Girlfriend who is insulted by porn/masturbation

The difference there is that looking at adult actors is not the same as going to a club and putting yourself in a contious situation were your not only going to be tempted to cheat but to also expose yourself and your partner to STDS. Nobody ever VD from porn, just saying. Masturbation is normal, and porn is a tool to do so.

What about this?
I've been in a relationship for about six months, and I actually stopped watching porn after I entered it. Obviously I still masturbate, but when I do I am either thinking or looking at a picture of my girlfriend. She was aware that I used to watch porn, so last night she randomly asked "What kind of videos did you used to watch?". After about 10 minutes of pressure from her, I finally decided to give her a link to the kind of stuff I used to watch. It was a simple enough video of an attractive girl masturbating. (Im not really one to pretend the penis is mine. That kind of creeps me out. Haha) But anyway, after she saw about two minutes of it, she abruptly ended the skype call and didnt call back for about 10 minutes. When she did, she gave me the silent treatment. So, I got kind of angry (which I still am) and ended the call and went to bed. She claims she just didnt want to talk about it, but she was looking at me like I'm some f*****g creep. She denied it when I asked her of course, but it's quite obvious that she's a little creeped out. What do I do? I'm now angry at her, and her at me as well.

I have been with my GF for 7 years now, she knows I jack off and never really addresses it (it does not bother her) although she does not no how much I jack off. 

 

Our sex life is good, 3-4 times a week(with us both at full time work I'm impressed its that much) but even on a night we have had sex, I will still often jack off later once shes gone home (or a sleep) 

Although pretty much all the time I'm not using porn I'm jacking thinking about what we did earlier.

Sometimes I jack over her Facebook photos, she don't know this no point in telling her, I'm sure its not the worse thing in the world if I told her, not sure how creepy it is lol.

 

 

Girlfriends or wives that have an issue with their BF's or husbands masturbating to porn are ridiculous and need to join the real world. As a guy who is in a committed relationship and has masturbated since I was a young teenager, I can tell you that it is a necessary activity. It does NOT mean that we are not attracted to our SO. The fact is, sometimes we just want alone time and the ability to watch attractive strangers have dirty sex. That's a fact. In the end, as long as your man sexually pleases you, who cares? Men are very different than women sexually. We have the need for release many times a week, where a woman does not. We all know that most women do not always want to have sex at the same time as their man. Or "aunt flow" could be visiting. Do our penises not belong to us anymore? Come on, folks. To finish, the premise of masturbating while thinking of your GF is the dumbest thing ever. Who does that?! Masturbation is a fantasy-filled exercise in relief that all men need. Get off of your high horse, ladies.

Dude, your GF is just trying to guilt trip you. She has no right to criticize you for masturbating to porn before you were with her. It's not like you were watching some crazy sh*t like beastiality. Tell her to get off her high horse and deal with it.

....and for god's sake, just because you are with a girl does not mean that you have to envision her while pleasuring yourself. Fantasizing about hot, strange women and masturbating or watching two strangers have sex and masturbating are not terrible things.

I found this forum after my girlfriend saw my porn (actually I just whack to photos of naked women, not people f*****g or similar) and she absolutely flipped out, angry, crying, and accusing me of being a liar, a jerk, a loser and worse.

This from a woman who masturbates to gay black porn, I kid you not. This also from one of the most breathakingly beautiful women I have ever been with, a woman who, when she leaves the house, has a parade of admirers wherever she goes.

Nonetheless, I don't wish to masturbate when I have a girlfriend and am glad to give it up.  

But she is pathologically insecure and morbidly jealous. She actually accused me today, with a straight face, of whacking off when I went to the store to buy paint and a lightbulb and a coffee. Apparently she thinks I pulled over to the side of the road to masturbate.

I am afraid there is nothing to be done for this particular brand of insanity. 

Men, do as you please. You'll never please them. They are only happy when you're under their control, when you do every little thing they say, and they will wake up in the middle of the night to slap you because they've just had a dream you looked at another woman's ass.

My boyfriend masturbates. When I found out I was shattered. It makes you feel like you aren't enough, like he needs something more than you. Sex is something intimate and should be done with love and if you're doing it with yourself then... there's no love for her like there should be. Masturbation completely shuts her out. If she's anything like me then she's going to feel alone and unloved. I'm not saying that you're a bad person. But if you really love her then you should at least try and stop. Do it for her.

Van_solis, You need to sit him down and discuss after 3.5 years why he has things he needs to hide. Understand that boys start this at puberty, and the worst thing in the World, is having your mom opening the door and catching you. If a guy says he never has masturbated, he is lying. Women usually like soft core porn because there is more of a story and a romantic aspect. Men see porn as sex, used to excite them, so they can please themselves, They don't want a story, or romance. So some women freak out and feel they are being cheated on. It's not like you discuss the things that happen when you went through puberty. So guys don't understand what happens every month, they just know if their wife is irritable, it's that time of the month. Any one who is in a long term relationship, needs to talk to each other so they understand what is going on. Tell him your concerns, and ask about his needs. The last thing a guy would ever want to do is discuss this or any other part of sex with their mother. So they have no idea how to communicate with a woman over these issues. Talk about how much each of you want sex with each other, and work toward common ground. People afraid to talk to each other about sex, will not communicate well with their kids. "The Talk" that everyone talks about when a parent explains the birds and bees, very seldom happens, Make it clear that all you want is communication, not to change what he does, it's natural, and you both need to learn to deal with it.

OMG - your opinion is flawed on so many levels I have no idea where to begin. However, sexual intimacy is a beautiful thing like you say BUT a physical need to masturbate is not wrong. How dare you attempt to instil a guilt trip on folk because of your own insecurities. 99% of men masturbate, and a fair few of those are in relationships. It IS a fact of life!

Porn is definitely stupid. There are many boys on here that want to know when their penis will grow. They think they are all going to end up with a penis like they see in the porn they watch .A lot of people answer it will happen, give it time. Average is 5.5 to 6 inches.
That is factoring in all the men with small penis's and all the larger ones, you get an average. Some guys will end up with small(Tiny), penis's.
I have known guys with a penis the size of my little finger, when it is hard. And there are guys, showing up on webcams, that make horse's jealous. Your family history or genetics is what determines the size of your penis, the same as a girls will decide what size breasts she end up with.

Guest--it appears that you believe that once you have entered into a relationship with a male, that you suddenly become able to satisfy all his needs. That is an unfair and unrealistic expectation. You are pretty arrogant if you think you can satisfy anybody all of the time. So the question becomes: When will you accept that a male, even if he loves you dearly, will occasionally want to experience sexual thoughts that don't include you? The sooner admit that you cannot be anybodies everything, you will be much happier.

It's really whatever if she is upset with it thats her problem not yours. It is not abnormal to be looking at porn. i do it all the time and im fine. people might think it is disgusting but i find i kinda hot. Maybe you shouldn't watch it or talk about it when she is around. She also may have a bad history of it too.

Grow a pair and if the girl doesn't like it to bad. The problem really stems from jealousy

The majority of porn shows women being degraded in some way and women have every right to be offended . In fact a recent study by professor Dines showed that 88% of mainstream pirn showed violence and it includes spitting on the women, slapping ghem and calling them s**ts and whores . Why is it all the porn lovers never mention this ? If he likes porn fair enough but how dare you say she is wrong for not liking it ???? She has as much right to have a relationship whicb doesn't include porn as he does to watch it abd if they disagree they are simply incompatible . Believe it or not there are men who will put their partners feelinsv above their desire to see other naked women.

So a man thinks his visual needs arnt being met by his gf so he feels entitled to use porn
By that logic , all us women who arnt eating listened to ir having our emotional needs met ( one of which is often to have a man who doesn't ejaculate to other women) should feel totally entitled to have emotional affairs with other men
After all if there's no touching involved it's no different and women have needs too .
I for one am telling all my friends who are unhappy to find their partners secret pirn stash to go ahead and get emotional needs met through emotional affairs and if all your gfs are smart they are doing the same ;p