When I first started masturbating around the age of 11, I used to be able to use..lotion and lubricants and last a decent amount of time.
For a long time, I started using none, so it was just..like using my non lubricated hand.
Then I tried going back to lotion, and I started ejaculating within the first minute.
At this point in time, my girlfriend had moved to florida, and I no longer saw her.
But when she was here, she would give me oral and I could last around 7-10 minutes.
She then came back a year later, and gave me oral again, and I didnt ejaculate from it, after she was trying for about 20 minutes.
A few days later, we had sex..and I ejaculated the first 2 minutes, then had sex a second time the next day and last about 3 minutes.
And now, I have a new girlfriend..and I don't think I am going to be having sex with her, because she wants to wait till marriage, so I don't have much to worry about..
But, everytime I masturbate now, with lubricant..
(in the shower) I can last around 7 minutes.
But if Im laying down on my bed or something I only last about 1 minute.
What could be the cause in that?
Also, do you think the one time my girlfriend gave me oral and I didnt ejaculate was because I was so comfortable around her at that point..it was kind of I could ejaculate when I wanted too?
And one last thing, for a while, I just started masturbating to get the sensation of an orgasm..I think I kinda screwed myself over, there. Because now I can only last.. 1-7 minutes, as read above.
If you could help me out a little on whether this is premature ejaculation, or if its my comfortabilty level with myself and other people I do sexual things with.
If you could please help me out.
if i masterbate in the shower, i can last up to 10 minutes
if i masturbate in my room w/o lube, i last 2-3 minutes
with lube, more often than not, under 1 minute
someone give us some help, please.
Obviously I don't know the history between you and this girl, but you mentioned you were uncomfortable around her that time she gave you oral and you couldn't ejaculate. It's more than likely that this was because you weren't comfortable with her, whatever the situation was.
When you had sex with this girl, was it the first time you'd had sex? Or had you been without sex for a long time? It seems a bit strange that you couldn't ejaculate through oral but only a few days later it was quick ejacualtion through sex. I'm a little confused?
Hope a helped a bit so far anyway.
like others have said before, with the oral, because you were uncomfortable you might not have been aroused enough to ejaculate.
I wouldn't worry about it too much, your 14 and you still have time to develope both mentaly and physicaly so you might grow out of ejaculating quickly.
If you want to hold off longer then practice masturbation more often. Get used to the feelings that build up and learn when to slow down or just stop. There's no reason you can't stop during sex and do other things.
Sometimes gripping the base of your penis firmly once you stopped can help calm things down.
I can't see it would matter too much as long as your partner gets off. Perhaps you can practice you oral technique a bit.
Sometimes it just happens though. It you feel up for it, cum twice in the "session"! I often cum quickly if I get a decent blowjob!
Talk to kids your age. A friend.
Dont hurry to grow up. Grown up life really is diffucult. Just be a kid and have fun while u still are.
I have same thing, just pause every once in a while, and you can make it last for a long time, if you use the internet, look at something until right before you come, the stop, then repeat, it makes it last longer and can genarate more "stuff". Keep on livin! Peace.