So I am gay and I am also 16. I sorta have a crush on a couple of my close guy friends, but they don't exactly know that I am gay. I want to trust them all, mostly the ones I have a crush on, but i'm not sure that I can. The only way I think it might work was if I worked out a deal with one of my buddies I like and said "Hey I am gay, and I like you, but I don't want it to be wierd, and I think we might be able to work something mutual out." But i'm to affraid that it won't work and they will all hate me. Cause I know for a fact one of my friends hates gay people, and my other friend doesn't like to be around them. Remember these are guys I have known forever, and I can't stand to lose them. So, thank you for anyone who reads this, and please I really do need help on finding out what I should do and everything. Thanks.
Hi Curious
The answer too many questions about sexuality are often known without asking and the difficulty can be in accepting the answer and coming to terms with it.
I think these incredibly strong feelings you have for your friend are more than just a curiosity and that is just my opinion, many guys go through a stage where they experiment with same sex relationships.
The way you describe your feelings and fantasies for your friend I think are well beyond a simple crush or curiosity.
There is nothing wrong with you being attracted to him and if you decide to attempt a relationship with him that is fine as well.
The statement normally all I want is gorgeous girls is that because that it what is expected and do any of these girls stir up the same strong feeling you have for him?
So that being said are you straight bi or gay or just curious can best be answered only by you but when you answer it think what would the answer be if we lived in a world that anyone can be open and honest about their sexuality.
Good luck and if you need it youth LGBT support groups can be a wonderful resource for many people.
Hi Confused2015270313,
I think you should tell them because hiding this type of thing from your friends can be very hard. I myself am 16 and have had this problem. I know you said "Cause I know for a fact one of my friends hates gay people, and my other friend doesn't like to be around them." and that is a good and bad thing depending on how you look at it. On one hand, with him being your friend and you have known him "forever", they may take a different approach to how they treat you because you are friends. On the other, they may not be too happy for a while but may change their mind after they've given it a bit of thought. You will never really know unless you try. But before you say anything, you need to make sure that you aren't infatuated. Infatuation isn't real love, its almost like an illusion. Sometimes this happens with crushes and you can never really tell the difference. If they accept you, and I hope they do, then you have some really good friends. But if they don't then maybe try finding some better friends. Friends are supposed to care about you and support you no matter what and if they aren't doing this then they aren't good friends. Anyways, good luck.