I have been with my boyfriend for three years now, we have a great relationship always know what one another is thining or feeling, but things changed earlier last year. I fell pregnant the end of february, which wasn't planned and come as a huge shock to the both of us. So much of a shock that my partner claimed he didn't want kids anyway which put huge stress on me, which led to me misscarrying, 7 weeks into pregnancy. Since then he has seemed different, like he can't do enough for me, is this because he feels guilty because he didn't want the baby and i did?
I'm so confused.
And to make it all worse, since christmas he has been talking about babies more than he ever has done, but not directly to me about us planning any. He was in bed showin me pictures of his mates new baby boy, and talking about how gorgeous he was, which may sound like nothing but is totally out of character, and keeps making a joke to me when i go to see mates, about enjoy the drink while you can cause if you get pregnant there will be none of that.
I'm really confused, although he didn't want the baby before, now his whole attitude has changed and i'm not sure whether i'm reading the signs wrong, but we haven't been using protection lately?
Advice off anyone would be appreciated please, as i really don't know what to do :'(
I'm so confused.
And to make it all worse, since christmas he has been talking about babies more than he ever has done, but not directly to me about us planning any. He was in bed showin me pictures of his mates new baby boy, and talking about how gorgeous he was, which may sound like nothing but is totally out of character, and keeps making a joke to me when i go to see mates, about enjoy the drink while you can cause if you get pregnant there will be none of that.
I'm really confused, although he didn't want the baby before, now his whole attitude has changed and i'm not sure whether i'm reading the signs wrong, but we haven't been using protection lately?
Advice off anyone would be appreciated please, as i really don't know what to do :'(
Hello!
When i met my partner i was 18 and i fell pregnant a month into the relationship. he didnt want the baby eand i was 18 and not ready to have a baby on my own so we didnt keep it even though I wanted the baby. He too started acting differently and about 6 months after that he was hinting at the idea of having kids even though he didnt previously want any. this really messed with my head cos we could have had a perfectly fine baby just months before.
At the time having a baby wasnt right for us and he in particular didnt feel ready to be a dad and be responsible for a life. The best thing to do is to talk to him. I spoke to my partner about it when he started hinting about having babies and he admitted that it had changed things and he started to think more about becoming a dad. Hed stopped drinking and smoking and really started to change for the better. A year into the relationship we got pregnant again after trying for a baby and we was really really happy. Of course he felt guilty about not wanting the other baby, but he was also responsible enough to recognise it wasnt the right time. Im glad we waited until we were ready as if wed have kept the first baby i doubt very much wed have stayed together.
Wev now been together for 5 years and have 3 babies and have never been happier.
When you found out you was pregnant it must have come as a massive shock and he didnt know how to deal with it. Maybe guilty isnt the right word. hes maybe had time to think on the idea and feels you are both ready to become parents now? talk to him and get everything out in the open, its the bet way forward.
Good luck xx
When i met my partner i was 18 and i fell pregnant a month into the relationship. he didnt want the baby eand i was 18 and not ready to have a baby on my own so we didnt keep it even though I wanted the baby. He too started acting differently and about 6 months after that he was hinting at the idea of having kids even though he didnt previously want any. this really messed with my head cos we could have had a perfectly fine baby just months before.
At the time having a baby wasnt right for us and he in particular didnt feel ready to be a dad and be responsible for a life. The best thing to do is to talk to him. I spoke to my partner about it when he started hinting about having babies and he admitted that it had changed things and he started to think more about becoming a dad. Hed stopped drinking and smoking and really started to change for the better. A year into the relationship we got pregnant again after trying for a baby and we was really really happy. Of course he felt guilty about not wanting the other baby, but he was also responsible enough to recognise it wasnt the right time. Im glad we waited until we were ready as if wed have kept the first baby i doubt very much wed have stayed together.
Wev now been together for 5 years and have 3 babies and have never been happier.
When you found out you was pregnant it must have come as a massive shock and he didnt know how to deal with it. Maybe guilty isnt the right word. hes maybe had time to think on the idea and feels you are both ready to become parents now? talk to him and get everything out in the open, its the bet way forward.
Good luck xx