Hello. I'm 22 year old male and I'm having troubles with getting my girlfriend to give an oral pleasure.
I have talked with some of my friend which told me that it was hard for them also, but now, they are enjoying in oral sex with their girlfriends.
But, my girlfriend finds it disgusting and refusing to do it. I don’t know what to do about it. Sex without the oral part for me is terrible. Some people told me that oral sex isn’t everything, and that are some much important and pleasurable aspects of good sexual life, but I'm not so sure. Please tell me, what I could do to change her opinion about all this.
I will try to help you with some good advices. First and most important advice I could give you is- accept that this may be enough for her right now. You must do it step by step.
You have probably noticed that the more pressure you place on her, the more she will run away from what you would like her to do. So don’t force her to do anything.
I suggest you to talk with her about it. Talking about sex is the first step in enriching your sex life. Tell her how important this is for you and how you would like for her to try doing it. You didn’t mention anything about this but before she goes down on you, you should first give her an oral pleasure, so after couple of times, she could develop some kind of obligation to do it to you.
In the meantime, you could focus on all the ways your girlfriend shows you that she cares for you, rather than on what you are not getting from her.