I need encouragement

I am sorry to hear this, I don’t know if it is enough encouragement to say live him at once. He has obviously made some mistaken ideas about what is acceptable behavior. you tell him what you don’t like about the changes he has made in his behavior and ask him what it would take on your part to consistently bring out the best in him? Anyway… if it doesn’t work ask for professional help.

Nedda, 14 1/2 years ago I left my abusive ex husband. He hurt me: chocked, locked me inside our bedroom with a padlock, left me at public places, and threatened to kill me upteen times. If he has placed his hand on you once, he will continue to do this. Love does not hurt, I learned that. Love does not make us question ourselves; our strength, weaknessess, morals or values. When my ex husband held me against my will for 15 hours, I made a promise to God. I told him that if he allowed me to live through that ordeal, I would leave the man for good. I was suppose to return home after a celebration dinner, and my parents had our children, expecting me home.. So after he sobered up , and after $2500.00 damage to the motel room, I finally shared my story. Just like you are... you see, women like us have the ability to share our stories because there are women our there that cannot... I left my ex husband with a 3 month old, an 18 month old and a duffle bag. I never looked back. From that point, I lived for them, and eventually, I learned to live for me. Stay separated, I know you love him, but the most encouraging words that I can say are that I believe in you because I once was you. Take small baby steps and look ahead, find our who you are again. Love is not painful, please see that you are special and that someone cares about you from afar. You are stronger than you feel my friend. I believe in you.