Hey, I am currenly a 14 year old grade 9 student and I have been teased forever. Sorry I can't enter, Idk how to on my sis' iPod touch. Since grade 3 I always got along better with girls. I never really trusted guys because they'd always tease me about being gay. Even my best friends ( who I thought believed me) wasn't sure if I was gay or not. The only people that would talk to me and really be there were girls. I have grown up with them so much at school. Now in hughschool evrything is a little different. I still have really close girlfriends but they definately don't invite me to do stuff with them as much as they do each other. I geuss it's an opposite sex thing. Anyways guys at this school don't take me in as a friend easily because from what I've heard, they think I'm going to rape them. I'm not even gay! On top of that girls don't like me cuz they think the same things. The only friends I have r the ones I grew up with. Bt that's not the problem. I'm not the most attractive guy on the planet, and I've definately been called some horrible things but I'm not the person that cares about what other people think. This is really long and i haven't even gotten to my point yet. I guess I'm trying to say that I hate when people listen to horrible rumours and judge people by their looks first! It's really shallow and seems to happn to me a lot! Pls help
Hi honey! 1st of all a HUGE hug!
And what you need to know is that EVERYONE of us on here has gone through what you are going through! And IF I took a vote not 1 adult would want to relive their teenage years! Sometimes it is HELL! The main reason is HORMONES, a sense of being needed and acknowledged etc. There are clicks, groups, people change to fit in to ANY click they can! People call each other names because they are glad that it is someone else other then them! It is hell for youngsters! BUT it can also be a great time!
Do you have any guy friends? If so and start talking to them about girls - not like some of the guys do talking dirty and disrespectfull - because this DOES get back to them VERY quickly! - but if you like a girl or think one is pretty etc, mention it, just as casual as possible! So it doesn't look like you are trying hard! When you get put in a group that isn't your group, it is hard to get out of - such as being classified as gay when you aren't! So the time to stop it is now!
Also don't take it too personal about the girls, they are just trying to be in a click too - not dropping you or anything like that - just a different direction for awhile! I have friends that I have had for over 30 years, we are ALL friends from Junior high! There isn't one of us that have friends that we made from highschool! The reason is that in Junior high, we grew we were going threw the same changes, there wasn't the same clicks as there was in highschool! We were just kids! I knew that I wasn't in any click just hung around with a whole bunch of different people! I had my friends, but they fell into different clicks! And so be it! We would hang out but not as much as before! Then after HS was over we came back together! And we all say now that we were just glad to get through high school in one piece! And this has been like this since classes began! EVERYONE of us has felt inadequate, lack of friends, not handsome enough, or pretty enough! It is ALL the same no matter where you go and who you meet!
What you have to do is just be you! I was who I was and was just friendly with everyone! I hung around the druggies, the jocks, the brains, etc. It didn't matter! Because I didn't think myself as anything particullarly special or above anyone else. And I GOT that my friends NEEDED that feeling to belong to a popular group! I didn't! A very dear friend of mine was the quarterback! I saw him change infront of my eyes! He would drag me to games, to football meetings, to parties and I HATED it! Because my buddy was changing, but I still did it! I still drank and smiled at ALL the fakeness around me! And that is what I'm saying to you, "JUST be your friends friend" BE YOU! Don't change - because it's harder to be something you aren't! Just start talking and being more out there for others, because I guarantee you they ALL feel that way honey! Every last one of them OK? And DONT accept disgusting things being said to you!
The biggest piece of advice I can give you - pertains to girls - NEVER cross one honey! They can be the most WICKED and EVIL you know whats EVER! So NEVER give them a reason to turn on you! Don't talk about ANY girl negatively to ANYONE! Not even your closest friend! Because it's a winner takes all mentality! And also animal instinct! I have told my boys this, and it has faired well fro them! My eldest 17 1/2 is about to graduate and my youngest 14 is going into grade 9! So keep your head low, your mouth closed, and keep smiling honey! If you are good to people it WILL come back good towards you! I PROMISE!!!
And what you need to know is that EVERYONE of us on here has gone through what you are going through! And IF I took a vote not 1 adult would want to relive their teenage years! Sometimes it is HELL! The main reason is HORMONES, a sense of being needed and acknowledged etc. There are clicks, groups, people change to fit in to ANY click they can! People call each other names because they are glad that it is someone else other then them! It is hell for youngsters! BUT it can also be a great time!
Do you have any guy friends? If so and start talking to them about girls - not like some of the guys do talking dirty and disrespectfull - because this DOES get back to them VERY quickly! - but if you like a girl or think one is pretty etc, mention it, just as casual as possible! So it doesn't look like you are trying hard! When you get put in a group that isn't your group, it is hard to get out of - such as being classified as gay when you aren't! So the time to stop it is now!
Also don't take it too personal about the girls, they are just trying to be in a click too - not dropping you or anything like that - just a different direction for awhile! I have friends that I have had for over 30 years, we are ALL friends from Junior high! There isn't one of us that have friends that we made from highschool! The reason is that in Junior high, we grew we were going threw the same changes, there wasn't the same clicks as there was in highschool! We were just kids! I knew that I wasn't in any click just hung around with a whole bunch of different people! I had my friends, but they fell into different clicks! And so be it! We would hang out but not as much as before! Then after HS was over we came back together! And we all say now that we were just glad to get through high school in one piece! And this has been like this since classes began! EVERYONE of us has felt inadequate, lack of friends, not handsome enough, or pretty enough! It is ALL the same no matter where you go and who you meet!
What you have to do is just be you! I was who I was and was just friendly with everyone! I hung around the druggies, the jocks, the brains, etc. It didn't matter! Because I didn't think myself as anything particullarly special or above anyone else. And I GOT that my friends NEEDED that feeling to belong to a popular group! I didn't! A very dear friend of mine was the quarterback! I saw him change infront of my eyes! He would drag me to games, to football meetings, to parties and I HATED it! Because my buddy was changing, but I still did it! I still drank and smiled at ALL the fakeness around me! And that is what I'm saying to you, "JUST be your friends friend" BE YOU! Don't change - because it's harder to be something you aren't! Just start talking and being more out there for others, because I guarantee you they ALL feel that way honey! Every last one of them OK? And DONT accept disgusting things being said to you!
The biggest piece of advice I can give you - pertains to girls - NEVER cross one honey! They can be the most WICKED and EVIL you know whats EVER! So NEVER give them a reason to turn on you! Don't talk about ANY girl negatively to ANYONE! Not even your closest friend! Because it's a winner takes all mentality! And also animal instinct! I have told my boys this, and it has faired well fro them! My eldest 17 1/2 is about to graduate and my youngest 14 is going into grade 9! So keep your head low, your mouth closed, and keep smiling honey! If you are good to people it WILL come back good towards you! I PROMISE!!!
Hey dude - my input here....
The good thing I can say is that what people in high school think REALLY doesn't matter much at all the day after you graduate. The ecosystem in high school does not exist in the real world. The most popular kids sometime become the biggest failures, while the 'geeks' and 'nerds' live very productive and successful lives!
My advice - always be true to yourself. Make sure that YOU will always be proud of your decisions... You will be the one to make out ok!
The good thing I can say is that what people in high school think REALLY doesn't matter much at all the day after you graduate. The ecosystem in high school does not exist in the real world. The most popular kids sometime become the biggest failures, while the 'geeks' and 'nerds' live very productive and successful lives!
My advice - always be true to yourself. Make sure that YOU will always be proud of your decisions... You will be the one to make out ok!