No because they are toll free numbers and on your phone line it will just show a grand total!
Hi honey I found this one for Ontario
Assautled womens helpline - confidential - Crisis Line Information
#SAFE (#7233)
GTA 416.863.0511
GTA TTY
416.364.8762
TOLL-FREE - 1.866.863.0511
TOLL-FREE
TTY 1.866.863.7868
It says that it is only women! So IF a man comes on ask to speak to a woman counsellor!
Hi honey I found this one for Ontario
Assautled womens helpline - confidential - Crisis Line Information
#SAFE (#7233)
GTA 416.863.0511
GTA TTY
416.364.8762
TOLL-FREE - 1.866.863.0511
TOLL-FREE
TTY 1.866.863.7868
It says that it is only women! So IF a man comes on ask to speak to a woman counsellor!
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I couldn't call anyone today because my brother was home because he didn't have to work, and then later my parents came home. I know my parents are going out tomorrow during the day so if I know my brother won't be home then I might call. Still have to get the guts to do it...and Kids Help Phone answered my posts and said to call them and they will give me places to go, and I think the number you gave me will talk too and then give me places to go to. I don't know lol I go back and forth 8-|
Still can't believe what you got me to do! Like you got me to tell you somehow lol and then helped me and then got me to tell someone and stand up to someone and now somehow your getting me to call people! lol ... your good! but you really are good because your always honest about stuff and help me and tell your stuff and never push me to do anything and give me time, I figured it out lmao but it still works XD your really good! But not good enough to ever tell my parents!
Still can't believe what you got me to do! Like you got me to tell you somehow lol and then helped me and then got me to tell someone and stand up to someone and now somehow your getting me to call people! lol ... your good! but you really are good because your always honest about stuff and help me and tell your stuff and never push me to do anything and give me time, I figured it out lmao but it still works XD your really good! But not good enough to ever tell my parents!
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I TOTALLY get not telling your parents Claire! However, as a mother, I would be heartbroken knowing my child is hurting and can't tell me! BUT As a mother I am also aware of just what I would be capable of if someone hurt my child, even if it was a family member! IF you ever become ready to talk to them - in the future - I have a feeling that people wont be so shocked as you think they would be!
When someone is a freak of nature - like your cousin - people sense that! I call it "spidey senses"! It's like "There is something not right about that boy/girl!" "He/She gives me the weeby jeeby's!" That sort of thing! They can't put their finger on it or say what it is! BUT something stinks and then when the time comes and someone brings up about that person, then everyone is like "I KNEW IT!!!!" Say you have someone in your family - your dad for instance - and someone said something about him and you are like! "NO WAY!" But then there is someone else and you think "Yeah that definitely could be!" I am SURE your parents are aware of what a freak your cousin is, yet don't say anything because he is "family"! I have NEVER pushed my kids onto anyone - like insisting they kiss Aunty so and so, or snuggle with Uncle this and that! - When they were little! I wanted them to do this on their own and if they didn't feel like it, it was a mute point! And that's where a lot of family's go wrong - kind of like "that doesn't happen in my family" So it's the same thing! BUT that's up to you! I am proud of you Claire! I truly wish I had this site and other s and phone numbers to call, when I was your age! I think it would have left me in a much stronger state IF I had that support!
Just remember it's on your time table! IF you aren't ready, you're not ready! I would NEVER push you into this! Just when you NEED it that's all honey!
When someone is a freak of nature - like your cousin - people sense that! I call it "spidey senses"! It's like "There is something not right about that boy/girl!" "He/She gives me the weeby jeeby's!" That sort of thing! They can't put their finger on it or say what it is! BUT something stinks and then when the time comes and someone brings up about that person, then everyone is like "I KNEW IT!!!!" Say you have someone in your family - your dad for instance - and someone said something about him and you are like! "NO WAY!" But then there is someone else and you think "Yeah that definitely could be!" I am SURE your parents are aware of what a freak your cousin is, yet don't say anything because he is "family"! I have NEVER pushed my kids onto anyone - like insisting they kiss Aunty so and so, or snuggle with Uncle this and that! - When they were little! I wanted them to do this on their own and if they didn't feel like it, it was a mute point! And that's where a lot of family's go wrong - kind of like "that doesn't happen in my family" So it's the same thing! BUT that's up to you! I am proud of you Claire! I truly wish I had this site and other s and phone numbers to call, when I was your age! I think it would have left me in a much stronger state IF I had that support!
Just remember it's on your time table! IF you aren't ready, you're not ready! I would NEVER push you into this! Just when you NEED it that's all honey!
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I know :'( I would want my kids to tell me too 8-| I can't even tell my parents about the little stuff, let alone the big stuff. Its not that I necessarily think they would be shocked, I know my dad would kill him and my brother would want to hurt him too and my mom would be really hurt, like its bad enough if I hurt, I don't want them to hurt too and think "they should have known" or something and blame themselves too...you know? ... and then it would ruin my aunt and her family, and probably put a strain on my mom and hers relationship. I've done a lot of thinking about it too...and deep down I know I really should tell them, but deep down I don't want to hurt anyone.
People do know theres something not right about him, even my aunt...and she says how she didn't raise her son to be like he is. Like they got divorced a few years ago and his dad isn't in his life, and they never had a good close relationship. But hes like really rude to my aunt and lazy and never helps her with anything, she kicked him out once but then he went back. He is weird with his girlfriends, like overprotective of them and controling of them, it is really sad!! this is what my aunt and cousin said. and hes lazy and quites his jobs randomly and stuff and never finished highschool, he only needs one credit but ya. So he is weird and c**p and everyone does know it, they just don't know hes a pervert too.
ya sometimes my parents push me to hug people and stuff, when its family, but mainly just my grandparents. I like never even hug my parents, its really sad but I don't like to be touched, even though hes my dad and I know it kills him because he always talks about how I never hug him :-( but its awkward to me for some reason and I don't really know why...do you know why?
I know! and thats why I like you lol
People do know theres something not right about him, even my aunt...and she says how she didn't raise her son to be like he is. Like they got divorced a few years ago and his dad isn't in his life, and they never had a good close relationship. But hes like really rude to my aunt and lazy and never helps her with anything, she kicked him out once but then he went back. He is weird with his girlfriends, like overprotective of them and controling of them, it is really sad!! this is what my aunt and cousin said. and hes lazy and quites his jobs randomly and stuff and never finished highschool, he only needs one credit but ya. So he is weird and c**p and everyone does know it, they just don't know hes a pervert too.
ya sometimes my parents push me to hug people and stuff, when its family, but mainly just my grandparents. I like never even hug my parents, its really sad but I don't like to be touched, even though hes my dad and I know it kills him because he always talks about how I never hug him :-( but its awkward to me for some reason and I don't really know why...do you know why?
I know! and thats why I like you lol
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It's a physical space thing! Your's was violated, and you can't put yourself out like that again - even for your father! It's your brain protecting you at all odds! It's HIS fault, so don't beat yourself up about it OK? One day, when you learn the tools, you will be able to do this for him! My dogs got me up too early, I'm going back to bed! 8-| talk to you later aligator!
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Okay, Bambi (almost called you mom!! o.O but anyways) that's really weird because my dog woke me up too, when my parents left they put him back in my room, because he always cries to come in my room, well then he started crying at me to get up, so annoying!
Did you ever have that problem? You know what else, I will like always do the opposite of what people (mainly my parents) tell me to do, its so stupid, even for little stuff. Like I went to get something to eat, and I was thinking some yogurt, and then my mom has to say to me that she just bought some more yogurt and I should have that. And it makes me so mad because had she not said anything I would have eaten it, but then because shes like telling me to it makes me not want to %-) guess that's how I get my control which is dumb but its like that for everything. So I always tell her just to keep her mouth shut and that I'll be good and not tell me what to do. Soooo stupid!!
You know what else really pisses me off!!? My dad! And only me and my mom know about it, possibly my brother. And what he does makes me hate him and not want to talk to him or be around him. And makes me so not trust him or my mom :'( but hes brought weed into the house :'( He started to do some sneaky things, like quietly go in the basement and close the door quietly, which before he would just leave the door open. And he smokes but he always goes outside to do that, well he like hid a pack and would go to it and then go downstairs. well then I noticed that when he would come upstairs his eyes would be red. so then I caught on...it was so horrible!! This was awhile back though. well then one day I found some joints and threw them all out, and of course he can't cay anything about it. I don't think I told my mom. So then I was like always on the look out, waiting for him to do something sneaky. It f*****g sucks! Well then, he started to grow a plant, but I found it because you can smell it! so I like told my mom that and killed it by poising it. And she was really socked and heartbroken and mad. :-( but like every now and then I will find one, and he keeps get sneakier about where he hides it. And i've told my mom about those too and she like never does anything about it. Like I guess shes scared too but still!! It makes me think shes okay with it and I know shes not, so I never get why she never goes anything about it. I f*****g really hate my life!! >:( :'( Stupid f*****g parents!!!!! They don't protect me from that, they won't protect me from anything! That's why I'm all alone!
Did you ever have that problem? You know what else, I will like always do the opposite of what people (mainly my parents) tell me to do, its so stupid, even for little stuff. Like I went to get something to eat, and I was thinking some yogurt, and then my mom has to say to me that she just bought some more yogurt and I should have that. And it makes me so mad because had she not said anything I would have eaten it, but then because shes like telling me to it makes me not want to %-) guess that's how I get my control which is dumb but its like that for everything. So I always tell her just to keep her mouth shut and that I'll be good and not tell me what to do. Soooo stupid!!
You know what else really pisses me off!!? My dad! And only me and my mom know about it, possibly my brother. And what he does makes me hate him and not want to talk to him or be around him. And makes me so not trust him or my mom :'( but hes brought weed into the house :'( He started to do some sneaky things, like quietly go in the basement and close the door quietly, which before he would just leave the door open. And he smokes but he always goes outside to do that, well he like hid a pack and would go to it and then go downstairs. well then I noticed that when he would come upstairs his eyes would be red. so then I caught on...it was so horrible!! This was awhile back though. well then one day I found some joints and threw them all out, and of course he can't cay anything about it. I don't think I told my mom. So then I was like always on the look out, waiting for him to do something sneaky. It f*****g sucks! Well then, he started to grow a plant, but I found it because you can smell it! so I like told my mom that and killed it by poising it. And she was really socked and heartbroken and mad. :-( but like every now and then I will find one, and he keeps get sneakier about where he hides it. And i've told my mom about those too and she like never does anything about it. Like I guess shes scared too but still!! It makes me think shes okay with it and I know shes not, so I never get why she never goes anything about it. I f*****g really hate my life!! >:( :'( Stupid f*****g parents!!!!! They don't protect me from that, they won't protect me from anything! That's why I'm all alone!
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OK Claire take a deep breath! Your parents are around my age and my age group smoking dope - isn't a big deal! He was probably a stoner when he was a kid and continues throughout his life! And since it is bugging you, you REALLY need to tell him about it! He's NOT doing this to YOU Claire! He is just doing it! It's not to hurt anyone, it's just like other mothers and fathers who drink a bottle of wine or a couple of beers after work! Talk to him about it! He might not know it is so offensive to you! And of course he is there to protect you!
And you are a teenager so If I say Black you WILL say white - thus the need for hair dye! ;-) - it's just you finding your own fotting in life!
Parents are big children Claire, they are still little kids or want to be! so don't be too hard on your dad! As long as he is a good guy and generally a good dad, then his problem is more of an irritant! IF it is devestating the family then this is a problem! Look at it that way OK?
Also I would be a hypocrite not to tell you that I use marijuana cookies - for pain! So since I'm on 23 pills a day, I would FAR rather take a couple of pieces of happy cookies way over ALL the side effects of "LEGAL" drugs! So don't judge me on that OK? We ALL need some sort of escape from whatever pains we have!
And you are a teenager so If I say Black you WILL say white - thus the need for hair dye! ;-) - it's just you finding your own fotting in life!
Parents are big children Claire, they are still little kids or want to be! so don't be too hard on your dad! As long as he is a good guy and generally a good dad, then his problem is more of an irritant! IF it is devestating the family then this is a problem! Look at it that way OK?
Also I would be a hypocrite not to tell you that I use marijuana cookies - for pain! So since I'm on 23 pills a day, I would FAR rather take a couple of pieces of happy cookies way over ALL the side effects of "LEGAL" drugs! So don't judge me on that OK? We ALL need some sort of escape from whatever pains we have!
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I don't like that answer :-( So you still do drugs or your friends? (not talking about the cookies!) He would be pissed at me if I ever brought it up! I know it hurts me and my mom. I know hes not doing it to me, but it upsets me. But its legal to drink and stuff, not legal to grow plants and smoke.
And yours is different, you use it for pain. My dad just does it to do it.
And I don't want to upset you in saying this, but that's like saying its okay for your son to do cocaine, unless you do think that I don't know. Sorry I probably crossed the line on that one but it does upset me and does piss me off, especially when they preach for us to not do drugs. And its like its okay for me to cut, even though I know its not.
Sorry but I'm just really frustrated.
And yours is different, you use it for pain. My dad just does it to do it.
And I don't want to upset you in saying this, but that's like saying its okay for your son to do cocaine, unless you do think that I don't know. Sorry I probably crossed the line on that one but it does upset me and does piss me off, especially when they preach for us to not do drugs. And its like its okay for me to cut, even though I know its not.
Sorry but I'm just really frustrated.
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Bambi, I honestly want to sincerely apologize for my statement to you. I was way out of line! So sorry for hurting you or making you mad.
But just like I'm sure you don't want your son on drugs, well I don't want my dad, if you can understand that.
But I really am honestly sorry for the stuff I said. Hope you can forgive me for that.
But just like I'm sure you don't want your son on drugs, well I don't want my dad, if you can understand that.
But I really am honestly sorry for the stuff I said. Hope you can forgive me for that.
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Thankyou Claire! I was quite taken aback by that! It is hypocritical of your dad to say NO to drugs when he is doing it! And in my case I have told my boys and their friends I do this ONLY for pain! And this is in NO way an approval of them taking it! Thus me feeling VERY guilty about him becoming addicted, I thought I let him do it! BUT like the counsellor said "We ALL have the capacity to make choices!" Tell your dad that this bugs you! Start conversing with him! Secrets beget Secrets! And IF he thinks no one knows then he will keep on! And IF he knows just how much this is hurting his daughter I am SURE he will try and stop his behaviour!
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Ya, again I really am sorry...you told me something and I should have never used it in that way. And you've been there a lot for me...
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Bambi, if you don't want to talk to me anymore, then let me know, I'd understand. That isn't like me at all and I am really sorry.
He knows we know, because my mom has talked to him about it before and made him get rid of it. And he knows I kill them lol So he does know, he just won't say anything about it. And I know if I were to say anything, he would get really angry and tell me its none of my business and stuff. I honestly don't think if he knew that I was upset about it that he would ever change, if anything he would just be more sneakier about it. Sometimes I hate that my family isn't open about talking about anything. But like you said, that's how they grew up. And in my family that's how I am. But whatever, you were right in saying that as long as hes a good guy and stuff that it is just more of an irritant, just hard to get past that.
He knows we know, because my mom has talked to him about it before and made him get rid of it. And he knows I kill them lol So he does know, he just won't say anything about it. And I know if I were to say anything, he would get really angry and tell me its none of my business and stuff. I honestly don't think if he knew that I was upset about it that he would ever change, if anything he would just be more sneakier about it. Sometimes I hate that my family isn't open about talking about anything. But like you said, that's how they grew up. And in my family that's how I am. But whatever, you were right in saying that as long as hes a good guy and stuff that it is just more of an irritant, just hard to get past that.
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Hi Claire! I was just trying to explain that sometimes parents do CHILDISH things and are hypocrites so they can continue being "16/17" again! My dad was a raging alcoholic, and we would find liquor EVERYWHERE! HE would promise the earth that he had stopped drinking and didn't! So I TOTALLY understand your frustration at him! I know your family is closed off, BUT just as you are different then your family, I was too! And was the ONLY one who dare tell my dad - even when he was drunk - that I was SICK AND TIRED of it! So the way I see it - and once again going back to my original conversation with you! Now that I have gotten you to start standing up a bit more to others, I think the person you are closest too - your dad! Should be the next on the list! And as I said to my dad "I don't CARE that you are getting angry, GROW UP!!" Also I grabbed a bottle of Rye once and started drinking it from the bottle - infront of him! So how about saying "Heh dad, since you're not going to stop smoking up, how about you and I doing a joint together, as you CAN'T POSSIBBLY now tell me it's bad for me!"
I was TOTALLY and UTTERLY different to my immediate family, they didn't ge tme and I them! My mom HATED the way I was, my dad loved it till my mom made him decide to stay with her or keep on my side and she would divorce him!!!! :? :cry: Then EVEYRTHING I did - crying, laughing, etc etc, they HATED! So after a long time of hating myself - because it had to be me, right? It couldn't possibly be the fact that these people were MISERABLE in their own sorry lives and couldn't handle my emotions! So in your case, even though you have picked up on their closed off emotions - to some degree, you are also yourself and just start verbalizing and talking about the things that bug you! IT might be uncomfortable at the beginning, BUT It also kind of leeds the way for others to say their bit too!
By the way, you DID upset me with your comment! BUT I am an adult and I am also aware that you are a teenager and don't get to vent with your own family! So I would NEVER just leave you in the lurch like that OK? Just don't attack me like that again - promise?
Do you watch Big Brother? I'm addicted to it and other dumb reality shows! Such as "True Beauty" And "Maury Povich!" 8)
I was TOTALLY and UTTERLY different to my immediate family, they didn't ge tme and I them! My mom HATED the way I was, my dad loved it till my mom made him decide to stay with her or keep on my side and she would divorce him!!!! :? :cry: Then EVEYRTHING I did - crying, laughing, etc etc, they HATED! So after a long time of hating myself - because it had to be me, right? It couldn't possibly be the fact that these people were MISERABLE in their own sorry lives and couldn't handle my emotions! So in your case, even though you have picked up on their closed off emotions - to some degree, you are also yourself and just start verbalizing and talking about the things that bug you! IT might be uncomfortable at the beginning, BUT It also kind of leeds the way for others to say their bit too!
By the way, you DID upset me with your comment! BUT I am an adult and I am also aware that you are a teenager and don't get to vent with your own family! So I would NEVER just leave you in the lurch like that OK? Just don't attack me like that again - promise?
Do you watch Big Brother? I'm addicted to it and other dumb reality shows! Such as "True Beauty" And "Maury Povich!" 8)
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