I want to start fingering myself

There is a lot of information online about this at sites created by women to educate women about sex and improve their sexual experience.  (There are others of course but you should be careful to choose reputable ones.)  There are articles to help you achieve orgasm, improve technique for the best sensations, you name it.   Knowing a bit about your anatomy can also be a big help.  Some things you might look up are: g-spot, female prostrate (many don't know a woman has one as well as a man), urethral sponge, clitoris, clitoral legs.

If your parents are open minded and are aware of the realities of sex among young adults, you might get them to provide some good books about masturbation and sex education in general.  I don't think this is common yet but is a growing trend.  Some even purchase a suitable beginners vibrator.  This is controversial but the parents do have reasons for doing this.  If you parents have offered to discuss sex with you, perhaps you should take them up on it.

 

Thankyou they wont talk to me do you know any of the websites would really appreciate it??? Xxx

Your parents want what is best for you and I am sure they consider you too young. The problem is with you wanting the information now, most likely you are not going to wait until your parents are ready. It is better to learn at this age than having you learn through friends and porn. But try to see it from their point of you. You might not believe it now, but there is a very good chance you will feel the same if and when you have a 13 year old daughter.

I haven't looked at these sites for a while, but give me some time and I look for them again. I do need to point out that I am somewhat constrained in what links I can suggest. The reason is not only due to your age, but mine as well. An adult male discussing sex with a minor has legal implications and boundaries I cannot cross. For this reason, I can only send you "age appropriate" links. They may not be as explicit as you want. If the site is for someone your age and it contains instructions - and the number of these are growing, I will not keep it from you. I am not an expert on what is considered good for you. I have to rely on experts in the field. I hope you understand my position in this.

It is not that I don't want to help you and it is not because I think you are too young. Self exploration begins when a person feels ready and that can be quite young indeed. Masturbation is not uncommon among people younger than you are. Please understand why I cannot be explicit in my description or the links I send your way.

Having said that, there is nothing preventing you from searching for these yourself. The information is there but I cannot guide you directly to it. I think I can suggest some search terms that would lead you in the right direction. None of the search terms or sites I point out will be pornographic, they are sex education sites for women.

Please be careful what sites you go to in your search. They might not be accurate. Porn is not accurate about real sex in relationships (I could write a long post just on this alone), although it certainly is good for getting the blood pumping and ready to go.

Another point while we are this subject, be careful who you get help from. Do not put total faith in a stranger. That means me too! You don't know me and I could be trying to influence you and gain your confidence. Be suspicious, evaluate what you are told and confirm it from multiple sources if possible. Don't let anyone push you into something you don't want to do.

Sorry for the lecture. I am merely concerned.

If you understand where I am coming from, you accept my limits, and you promise to be careful and stay safe; I will try to help you further. Deal?

Deal xxx whats your email so we can talk xxx8-|

Deal xxx whats your email so we can talk xxx

Let me figure out the best way to do that. I don't know if you are aware of it, but some scammers & spammers use software to sort through the web looking for email addresses among other things. I will try sending it through the SteadyHealth message tool. It might not work though. I see your name which I can use to send a message, but it shows you as unregistered, so you might not receive it.

If you don't receive it within an hour or so, you might need to setup an account at SteadyHealth. If you can't or don't want to do that I will post it anyways. I just want to avoid that if I can.

Absolutely DO NOT post yours! It could very well make you a target for all kinds of harassment.

I was not able to send you a message. Do you plan to register with SteadyHealth.com?

I am just checking back with you. If you need me to post my email I can do that, or maybe I can create a temporary email to post publicly, Maybe that is the best option you can't or don't want to register. Just tell me what you think.

Some topics you might consider using for a search are: clitoris, clitoral legs, gspot, urethral sponge, and female prostrate. An understanding of of these things - and others, there certainly are other topics - could really open possibilities for you to explore.

The clitoris is like an iceberg, the majority is below the surface. It is much bigger than it appears and it contains erectile tissue that engorges much like the penis does. When you are fully aroused and you clitoris has expanded to fill size, the clitoris can be stimulated in a variety of ways. Both externally and internally (your vagina and/or anus).

The best masturbation techniques are learned by self exploration. Some suggestions I found at Scarleteen are:

Here are some of the many ways women masturbate with their genitals:
• massaging the clitoral shaft or hood, labia or mons with hands (either whole hands or with fingers, knuckles or palms with varying kinds of speed, pressure or movement) or an object
• rubbing or rocking the vulva up against objects (like a pillow, the edge of a chair or the edge of the bed)
• inserting fingers or sex toys into the vagina or anus, often paired with clitoral stimulation
• using a vibrator or other toys to stimulate the clitoris, labia, thighs, perineum, rectum or other sites
• using a faucet or showerhead for clitoral stimulation
• sitting on large vibrating objects, like a washing machine
• pressing and unpressing the thighs tightly together

Since I don't know if I can link, search for "scarleteen how do you masturbate" and that should bring you to the article.

Hi please can you put your email on thank you btw my mum found out I was fingerin my self, I dont know how, and now every time she sees me she gives me a funny look xxx

Sure. Let me setup a temporary email account so I can give you the correct one. As I said, above, programs ("bots") are sometimes used scour the internet for email addresses. Strange but this is true.

My understanding is you will be able to see my email address when looking at my profile if you are a member. I want my address to be there for those who need it on one hand, and limit spams, scams, and identity risks on the other. So making it available to members seems like a workable compromise. If you can't - or even don't want to - setup a members account, I will go the temporary email route.

By the way, unless she is strongly against masturbation, it is likely the strange looks are more in your mind than real. Your mother has masturbated before and most likely she she still does at least occasionally - emphasis on the at least occasional - according to various studies examining the issue.

For another person, I have put together a list of possible topics you might like to discuss. It is just to help you figure out and focus on the questions you need answered. Unless you object, I will post this a little later, maybe tomorrow. I have a lot going on today. But I will be back and I will help you. A deal is deal, after all!

Below is the section I mentioned above. It is a list of possible topics for you to consider. I have left in a part where I mention online risks. The same deal should apply here as well. Please note again that this was originally for another case, there are a few things mentioned that do not apply here.

If you will look over the list and help me identify what all needs to be covered. You may choose to leave at just masturbation methods. After you respond with this, I will post an email address for you.

Thank you!

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I have been thinking about how we might approach some of this. Since I don't know where you are knowledge-wise, let me throw some ideas you way and tell me what you think. We would want to discuss what we can publicly - as I mentioned above - but we can discuss anything you wish private instead. And we will not touch any issue you don't feel comfortable discussing. Please remember that you are in charge of how this goes and what we discuss. Don't let anyone push into something you don't want. It is important for you to tell me if I am going in a direction you do not want to go, discuss something you are uncomfortable with or want to avoid, if my descriptions are too graphic, or anything else you don't want or like. The more you keep me in the loop about things the better I can answer your questions in a way comfortable and safe for you.

One thing is to talk more about masturbation as a concept itself. Is it normal? Is it healthy? Are there benefits? What are the benefits? Can you do it too much? Will it negatively affect future relationships? Anything else we can think of to discuss?

We might want to address any issues or concerns you might have. Do you have religious concerns? Do you believe - incorrectly I might add - that parts of your body are ugly, gross, or smelly? If so, we should talk about this and any related issues.

We will want to discuss your anatomy and physiology a bit. We won't spend a lot of time on it but it is really important. I imagine you are somewhat familiar with your anatomy - your clitoris, for example, but we can cover that too if need be - but there is some information regarding your sexual health that is often left out. Let me rephrase that, this is almost always left out. Most woman never learn about some of these very important aspects. (For example, are you aware that your clitoris is much bigger than it appears? How about that your clitoris has "legs"?) It is an important subject and it is directly related to your question. It is also important and relevant to all the questions you haven't asked. I would like to direct you to a short (3 - minute) non-pornographic video that was produced by an artist who specializes in illustrating these topics.

We would also discuss the basics of masturbation. Here I would paste some information from sex education sites geared toward young women and tell you how to find some of these education sites. As far as I know, links are blocked, so will give search terms to get you there, You will find the information more explicit than you might think. This is an area I will not be able to expand on much because they are the experts on how to tell you this aspect, and getting into the mechanics pushes the boundaries, but mainly because I have no experience with this since I am a guy. That is a whole other subject.

Perhaps you can think of other things to discuss? I really need your feedback to make sure we cover what you need covered and not bore you with things you already know about or are not concerned about. We can post how we are going to do this after we have decided on our approach. Again, please remember that we can discuss anything you desire privately and that we will skip anything you don't want to discuss, period.

I am pleased to see you are aware and concerned about the risks online. I am not going to do anything to abuse your trust or push you into anything uncomfortable for you. But you don't know that, all you have is the word of someone you don't know. When you speak with my wife, how are you to know it really is my wife, or even a woman for that matter? It could be me acting as a "sock puppet." So let's agree here that you will tell me what you are uncomfortable with so I can make sure not to cross any of your boundaries, and let's agree that you will report me to the SteadyHealth site immediately should I betray your trust. Agreed?