my dad or my mom or myself and my sister didn't say a THING! BUT it never got to that point again! He knew and everyone else knew that I would NOT allow his dispicable behaviou anymore!
And event hough you feel you are too young, you STILL have RIGHTS! And you have EVERY right to tell him off! And verbally support your mom in front of him! He HAS to know that all 3 of you - and talk to your brother, he is feeling the same as you - are NOT going to take it ANYMORE! You have to stand shoulder to shoulder and stare him down! It's the only way! OR you just tell your mom in private that you can't handle it and want to move! See what your moms reaction is going to be! Right now she is just accepting everything - thinking "Well if it was SO bad Claire and ? would have said something to me!" NOW you need to say something!
Just know I'm here and I CARE VERY MUCH about you Claire! And also know, just because today might suck, tommorrow might be the best day of your life!!! So you hang in there OK? Much Love and BIG HUGS!
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But she does just sit there! And if I say something, she gets mad at me, because she gets scared and doesn't want me to start anything, and I get scared because I don't know how he will react to things all the time, we butt heads all the time! And then later my mom will come into my room, quietly without him knowing and talk to me about what happened and why he did that, and if I explain my part and what I think I should do she gets mad and tells me not to do anything and to do this and that and apologize to him to make it better, but I won't because I don't need to and shouldn't have to, he does! But she will never say that to him. Ya she talks with him too and asks why he does that but it doesn't do anything because she only goes so far. And I know its so hard for her, so I try to make it easy for her, but its all c**p!
I'm hurting and down because of everything that I'm doing and that's gone on.
Ya, because the week he was nice, I found stuff, and now its gone! Same when he was trying to quiet smoking cigarettes, it was worse!! So I told him to just smoke, so we could all live!
We do talk to her, like yesterday my brother asked her what was wrong with him now, she knows how we feel, maybe not that we want out, but that would k*ll her, but she will have talks with us, and she tries to with my dad but ya.
Tomorrow will not be the best day of my life, but I'm so happy he will be gone to work for the day!
I'm hurting and down because of everything that I'm doing and that's gone on.
Ya, because the week he was nice, I found stuff, and now its gone! Same when he was trying to quiet smoking cigarettes, it was worse!! So I told him to just smoke, so we could all live!
We do talk to her, like yesterday my brother asked her what was wrong with him now, she knows how we feel, maybe not that we want out, but that would k*ll her, but she will have talks with us, and she tries to with my dad but ya.
Tomorrow will not be the best day of my life, but I'm so happy he will be gone to work for the day!
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