Ok I am 15 am I am almost always very cautious about sex and fooling around and being safe, but about 3 or 4 weeks ago my boyfriend and I got a little in the moment at my house while he was staying with my parents and I, At first it was just touching each other no genital touching and I hadn't done so ever before this I wasn't thinking about it at the time he put his penis head on my vagina and he didn't put the whole head in or anything he just kinda put it on it and the littlest millimeter went in and I'm not sure if there was pre-cum or not, but he has a tenancy or pre-cuming whenever i poke it even sometimes and i have been scared since then that i might get pregnant but if he did pre-cum it doesn't go far it usually just makes a thin glossy layer on the head and its usually like a single droplet of water big not even and I don't want to end up pregnant because I'm a straight A student and life is like perfect for me right now and I definitely don't need to be getting an abortion or having a baby right now I need to focus on my studies and getting a job. I'm a virgin still and everything and i talk extremely openly with my parents about how far I go with my boyfriend and I'm going on birth control by October and I have condoms and everything but I have been eating alot more lately, but I had a rash as recently and just got off the medication two days ago and it made me eat like a horse so I don't know what to think and I could use some advice and I know someone is going to say not to have genital touching, but i really don't want to lose that because we both enjoy it so much and both of us having never had sex and waiting to do so it is difficult to give a pleasure you know? So if somebody could just tell me any info because I'm due for my period and it hasn't come yet, but my breasts are tender and usually that happens right before i get my period... Thanks! o.O
Chances are good that you are not pregnant, but it is still possible that you are.
You had unprotected sex.
It doesn't matter if it was"the slightest millimeter in"... he had pre-cum and it touched your vagina. You technically are not a virgin any more.
Plus, pre-cum may contain sperm, so you may be pregnant.
And, your period may be just a few days late.
I'd get an early pregnancy test kit and check it out. Read the directions carefully.
If "life is perfect right now", you're playing with fire. Time to find out if you've been burned or not.
Congrats on the straight As... keep aiming high.
You had unprotected sex.
It doesn't matter if it was"the slightest millimeter in"... he had pre-cum and it touched your vagina. You technically are not a virgin any more.
Plus, pre-cum may contain sperm, so you may be pregnant.
And, your period may be just a few days late.
I'd get an early pregnancy test kit and check it out. Read the directions carefully.
If "life is perfect right now", you're playing with fire. Time to find out if you've been burned or not.
Congrats on the straight As... keep aiming high.
i agree with kirk. i was in the same position as you are not very long ago myself. my best friend recently had a baby she's 16. after i did the real deed i asked her cus i was almost a month late and she said that after you have sex or any kind of intercourse that your period will be late because your hormonal embalance has been thrown off. i did the same thing i started eating alot and my breasts were sore to. yes i freaked out took a pregnancy test came up negative started 2 days later. but i have had 2 other major scares just by doing somewhat of what you have done. all i want to say is if your scared to get pregnant then dont do it anymore there are plenty of other ways to enjoy your partner's company that doesn't involve sexual intercourse. there is also partner to parter masterbation i think thats what its called. im on birth control right now its almost been a month which is how long it takes to run its course and get use to your system. i dont mean to preach or anything but i know how you feel trust me i really do. the hardest part for me was walking into the woman's clinic and talking to the person who performs the abortions it really makes you re-think even doing anything so soon.
keep up the straight A's dont let a silly little thing like sex get in the way of your future.
hope this kinda helped.
keep up the straight A's dont let a silly little thing like sex get in the way of your future.
hope this kinda helped.
... well I'm fine i got my period and I'm going to talk to my boyfriend about that. I don't want any risks lol thank you ^-^ and nothing broke and it wasn't in there it touched it i asked him not like that but it was like a little on and a little above the hole it touched for a few seconds so i don't think i lost my V quite yet, BUT I CAN'T WAIT! I know I'm only 14, but he is definitely the one he is the one that said no to me so I know he respects me and he tells me everything as I do him and we have been through so much together and he has stayed faithful everyday we have been together and were going on 9 months and I just know he's my one and we are waiting for that perfect moment! The only problem is we don't want to use condoms and just use birth control, but he says we will only have unprotected sex on occasions because he doesn't want to ruin my life and he wants to keep unprotected sex to a minimum, but I kind of don't want that i just want to go to my gynecologist and get the best birth control for me and have natural sex besides that. So I don't know what to do.
Yeah, I hear you. You don't know what to do.
But if you're listening... if you've been reading this board at all...
it should be clear to you that if you're going to be engaging in this type of behavior, you need protection.
The time to make these decisions are before you get into bed with him, so you two are on the same page.... not afterwards and hope that you're not PG.
You say that your boyfriend will only have unprotected sex occassionally out of respect for you. Some boyfriend. If he's really concered about you, he'd agree not to do or try anything until/unless you are both protected. The two of you can work out what that means for you together.
But you need protection!
You sound smart...life is good... getting straight As...
So be smart and start making positive decisions... whatever that may be.
Don't blow it by doing nothing.
But if you're listening... if you've been reading this board at all...
it should be clear to you that if you're going to be engaging in this type of behavior, you need protection.
The time to make these decisions are before you get into bed with him, so you two are on the same page.... not afterwards and hope that you're not PG.
You say that your boyfriend will only have unprotected sex occassionally out of respect for you. Some boyfriend. If he's really concered about you, he'd agree not to do or try anything until/unless you are both protected. The two of you can work out what that means for you together.
But you need protection!
You sound smart...life is good... getting straight As...
So be smart and start making positive decisions... whatever that may be.
Don't blow it by doing nothing.
i know this sounds screwed up but even if i do get pregnant ill get an abortion because i know that child would have a shitty life right now i just wanted to know because my mom would be like OMG YOU HAD SEX W/O BIRTH CONTROL and i didn't and she wouldn't listen so as long as im on that its ok id just be like the condom broke and he is a good boyfriend dont you dare iudge him. he just wants to make me happy he wont ave sex with e as it is right now he says no to me so get that straight and i know ts not exactly right to have that abortion but i cold never give that baby up for adoption never i am a very attached person so i couldnt give birth then give it up and sex should not be less pleasureful because of a small risk before what do you think people did? i want to have sex natural no rubber if i wanted that id get some toys! I don't mean to be upset at your advice but you were kind of rude in that advice i know protection is the smartest choice but my odds are very slim of being pregnant when i get my birth control im most likely getting an iud and i really just feel my choice is smart because the way my boyfriend and I will have sx will probably rip that condom up anyway so why waste money. and I carry them in case anyway.
Curious_C.
You are only 14 years old. You are still a kid and your parents eyes your still their "baby" I do not know why you incline to have sex at your age at all. I am not a virgin though I regretted that I had sex with the wrong person. You are still a little lady to understand why you are having sex. No I am not telling you, that you are not smart enough to have sex which you have pointed out that you are a straight A student. I am only 16 which means I am reaching my sexual peak. I choose to wait till the time is right to have sex again. Just because your boyfriend is wearing a condom doesn't mean its "not natural" there's millions of people that have been through your situation that have regretted have any sexual contact at all. just because your body is ready doesn't mean you are.
We are not lecturing you in anyway, we are trying to help you make the right decision. The mods on this forum no doubt know what they are talking about. Thus I would ask you politely not to swear at them or regarding what they have said.
I only ask how old is your boyfriend?
I hope you respond to this reply that I have taken time to right.
You are only 14 years old. You are still a kid and your parents eyes your still their "baby" I do not know why you incline to have sex at your age at all. I am not a virgin though I regretted that I had sex with the wrong person. You are still a little lady to understand why you are having sex. No I am not telling you, that you are not smart enough to have sex which you have pointed out that you are a straight A student. I am only 16 which means I am reaching my sexual peak. I choose to wait till the time is right to have sex again. Just because your boyfriend is wearing a condom doesn't mean its "not natural" there's millions of people that have been through your situation that have regretted have any sexual contact at all. just because your body is ready doesn't mean you are.
We are not lecturing you in anyway, we are trying to help you make the right decision. The mods on this forum no doubt know what they are talking about. Thus I would ask you politely not to swear at them or regarding what they have said.
I only ask how old is your boyfriend?
I hope you respond to this reply that I have taken time to right.
I want to have sex because i feel it will bring my boyfriend and i closer on a mental and physical level and my boyfriend has even said to me if you never wanted to have sex i would be ok because i love you and i will wait for however long it takes and my boyfriend is the one who said no to me all the times i asked so i know i want to lose it to him and hes 17. the reason i know he's the one is because he is one of those people who wished they hadn't lost it to who they did and he always tells me hes sorry it was her because he feels his virginity belongs to me. he even asked me to marry him and i said yes but we are waiting a long time to get married, but i know I'm ready for this .... I just need the right time and ... idk i just dont like the thought of condoms....
Curious,
I know you will not listen to me, because you are at that wonderful age where you think you know it all. I was there too. Only I was 17 when I went though my stage. Funny thing is I was a lot like you. I had a wonderful boyfriend. He asked me to marry him too and I made a huge mistake. I spelt with him. I did it unprotected and I never got PG. Thank godness, because at age 19 him and I broke up. I wanted a degree he wanted other women. I thought we would be together forever. So with your boyfriend, I doubt you will make it more then three years. Please don't take what I am saying the wrong way, I don't want to offend you or make you mad, I'm just trying to help you. To me you are still a baby. Stay a baby for as long as you can, because when you are 25 like I am, you will wish you would have. Also, your parents let you date someone that is that much older then you? I mean he is almost an adult and your still a kid. Don't fool around with him or have sex. One of these days you will wake up to regret it. Imagine what you would do if you did get PG? I know you say you will get it aborted, but its not that easy. That is a life inside of you, something that is part you. You mom chose life shouldn't you? If you do decide to have sex, which I strongly advice not to,but, make sure to have a condom. There are to many risks besides getting PG, that you don't need to be taking. You don't know if your boyfriend has ever been with anyone else. And if he has he might have something. With that said please be careful and think before doing anything that you may regret. Again I am sorry to upset you or make you mad, I am just trying to give some good advice that will save you heartache in the future. If you and your boyfriend do end up together then your wedding night will be magical if you both wait. Keep up those good grades.
I know you will not listen to me, because you are at that wonderful age where you think you know it all. I was there too. Only I was 17 when I went though my stage. Funny thing is I was a lot like you. I had a wonderful boyfriend. He asked me to marry him too and I made a huge mistake. I spelt with him. I did it unprotected and I never got PG. Thank godness, because at age 19 him and I broke up. I wanted a degree he wanted other women. I thought we would be together forever. So with your boyfriend, I doubt you will make it more then three years. Please don't take what I am saying the wrong way, I don't want to offend you or make you mad, I'm just trying to help you. To me you are still a baby. Stay a baby for as long as you can, because when you are 25 like I am, you will wish you would have. Also, your parents let you date someone that is that much older then you? I mean he is almost an adult and your still a kid. Don't fool around with him or have sex. One of these days you will wake up to regret it. Imagine what you would do if you did get PG? I know you say you will get it aborted, but its not that easy. That is a life inside of you, something that is part you. You mom chose life shouldn't you? If you do decide to have sex, which I strongly advice not to,but, make sure to have a condom. There are to many risks besides getting PG, that you don't need to be taking. You don't know if your boyfriend has ever been with anyone else. And if he has he might have something. With that said please be careful and think before doing anything that you may regret. Again I am sorry to upset you or make you mad, I am just trying to give some good advice that will save you heartache in the future. If you and your boyfriend do end up together then your wedding night will be magical if you both wait. Keep up those good grades.
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Kirk I disagree that she is no longer a virgin. Yes her boyfriend put his penis in her the smallest bit. You can hardly call that sexual intercourse
It doesn't matter if it was"the slightest millimeter in"... he had pre-cum and it touched your vagina. You technically are not a virgin any more.
Kirk I disagree that she is no longer a virgin. Yes her boyfriend put his penis in her the smallest bit. You can hardly call that sexual intercourse
yes, they let me date him they both know him and like him very much even my grandparents. and your boyfriend may be like that but not mine ss2002... He's had 3 girlfriends and thats it all of them cheated on him but two.... this girl i hate and me. I mean the world to him... he calls me all the time and is super jealous he is jealous to the point where if i like a band with a male singer he thinks i like the band cuz i like the dude. he cant even stand to look at other women because all he thinks when he sees them is how much better i am than them .... all his friends and his brothers complain to me for it because he's so wrapped up in me. and im the same way about him. He respects me and loves me and if you saw us and knew him you'd think so too. He's always saying ill never have another girlfriend and im like i know cuz your wife is right here and he goes you'll never have another boyfriend too i hope and i go nope my husbands right there. i've gone to tons of places with him he goes with me to look at colleges he looks at jobs and things in those places so he can move there with me. He is disgusted with his brother even though he loves him because he plays girls. You may have thought that but you had one of those boys that hide things well I have the one where all his friends know me and tell me he would never hurt me like that and we will be together and my friends say you two are always gonna be together. his family loves me and mine loves him my enemies are like he would never hurt you and i feel bad for him because he has a shitty girl like you ... we are so gonna last tons of people tried to split us and they all failed .... he even took a blow to the face for me... he's the one and if we did even split up .... i wouldn't regret it one bit .... because he's my best friend and .... thats good enough for me... besides if i lose him ill just go full gay .... and he said if he loses me hes giving up and going gay or committing suicide because he cant deal with one more s*** or depressed w**** and im so perfect no one could compare or be good enough ..... he was bout ready to give up until he met me.... and I need no more explanation he has told me everything and i him .... we know each others deepest secrets and everything... and im convinced .... if that makes me a fool ..... then so shall i be because ive dated my share of assholes and he is definitely not one of em'.... I trust him with my life ....
So. Someone has to be dead or gay or single by now because everything you said sounds like a stereotypical know-it-all, i'm-so-in-love middle school crush, it's disgusting. Or you're pregnant or you've had at least one abortion. You are insane.
are you still wt ur bf ?