How to prepare myself for the first night/first time sex.

First of all let me congratulate you for your forthcoming marriage. i will say you to not get worry about it. just be calm. the one and only think that's will matter to your soul mate is your smile. it will worth him price less. just say him that how much you love him. discuss about ur family and plan ur future. as u have said u have not talked to him. talk but dont forget to be a good listener. grow ur relation as a friends rather than a husband wife.

and lastly gods lovely gifted make love :$

Try using a tampon before having sex so you feel comfortable with foreign objects going in, if you do not have access to a tampon you can try other object just make sure that they are clean, start with something small, and use a water based jelly for easy penetration. The water-based jelly "K-Y jelly" can help during 1st time sex with your new husband. Be calm and enjoy it. In terms of contraceptives, there are some types of spongy tampons/female condoms you can use that allow easy penetration and will work to prevent pregnancy. I wish you lots of luck. Sexual intercourse is a beautiful concept in Islam, not leading to sin like in the Christian religion. I wish the idea of sex was more openly discussed, I was in the same boat as you. I learned one important thing though, I'll be sure to be very open about sexual intercourse with my child that way she never feels lost and alone when it comes to something this personally important. Good luck =)

I found some links to help you. Some parts won't pertain to you, but some will.
(By the way, please remember that a tampon will NOT feel the same, and that when the time comes, the experience is different for every single person. My suggestion is to ask him to look you in the eye, and hold you as close as he can. This will help relax you. It will impel him to kiss you!
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I'm going to warn you, also, about a common infection. Make sure to stay clean. Use the bathroom beforehand and afterwards, and wash yourself before and after. Because the area will be more moist, it can breed bladder or vaginal infections. If you start feeling weird, make sure your doctor checks you.

Congratulations. I am very happy for you. I wish you a happy and successful marriage. Remember that there *will* be disagreements. Make sure he always knows that you respect him and appreciate him, even if you two don't agree. Let him know he can always come to you and you won't judge. (You might have to do this sometimes, even if he doesn't do the same for you! This way, when it is very, very important, you can tell him that you always try to be there for him, and you need his support now.) And while he is the spiritual leader, you were created as a helper, knowing that you are a capable companion for him.

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IT IS BETTER TO BE VERY CONFIDANT ON THAT TO BE ENCOURAGE TO HIM TO DO MORE & MORE ENJOY ALOT IN FIRST NIGHT AS MUCH AS U CAN. BECAUSE IT WILL HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE AFTER A LONG TIME. FIRST TIME IS BETTER TIME SO DON'T LOOSE THE CHANCE.

Hey! If i were you, and i know your not susposed to talk to him about it, i would def try and talk to him about the issue of the baby. Also, since you have access to the internet, look up things about what guys usually like. I dont want to be the one to put on here the basics that mean like!!

I am not sure what christian you have been exposed to but we do not view sex as sin unless it is done outside marriage. Sex is a beautiful thing that connects two people together. And neither partner should feel uncomfortable to discuss it with the other. The truth is neither of you will ever know whether you are doing the right thing and enjoying each other unless you talk about it. He should please you as much as you please him.

i m very happy to hear this u r a virgin. And u have to satisfy your mate so act wat he likes and feel free just go through some books it wil guide u. u hav lot of books in net.

Hi My name is Ali I live in Africa I am Muslim My home town is Dubai I am Married getting married About 5 months How i should behaving with my wife at first night

Just spread your legs for him He will take care of rest

Loool, She is muslim and what are you saying? Are youn***b?

hello, I am a white English man with a wife and family in the UK, this week I am working from India and I've been over here several time. My best friend is here in India and she is a Muslim girl and waiting for a man to be introduced to her. We have talked in a lot of detail around this subject and all matters of arousal, engagement in sex, what to do, how people behave and I've learnt a lot about Muslim traditions too. I wanted to frame this, so my answer is more helpful and more understanding to you.

I would first of all suggest don't panic, stay calm, your husband would not expect you to be sexually experienced and if he has kept true to his faith he also would not have experience.

I am guessing that you have had absolutely no interaction with this man before you marry and so when you meet this 'stranger' in the bedroom for the first time you may actually both choose not to have sex immediately, but instead start to talk, develop your friendship together and start building on your future, and after you both know each other better, or when you are both appreciating each other perhaps by buying small gifts and performing little helpful things then later there will be a natural desire to cuddle and kiss at first, holding hands etc.

I don't believe it is expected that sex happens straight after marriage in Islam. If you don't want to do it, but he seems more keen, then this is where you may have some challenges. I have learnt a great deal about Islam and if he is a true believer, then he would not want to cause you any unhappiness or pain. If he does advance on you and you don't feel now is the time, maybe one option is just to talk about it, I knows its very difficult to do that though - he is a stranger at this point who has been introduced by your parents. Your relationship for the remainder of your life depends a lot of conversations so please so talk and open up and be positive about sex and your feelings.

Some of things you can say to him once you meet could be how handsome he looks, or how beautiful a smile he has; I would expect him to return a compliment - not immediately but after some time perhaps, and these little words can start to bridge a relationship into friendship, trust and this will all help to making any sexual activity much more pleasant and satisfying.

However, if you do both decide that sex is the right time, then I would start with a cuddle, a kiss, a big embrace. He is very likely to immediately respond positively to this. If and when the time is right, maybe you start to show that you are interested in sex, take your shoes off, or let your hair down, maybe touch his chest or the back of his neck and kiss him - anywhere.

The rest that follows will probably be very natural and he is highly likely to get excited by this and touch you. Remember he is not expecting an experienced sexual partner as this would indicate you had already slept around and you knew how to please a man, but each man is different and likes different things from fore-play and touching.

If you don't want to look like a complete id**t, as you say, maybe think about what you wear, and how difficult it could be to remove. Trying to remove complex clothing at the height of sexual desire could frustrate you; but it is something you will most likely laugh about later in life, when you are having a lot of laughs and fun and gaining experience.

The final point you raise on pregnancy, I know that there are many places on the internet that talk about protection, so there is no point in me commenting on that, but it can take only one sexual encounter to become pregnant. As mentioned earlier getting to know your new man and building a relationship together involves talking and having a conversation early on about children and family is important. I would definitely encourage the conversation on family planning. But don't delve straight into that conversation, why not immediately engage in other conversations on other topics and build up your knowledge of each other, and then talk about it.

Your first experience is likely to be initiation from simple touching, and it would probably ending up in the missionary position where the man is on top of you giving penetrative sex. He is highly likely to be excited by this. If he is struggling to put his penis into your vagina, why not help him. As you are engaged in sexual activity touch him and take some breaths. I say take the small breaths because he is wanting to please you and some response that you give that you are excited also would encourage the situation more and make it more pleasurable.

I hope this is helpful. And I wish you all the very best on your wedding day and for the future.

i've heard using tampon for virgin girls may hurts their hymen :|

what's wrong with it????????????? she is muslim,so what ??????