Well I'm 17 years old and I have this friend he is 19 , we've been flirting like craze and I am kind of atracted to him. He told me that he wanted to kiss me and so I asked him if it would mean anything if he did then he said no .. I was oky with it because it ment no emoitions attached .. Soo then when he kissed me things got heated and it didn't stay at kissing ...but we didn't have sex. After that I felt kind of embarised because I'm a girl with morrals and he isn't my boyfriend and I'm scared he thinks of me as n easy girl .... In truth I tried to argue with my emotions and told my self that I don't feel anything .. But I kind of do .... I want to tell him but are scared he would avoid me ,, I know that he and his ex girlfriend broke up 4months ago and he had a rebound ..but I don't want to tell him I have feelings for him because I'm scared he wil reject me and I don't know if I should go forth with thid fwb thing? I need advise any advise on how to change his mind or any advise an the friends with bennifits thing pleaase !
personally i think that you should spend more time with him, get super flirty and after 2 weeks start getting touchy, see how he feels about that and if he goes along with it then tell him. dont rush into it!
Hi TryingtobeBeautiful,
OK, so I have experience with both. I would advise on not doing the friends-with-benefits thing until you are older and wiser - you can get very hurt as emotionally it is not easy - you are a girl with morals and it won't work for you.
Best advice is to become really good friends with the guy. My husband and I were friends a year and half before we started dating (he had told me before that he wanted to date me but I said I wasn't ready). If that happens, don't let it deter you remain friends. Go out with him and his friends become the 'guy' girl and you will have his friends telling him that you are the perfect girl. It'll go from there, if it's going to happen it'll happen BUT give it time.
Hope this helps and good luck