how to know exactly if the hymen is not broken

OK, but you haven't responded to all the points.

4. (a) You didn't say what time of day or (b) in what circumstances you had sex on the first day, or (c) what time of the second day she bled ... (d) Or did your penetration on day two cause the bleeding?

• You have answered (a) only, so I can't confirm the suggestion I made that it could be that her hymen was partially ruptured on first penetration, but her subsequent activity caused the bleeding to occur.

5. You can tell by inspecting her hymen whether it is intact or ruptured.

• Have you checked?

6. What is the basis of your confusion? What are the implications?

• So I can better understand your concern.

Hey.
I'm a 17 year old girl..
I just had some sexual activity with my boyfriend today. I cant say that it was a complete sex because he doesnt put that in completely as we both dont want to lose my virginity..
Even the half of it was not in my vagina.. and I can see my hymen it's fine.. But a liitle bit blood was found on my trousers after that I thought I had my periods so I put the pad on but there too was less blood and I always have heavy bleeding and I'm having a brown discharge since 5 months but few weeks ago the discharge stopped coming out but after having sex which was not a proper and complete sex he just put a slight of it in my vagina which hurt,now the discharge started again (non-smelly)..
Am I going to be pregnant by these symptoms or is my hymen broken? I'm very tensed.. please help

If he put his penis in your vagina, then you are technically no longer a virgin irrespective of the state of your hymen. The average erect penis size is 5½ inches. The unaroused vagina is often only 3-4 inches long.
The blood may indicate you have partially torn your hymen membrane.
Even if he only put the tip of his penis at the entrance of your vagina, semen could still find its way into your vagina (pre-ejaculatory fluid can sometimes contain sperm). If this happened at a fertile time, then there is a risk of pregnancy following.

U can go to planned parent hood. They dont notify ur parents. I'm 29 now but I went there when I was 16..

If no blood came out that mean you are still virgin

don't be ridicules there is a big difference ....

Hai.me and my husband hadn't wear condom during our oral sex..while vaginal sex, he wore a condom and rubbed into my vagina.He tried to penetrate and I moved aside as soon as I felt the pain.i got bleed too...and we are Virgins...
Do I need to take the pills?? As we are planning for the family...right now..
Please let me know

I am not sure what you are meaning, but I will make some comments to state what I think you mean (please correct if I am wrong). I will also ask some questions for clarification..

1. You and your husband are both virgins. Neither of you has ever had sexual intercourse.
2. You had oral sex and he didn't wear a condom.
3. You then tried to have vaginal sex and he wore a condom.
4. You said that he "rubbed into my vagina". With his fingers or penis?
5. He tried to penetrate (wearing a condom) but was unsuccessful because of the pain.
6. You had some bleeding, and that suggests your hymen was ruptured or at least partially ruptured.

You then ask "Do I need to take the pills? As we are planning for the family...right now." The title of this thread is "how to know exactly if the hymen is not broken"

1. Which pills are you talking about?
2. Why do you think you might need to that the pills?
3. What do you mean by "we are planning for the family"? Are you planning to start a family right now?
4. If you are planning to start a family, why is he wearing a condom?
5. When you had oral sex, did he ejaculate?
6. When he ejaculated, where did the ejaculate go?
7. Where are you from?
8. How old are you?
9. How long have you been married?

If you respond, I will try and give some help.