IM 15 AND CANT PULL FORESKIN BACK

Hi Kevin,



I'm glad we've got to the bottom of this one. If we're correct then you have a 'skin bridge'. They are most common in circumcised penises but generally occur in intact penises if the foreskin is forcibly separated from the glans before it detaches naturally. It then heals itself to the glans and this is the result.



You need to see a doctor for him to diagnose if this needs to be removed. It may be the reason for your tight foreskin, it may not and your doctor should be able to tell you this. If he decides he wants to have it removed it is normally a simple surgical cut under a local anaesthetic.



However, my opinion is that you should not let him talk you into a circumcision. If for any reason he does suggest this come back on here cause I've got a couple of contacts I can put you in touch with to help sort you out.





Onto your mum, just say whatever you feel more comfortable with.





Anybody else got any input on skin bridges? or anything ive missed?

njoynlife wrote:

Kevin1993 wrote:

Hey, i'm 16 and i have the same problem as u TOm09.I have never been able to pull back my foreskin but for the very first time i did a few days ago but when i did it it got stuck. Eventually i managed to get it back over and ever since i havent pulled it back again. when i pulled back my foreskin for the first time i managed to get to that bit of your glands where it goes down a bit ( The bit at the back where the glands end) but i cant pull the whole glands out :( I dont know if i should try pulling the foreskin bak again or not.... im realy worried incase it gets stuck. Also because i cant pull bak forskin it stinks under there :/ Any suggestions for me??? I have the same probles as TOm

It's nothing to worry about.
I'm sorry you were not introduced to the proper cleaning of your penis as a youngster. The doctor told my mother to pull my foreskin all the way back and clean under it at every bath. She did that until I was about 6 when she turned the job over to me with a serious explanation that I HAD to do it. For a couple years she sporadically made sure I did by having me do it while she watched. So I've always been able to pull mine back behind the ridge of the glans to clean it. The back of that ridge is a hiding spot for smegma so being able to clean behind it is quite nice.

Mine always pulled back ok as long as it wasn't erect. By the time I was your age it hurt to pull it back behind the glans with a hard-on. If it got caught behind the glans as I got a hard-on, it was really painful. When it did get caught there, I usually couldn't get it to go forward without creating even worse pain. I soon found that was not a real problem though. If I put it away, it would roll back all by itself when it deflated. The only down side to that was the sensitive, and now exposed, glans rubbing on my underwear was uncomfortable to say the least. The bare glans rubbing against my pants also tended to keep the erection going.

After I got married and began having sex regularly I found the foreskin would always get pushed behind the glans during intercourse. This always resulted in painful stretch marks on the tip of it, so I decided to take it in my own hands, so to speak, and stretch it so it didn't do that. I did it by inserting two fingers into the tip while in the shower and spreading them as much as I could stand, for as long as I could stand. In a few weeks I was up to three fingers and still stretching. When it was loose enough to go back behind my glans without any pain I kept at it once in a while to prevent it from returning to it's old self.

If you decide to do what I did, you may get some sore stretch marks which will hurt like he** when urine gets on them, but that's the price to be paid for the comfort to come. It's only skin and it will heal just like the skin on the rest of your body. I think it heals quicker.

Having a foreskin that can be comfortably pulled all the way back is wonderful and adds to your sexual pleasure immensely. The inner side of your foreskin is "stretch sensitive" and when it can be stretched back during intercourse as the designer intended, it adds a lot to your pleasure. Being able to touch the whole glans during masturbation is a real plus too.

So work on getting that foreskin back there. You'll never regret it.

Yea im 16 with a similiar problem to the original poster and Kevin. So far the most consistent advice ive gotten is stretching so im going to try but i keep forgetting (have to go to school and dont exactly have time or energy to play with my foreskin before school starts in the shower).

Now im hearing of this foreskin getting stuck behind the head of the penis and the pain/discomfort there. Im now worried about that. Do i stretch and just deal with that? Or is there an alternative?

That whole thing seems like alot of discomfort. Do you think it would have been easier just being circumcised and should i hate my parents lol? And thank you very much for your story.

Hi,
I'm not really sure but I think that stretching will not help you in this case. It would be the best to see a doctor. Like kingfreze said you might need a little surgery. If you stretch it you might end up ripping it off with a lot of pain and discomfort for a long time.

Kevin have you told your mother anything or maybe already went to see a doctor?

Yes I agree, it would probably be best that you didn't continue with the stretching until you've shown this to a doctor.


Let us know how you get on :-)

Hi anonymous,



I assume you don't have the skin bridges we've been talking about to Kevin?



If thats not evident, I can only agree with the other advice you've been given to stretch it. It might be easier for you to do this in the bath, maybe after school as you may need some more time.



One good technique is to gently pull the foreskin back as far as you can before it starts to be painful and then return it. Then try again and attempt to go a tiny bit further. The main thing though is to be gentle and not to force it anywhere.



Don't worry too much about it getting stuck, but you do need to be aware of it. If you go gentle and don't force it behind the glans then you should be ok. If it does happen to you though, you will need to squeeze your glans and pull your foreskin back into place before the swelling makes it impossible and you'll need a trip to the A&E. But don't make a worry of it.



Do I think it would have been easier to have just been circumcised? Definitely not. There are loads of advantages to having a foreskin, it is the most stimulating part of your penis. I know of a lot of circumcised men who are unhappy with the results and it also comes with complications of its own. I don't think you should be hating your parents, but more like thanking them for letting you keep it. A lot of people don't get the choice.

I agree with kingfrezes post. You are giong to be able to stretch it out and circumcision is really unnecessary. an you give us an update on how you're doing? Thanks!

Hello!
I can't pull my foreskin back completely as well, and I've been looking in to this matter quite a while. The foreskin itself seems to stretch quite abit and I think the problem's not there. What I've deduced is that I may have smegma turned into "glue" that wont let me retract the foreskin. At first I could retract it to a certain point before the glands, but most of the head was out. I had gotten used to it. Then one day I tried mastrubating after being in the bath for a long time and when I was finished I was delighted to notice that a part of the foreskin has retracted and revealed the very red and still-sensitive head that was covered before (only a part, asymmetrically, you could say, since I used only one had, ie one side got most of the "work"). A few hours later, though, it became VERY sore and the inner part of the foreskin that covered the head before bleeded a little. Though I was happy to see that it seems that I could technically solve this problem by myself, without the aid of a doctor, so I'm (brutally) tearing the foreskin from the head abit every time I go to the bath (leaving behind a dark-red super-sensitive head and a swelling foresking. Also I can confirm theres old smegma there). I do admit, I wish I would have painkillers while doing so and I just bite a towel really hard to deal with the pain, which really is excrutiating at times, and this is why I ask this question: should I continue doing this? I do have the will to endure the pain for the greater good but I certainly don't want to mutilate myself.

kingfreze wrote:

ionotylerisbored wrote:

Hey, I have this weird problem.. I was retracting my foreskin back, it was going well until it reached behind the glans. I noticed that on the right side under my glans has foreskin attached to it which doesn't allow me to pull the foreskin all the way back... what do I do?
Is this bad?

Hi can I ask how old you are? If your still an early teenager it is most likely that your foreskin just hasnt detached from your glans yet. If you're over about 16/17 its more likely a skin bridge and in which case you should see a doctor.

I'm 17

Hi ionotylerisbored,


At 17 your foreskin should have separated from your glans, so it does point more to a skin bridge.

Do a bit of google searching and have a look at the site I suggested to Kevin earlier and let us know if this is what your problem is too.

Well I looked at the site that you provided and I am 100% sure that I do not have skin bridges. the last picture with the frenelum looks just like what I have. I have no problem retracting my foreskin while erect but I can not pull back as soon as my foreskin goes behind the glans penis. When I try to pull back I notice that the frenelum is holding it in place. It hurts to penetrate.. Is it because of the frenelum or is it that my glans penis is still too sensitive? My glans penis hasn't been desensitized yet, I haven't had the time everyday to do so.

Hi again ionotylerisbored,

Thanks for having a look at the site, at least we can rule out the skin bridge.

The frenulum is normal, but if it's too tight there is an operation known as a frenuloplasty, where a small cut is made in it to loosen it. Usually this is if the foreskin cannot be retracted though, so I don't think you would require this.

I'm actually struggling to see where the problem is. So you can retract the foreskin behind the glans when erect? If yes, then there shouldn't be any problem with your frenulum.


As for the pain when penetrating this could well be down to the glans being too sensitive. You should work on desensitising it every time you take a bath. A good way to do this is to grip your glans between your thumb and index finger under the water, as the warm water will confuse the nerve endings and make the sensation less acute. When the feeling subsides move to another area of the glans and continue until you get bored. Also, when you can, get used to holding your penis by the glans when you take a pee, or get your girlfriend to help.


I hope this has helped a little. Has anybody else got anything they'd like to add?

Well I can retract the foreskin while erect but I usually do it very slowly because I can feel the foreskin stretching just a bit as I pull back. For the desensitizing part, does that mean I have to leave my glans exposed or can I just retract everytime I shower and let it roll forward later on?

That sounds fine that you can pull it back behind the head. If it's a little tight it just needs a little more stretching. You say the frenulum is what is being pulled now so you can't pull it back further. That is exactly what I had after I got my foreskin stretched so it would go behind the head. Some say that can be stretched too, but I think that will take a lot longer. Mine got torn during sex, which hurt quite a bit but I wasn't about to give up having sex with my new bride..

The first time it got torn I just let it heal before having sex again. That didn't solve the basic problem because it was still no longer than before and still wouldn't go back any more than before. The next time it tore, I wrapped it with some gauze while holding it back so the torn ends didn't go back together as it healed. This left it longer than before and my foreskin was able to go back further without pain. The tearing happened several more times during sex and I did the same wrapping each time so each time it got a little looser. Now I can pull my foreskin all the way back so the tip is at the base of my penis and it moves easily and painlessly.

This is basically what a doctor will do for you except I did it in smaller steps and I had control over it. It's going to hurt either way. The doctor will probably stick you with a needle before cutting it with a scalpel. When the needle wears off I'm sure it will begin to hurt again. Also how does he know if it's going to be enough? Will you need to go back? They also like to create more pain than necessary by stitching things together even when they probably don't need to be stitched.

I think my way was less painful because during the heat of passion you don't feel it tearing. I never knew it tore until after, so basically I avoided the pain of the needle and only had the pain that would have come after the needle wore off.

When it no longer tore during sex I don't think my foreskin was able to go as far back as it does now. (That WAS many years ago) As I recall I accomplished the full pull back by pulling it back until I could feel it stretching while it was hard and holding it there as long as I felt like holding it there. I also pulled it back as tight as I could during masturbation to help the process. I do remember some soreness caused by that, but it was definitely worth it to end up with a foreskin that rolls back all the way to my belly, comfortably. With it all the way back my whole shaft is covered by the inner foreskin which gives me some really great sensations during sex.

However holding it all the way back simulates a circumcised penis being forced into her vagina which is not the way the designer intended, and was definitely not the most comfortable for my wife. We found the most pleasurable way was to insert my penis just the way it is naturally, allowing the foreskin to be pushed back during insertion. That allows the foreskin to roll back as it's inserted thereby protecting her vaginal wall and the head of the penis. Then as it gets inside where things are much softer and cushiony the head comes out and gets fondled by her inner vagina. I/we found that was the most pleasurable part of intimacy and we tried to make that last as long as possible.

As for the sensitivity of your glans. When your foreskin rolls back and forth easily and you do it the way I just described, that's no problem at all because it doesn't come out until it's all the way in where her vagina is all warm and squishy and just plain comfortable.

Desensitizing can only be accomplished by forcing it to make contact with things outside it's protective covering. So the more often you make it stay out and the more you touch it the less sensitive it will become. You control how quickly that happens by how often and how long you do it. I had my own way of doing it by cleaning and drying it with rubbing alcohol, then masturbating by dry rubbing it while holding the foreskin all the way back. It may take weeks or it may take months. I can only assume that everyone is different, so it takes as long as it takes --- for you.

Thanks for the input njoynlife :-)

Its up to you really if you want to and how to desensitise your glans. I don't recommend leaving it exposed as there is always the chance of paraphimosis if it is at all tight.

I've had a lot of success stories from the method I suggested before, but its up to you.


Also take on board what njoynlife has to say he always has some good experiences to share.

Thanks for the advice. I'm just curious that if in fact when I use a condom over a sensitive glans penis, would it still sting? Does it matter or is it necessary for the foreskin to be rolled all the way back to the belly?