I had an abortion of my twins?

HI, im 16 years old and i just had an abortion of my twins i was 9 weeks and the father of my babies doesn't talk to me anymore and i kinda need his support. my mother says its my fault and that he shouldn't have to do anything in my eyes that wrong because i didn't get pregnant by myself.......what should i do..............and i wrote this message as a guest but i reposted

I just wanted to thank everyone above for having this conversation. I'm 37, married with a much loved 2yr old & about 4 months ago aborted a twin pregnancy. Just goes to show that there are as many unique circumstances & decisions as there are people on earth. These discussions are so rarely had & I am so very grateful to hear the kind words of so many of the respondants. My husband & I made a very difficult decision & I have to keep believing that is was the right one for everyone in the family at the time. I had a strong premonition that I was carrying twins (I'm sure this can be logically explained by the huge hormone load which alerted me to the pregnancy before I'd even missed my period...) & my premonition was confirmed in the scan on the day of the termination. It did add another dimension to the feelings I experienced, perhaps the relative uniqueness of the pregnancy had a psychological effect? Winding down from the large hormone load was also a steep slope involving many tears.
I have to admit to also experiencing a strange fascination with producing a further set of twins after this termination. I do understand the feelings of those who have mentioned this. We did a special thing & then made a painful decision. We can't publicly sport an "I conceived twins" t-shirt, so there is no recognition for having performed a special feat of conception, perhaps this is why we long for twins again?
My love goes out to you all. May peace & love surround you & hope lead you on.

For the 16yr old who had an abortion at 9wks, well done you. You were obviously aware that the time wasnt right for you and have been very responsible in my opinion. You have your whole life ahead of you and obviously dont want to get tied down with one child let alone two at such a young age. As for the father of the babies, well i think it is unfair for him not to support you in your decision, as you have done what you thought was best for you both at this time. And he has to rememeber that it is you that will be doing most of the work before and after the birth of the babies. I hope things work out for you, things always work out for the best in the end. DONT REGRET YOUR DECISION, you will see that later in life, it was right.

As for the person saying that if someone has an abortion that they should NEVER be allowed kids - well
everybody is entitled to their opinions, but that is a bit too harsh.
People that go through abortions have a hard enough time dealing with it and feeling guilty enough without people like you sticking the knife in.
People have abortions all the time for different reasons.
What would you rather

a) that these people continue with their pregnancies, only then to find that they cant deal with being a parent or cannot afford to be a parent or whatever, and then these children get put into care and have to go through social services and people alike to find them suitable homes. Bearing in mind that there are already enough children and babies in this situation.

b) that these responsible people have an abortion and save the child going through all of the above. And save the worry and the stress not only to themselves and their child but also their family friends and anyone else concerned.

the whole country moans on about how many people there are on the dole and scrounging off the government just because they have children and cant or wont go to work, yet if some of those people who quite clearly had accidental pregnancies got an abortion, then there would be less people claiming and perhaps we wouldnt have such a lazy attitude to work in this country, as they wouldnt have children as an excuse!!!!!

I would also like to say that my comments are not actually aimed at specific people and i too hav a sister who has a now 3yr old son, single parent on all benefits , doesnt work, etc and only 20 when she had him, but if she had an abortion then she would now be working and done a bit more with her life , and perhaps had a nice steady relationship, instead of all the losers she see.s.

I am 29yrs old now. i had an abortion when i was 20, i dont regret my decision for a moment. At the time i was young, and wanted to have fun still, i had only been with my partner for 3mths and on the pill which i took religiously when i got caught pregnant. There was no way i was ready and went ahead with the procedure.
However i am now faced with making the very awkward decision again. I am now 6wks pregnant and had a scan which confirmed it is twins. (one would have been bad enough) However my boyfriend and i of nearly 3yrs have seperated recently. He is a few yrs younger than me so of course i have to think about that too. I am not sure that i am even ready for a child (or 2 ) now. I still have alot that i want to do with my life but at the same time i am not getting any younger.
At the end of the day whatever decision I make will be best for ME, although i will take my partner into consideration too, and want him to have his say.
Whatever i decide will work for the best, and i will probably regret whatever i do, but whatever happens i will get by!!

Good luck to everyone if you have gone through this too XD

Never written on a blog and never thought i would. But I thought I'd check if there could be other people who could possibly feel as much pain as i do in the way i do. I would do absolutely anything to just have my twins back, but i aborted them nearly 2 years ago for stupid pathetic reasons that i'll never forgive myself for. A massive part of me died when my beloved twins died. I went to the clinic 3 times and couldn't do it, but eventually just had it done. From the second I opened my eyes after the operation, I realised I wouldn't be able to live a normal life again without them. This is my punishment for the crime of aborting them, and I deserve it. These children had a right to live, how could I have done this, i just can't believe i was blessed with twins and didn't have them. They would have turned 1 years old in december when I turned 30. And I know they would have been so beautiful and I think it was one boy and one girl. And now many of my freinds & family are having children, even my cousin had twins at exactly the same time that I would have had mine. It's torture because I'm watching those twins grow up knowing they would be the same age as mine but i don't have my own. Nobody apart from my partner knows i had them aborted so i live with it in silence and secret with the guilt eating away at me each day. Before this happened, I was a strong, happy and succesful business woman with a property portfolio, now i am less confident and always crying, people ask me why i've become so moody and how i used to be the life and soul of any party. Having my twins would have made my life complete but i messed up the one thing in my life that i should have got right. I wish with all my heart i can be blessed with twins again, perhaps i can try ivf treatment or something, there must be a way, i'm desperate for them back. Unfortunately I have no words of comfort for anyone else on the forum, just that I know what you're going through and thank you for your posts. :'( :'(

Reading all your posts in heart-wrenching. I killed my twins at 7 weeks almost 3 years ago. I hate myself so much and don't believe that I should ever be blessed again with such a beautiful thing again as my punishment. I have dreams so often that I turn around at the last moment and walk away still pregnant, and even giving birth to them, holding them. My heart is so very broken. I love and miss you my little angels. I hope all of our beautiful babies are all playing in heaven together now XX

I found this poem online, it puts into words what I can't say.
"Don’t let them say that we weren't born, that something stopped our hearts,

We felt each tender squeeze you gave, we loved you from the start.

Although our bodies you can’t hold, it doesn’t mean we're gone,

This world was worthy not of us, God chose that we move on,

We know the pain that drowns your soul, what you are forced to face,

You have our word, we'll fill your arms, someday we will embrace.

You’ll hear that it was “meant to be, God doesn’t make mistakes”

But that won’t soften your worst blow or make your heart not ache.

We're watching over all you do, another child you’ll bear,

Believe us when we say to you, that we are always there.

There will come a time, we promise you, when you will hold our hands,

Stroke my faces, kiss our lips and then you’ll understand.

Although we never breathed your air, or gazed into your eyes,

That doesn’t mean we never “were”… Angels Never Die."
XX

If any of you fancy a friend, then email me :) I can't promise much, as I am fairly broken myself, however if you need a friend...take care girls xx

Well to you I have to say " shame on you" I guess that you think you can go out here and have sex as much as you want and say ohhhhh i dont want this one either lets just kill it too. That is wrong I understand having to terminate the baby if there were medical problems involved but to just kill it so you dont have to take care of it is wrong. :(

My opinion is he should never talk to you again if you murdered his kids and he didnt have a say in it. I would be pissed to just put yourself in his shoes. Even though you didnt want the kids didnt mean that he couldnt have raised them. You should come up with a better excuse than i was just to young. I got pregnant when i was 15 years old and I never once thought about aborting I had twins a boy and a girl but I miscarried my little girl. And that was hard enough to loose it on accident not on purpose. If your old enough to lay down and have sex and know the risks of having sex then you are old enough to have that child and raise it or at least have it and put it up for adoption. Because there are plenty of couples out there that are wanting children that cant have them that would love too.

My heart goes out to you...

You were too young.
Your BF was too youg.
He cannot support you in a way a man should.

I too just got an abortion today... and found out it was a twin...
My heart felt numb as the procedure was done, and I came home...
and just bawled when I got home... and cannot stop crying.

I could not go through with the pregnancy...it was with someone I did not desire, nor in a conditon I wanted.
Still, I blame myself I let it happen.

Yes, we cannot get pregnant on our own.
But in the end it is always and only the women who makes the last decision.
And have heartaches.
Some people argue that those who chose abortion are heartless and take life easily.
But people have different backgrounds and live in different circumstances and all these affect what you believe and support.

The important thing is to learn from this sadness and ache.
Do not ever let it happen again.

Having sex always come with a possibility of becoming pregnant(if you don't have perfect protection)
Think if you and he would be ok at the posibility of having a baby.
Do not rely only on your heart, but also on facts and situations and surroundings.

I have always dreamed of having a family and children to love.
I have always thought twins would be lovely.

And this happened.
It will take time for me to forgive myself.

I hope someday, God will forgive me, and I will be blessed with another baby(ies)... a twin maybe.
A baby to hlod in myself for the whole months on pregnancy, waiting to see their faces,
giving birth with blessings... holding them against my breast.

I hope you will get over your BF who sadly cannot support you.
You are young. Tiem will heal wounds, and if you try to see more clearly into a guy's heart and personality
you will someday find the guy who will be at your side in good and hard times. A supprtive man.

I hope you will find peace with your parents as you grow to be a mature woman.

And I hope you will willingly get pregnant the next time and have a happy family.

I pray for you and all who has made a sad decision, which will always be in our memories.
Please let our next pregnancy be with joy and hapiness.

Thank You for your response,,,its given me encourgement and hope. I just found out today that I am pregnant with twins n i was going to take the RU-486 pill but was unable to because of the dual pregnancy. I am filled with so many emtions bc i have my apt for surgical 2 days from now and i keep going back n forth with it. Between me not being "in love" with my bf and the morality of it all im just so lost :'(

First & foremost I would like to say that I am a mother of 3 & I agree with everyone that has stated women have abortions for a reason! NO ONE has the right to judge someone else & what they do with THEIR body! I have had two abortions, one with twins. My reasons were never because it was unwanted but for reasons of not being ready or health risks stated by my doctor! You ppl spend all your free time standing outside of abortion clinics with your posters of "photo shopped" abortion fetus pictures, yell at women of all ages about how they're wrong for getting an abortion & it's Gods creation, they're an abomination for killing their babies & blah blah blah! Let me guess, "it happens for a reason when you get pregnant"??? So if a woman was raped are you going to look stupid & tell her God made her get raped so she could be one pregnant with a monsters child????? I mean seriously start thinking about the BS (excuse my language) you stand for & speak on before you start pointing fingers & opening your mouths about ppl you know nothing about! & what about YOUR children??? Why aren't you at home spending time with them instead of trying to traumatize & taunt ppl you don't know??? I'm so sick & tired of you ppl judging others for what they do, ESPECIALLY ABORTIONS, & then use GOD & what he would want, say, or do, as your basis for right to do so !! Yet if you so strongly believed in God you wouldn't be out there taunting them women in the first place because GOD would scorn you for doing so! You don't know if that girl/woman was raped, or cannot care for her baby, or was peer pressured into sex & is scared out of her mind to have a baby & just wants to go to school & do it right before she has kids! You don't know of that woman lives in poverty or is too sick to carry a child...... ARE YOU GONNA HELP THEM TAKE CARE OF THAT BABY???? " put them up for adoption to a family that deserves a child" you say..... WOULD YOU BE ABLE TO CARRY A CHILD TO FULL TERM & THEN JUST GIVE YOUR BABY UP???? Think before you speak & judge you idiots!!! If you're all SOOOO against women having a choice & getting abortions, then what you need to do instead of TAUNTING & SHAMING them is use all that time & energy to create an organization that offers them the option to be able to keep their child DESPITE their reason of aborting! For instance, if they're poor, offer assistance! If they're too I'll to carry, offer donations to studies that will help women be able to carry their children without termination because of health risks or reasons! & for those who simply cannot do it because of fear, or being too young or because of rape or abuse, LET THEM BE! WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT WE HAVE A CHOICE! I strongly believe abortion should NEVER be used as birth control, THAT I believe is wrong! If you can't keep your legs closed or don't know how to take action to prevent pregnancy & keep doing it, then THAT is wrong. But for anyone's personal choice or reason, you should have no judgement.... AT ALL, POINT BLANK! It is MY opinion that ppl like you, who are THAT bored that you would sit outside an abortion clinic taunting ppl, are the ppl who can & never will be satisfied with anything because you just like to b***h & moan about other ppl, plain. & simple! Either out of boredom, anger, or just to simply take the attention off of your own life & family problems & faults!!! You need to be at home with YOUR kids & if you don't have a life, then GET ONE!!!

teenmom17 on 2/8/10 Guest wrote: HI, im 16 years old and i just had an abortion of my twins i was 9 weeks and the father of my babies doesn't talk to me anymore and i kinda need his support. my mother says its my fault and that he shouldn't have to do anything in my eyes that wrong because i didn't get pregnant by myself.......what should i do..............and i wrote this message as a guest but i reposted My opinion is he should never talk to you again if you murdered his kids and he didnt have a say in it. I would be pissed to just put yourself in his shoes. Even though you didnt want the kids didnt mean that he couldnt have raised them. You should come up with a better excuse than i was just to young. I got pregnant when i was 15 years old and I never once thought about aborting I had twins a boy and a girl but I miscarried my little girl. And that was hard enough to loose it on accident not on purpose. If your old enough to lay down and have sex and know the risks of having sex then you are old enough to have that child and raise it or at least have it and put it up for adoption. Because there are plenty of couples out there that are wanting children that cant have them that would love too. ~ ARE YOU KIDDING?!?! Look, I'm more than guaranteeing that the ONLY reason you kept your baby was because you either thought that it would make your boyfriend stay with you forever & Marty you, you thought it was cool at the time to be a teen mom, your parents made you keep it because they're against abortion or theyre somewhat wealthy & you knew theyd take care of you & your baby! I guarantee you still live with them! I mean seriously, you were FIFTEEN! You probably got pregnant on purpose! You have no right to point fingers at anyone else! & from the way you posted & talked to her about her abortion, sounds to me like your just upset that someone was smarter than you & DIDN'T think teen pregnancy was cool or was stupid enough to think her boyfriend would stay forever because she's having his baby! The way you talk really sounds like you wish deep down that you wouldve not gotten pregnant & ruined your chances at having your own life before children!!! Unless a girl or woman is repeatedly having unprotected sex & getting abortions to solve unwanted pregnancy, you have no right to say "if your old enough to lay down & have sex then you're old enough to have that baby"!!! WRONG little girl, because scientifically & by the power of nature, a woman, or rather girl, is old enough to have sex & reproduce when she first menstrates..... Now I was 9yrs old when I first got my period, NINE! How old were you??? Does that mean I'm old enough to have a baby??? NO! As a matter of fact NO ONE is "ready" to have a baby, unless you're already a mother, & I believe every mother will tell you they felt the same way during their first pregnancy before the baby was born! I think you really need to educate yourself a little more before speaking & judging others. Now if you wouldn't have thought it was so cool, or thought you were so ready to have a baby/babies at 15 yrs old then maybe you would've gotten a better education like that 16yr old girl will! Call me cruel, call me harsh..... But one thing I've learned growing up, don't dish it out if you can't take it hunny! ;) Oh yea, & as for the woman who says. "Shame on you" for the other woman's post to the 16yr old girl..... You just sound stupid!! There's NOTHING in either of their posts that suggest they just go around having sex, making babies & then getting abortions cuz they don't want it! God, don't any of you THINK..... USE YOUR BRAIN before you judge!?!? It sure is always the sheltered, inexperienced & idiotic ones that like to point fingers, judge & gossip about others! You really are amusing! I pitty you, seriously!

I am 6 weeks pregnant with twins, I got pregnant by my best friend, my abortion date is in 1 week and idk what to do.

I aborted my twins 6 days ago. I am 35 and have a gorgeous 3 year old Son. My husband works away a lot and I struggle now on my own with my son. When I fell pregnant I was so happy but realised something was very different. I wasn't coping with the sickness and the extreme tiredness and begun to get incredibly stressed and anxious how I would cope on my own with my son as the pregnancy progressed. I asked the only family living nearby if they would be able to helpe manage twins when my husband was away. Nobody wanted to help me which hurt so much. After talking it over with my husband a lot and changing my mind everyday I decided that it was in my sons best interests that I not go ahead with the pregnancy. I regret my decision so much and pray to god to forgive me. I didn't realise how depressed I would be afterwards an how that would affect my son. I hope I get better and move on and I pray so much that I will have a chance to have another baby. I know I made a decision based on my situation at the time I can't change that it is done. I have to try to be kind to myself and stop wondering what if.

What a pity! I can not understand how people can go and dismember a baby or fetus. Inform yourself and use condemns or other methods of birth control. Abortion is not a contraceptive. I have seven kids and we just found out we are twining twin mo/di twin girls but I do not have the heart to kill a child whom never asked to be brought in this world. I am very open to many things but late term abortion you have to be a heartless human being, inform how the abortionist tortures this child. FYI when a person is high fist there are medical terminations done by a doctor stopping the heart through an amino type of procedure. So if you went and have an abortion for medical reasons it is bull or it would have behumanely in a humane manneYou most of you people are disgusting humans! 

8-2-13

I hope this message reaches the right person out there. I am currently preg with twins and so unsure what to do as the father is unstable financially and emotionally. We have 2 beautiful children who I want the best life for but wirh 2 more I know I could never afford alone. I am 8 weeks and have one left to decide to abort or keep the twins....