Speaking as a mother! I am VERY proud of you honey! It wont be easy with all these hormones, but when you have a clearer image of whats going on then it is a little bit easier!!! It's hard to seperate the hormones from "reality" but it does get easier I promise! You don't find many people wishing they could be teenagers again!!! ;-) XD So good luck honey, you sound like an exceptional young man with a good head on his shoulders! Take care!
Well let me be clear--I grew up in the Deep South. So for me to have the experiences I had, let me tell you, it really DOES happen anywhere! So don't worry about it from that perspective. But yeah, it sounds to me like you're just trying to sort your feelings out on everything. I don't envy you. I remember when I was a teenager and everything was so new and intense and I had no idea what anything meant and I was afraid because I didn't think ANYONE ELSE understood either. But you know now that everyone DOES understand so you're head and shoulders above everyone else your age :-)
Anyway thanks for keeping us updated and let us know how you're doing. Of course you're gonna but still ;-)
Anyway thanks for keeping us updated and let us know how you're doing. Of course you're gonna but still ;-)
Thats it, you keep smiling Imsohasome :-) After all life's good ;-)
Some really great posts there, bambi and healthguy; just look at that last response from the original poster. Now, that is exactly why we and this forum are here :-D
Some really great posts there, bambi and healthguy; just look at that last response from the original poster. Now, that is exactly why we and this forum are here :-D
Thankyou!! I think I can speak for HFG too - as we think alike! That sharing our experiences, sometimes painful ones! Helps us too, deal with our "stuff" and especially helping kids, that's my goal out of all of this, is clarifying things for kids! I wish I had this when I was younger! Would have saved me a WHOLE bunch of grief and whoop ass!!! ;-) XD
yep yep. I'm really thankful and glad that this forum is here. I don't know where I would be if I didn't have all this wonderful help! o.O but it probably wouldn't have been as happy as I am now.
things right now are running extremely smoothly. I haven't told my friend about anything yet, but we've gotten even closer. I've began to hang out with him even more. We're partners in 2 major school projects, so we'll be spending time at each others houses(like this friday and saturday, i'm spending the night at his place) and I think I'll get to know him much more, and vise versa. He even told another friend that I was his BEST BEST friend. lol 2 bests! :-D
I'm still unsure if I want to tell him that i like him. because he was already shocked when he found out when he had another guy friend liked him ( lol he's very likeable) and i don't think he needs another thing to burden him. %-) but thanks to this forum and healthfitnessguy, bambi, and medic-dan, i feel like i'm in the best state possible. everybody has been soo helpful and supportive. I feel so lucky and relieved that I have people that I can turn to, when I am to embarrassed or what not to talk to family.
I <3 everybody!!! =]]]]
things right now are running extremely smoothly. I haven't told my friend about anything yet, but we've gotten even closer. I've began to hang out with him even more. We're partners in 2 major school projects, so we'll be spending time at each others houses(like this friday and saturday, i'm spending the night at his place) and I think I'll get to know him much more, and vise versa. He even told another friend that I was his BEST BEST friend. lol 2 bests! :-D
I'm still unsure if I want to tell him that i like him. because he was already shocked when he found out when he had another guy friend liked him ( lol he's very likeable) and i don't think he needs another thing to burden him. %-) but thanks to this forum and healthfitnessguy, bambi, and medic-dan, i feel like i'm in the best state possible. everybody has been soo helpful and supportive. I feel so lucky and relieved that I have people that I can turn to, when I am to embarrassed or what not to talk to family.
I <3 everybody!!! =]]]]
Well, especially after your friend's had a bombshell like that dropped on him, he's probably feeling a little weird. For some reason, people don't feel like someone can be friends with them, even while liking them. Let me tell you, with most of my female friends, it's that way--one of us liked the other at some point. So your'e right, I think maybe you'd wanna put off telling him since he's already dealing with that. But you seem to be pretty reasonable so good for you. Sounds like you're exercising good discretion. Keep us posted! :-)
Like healthnfitnessguy said, you might want to put off telling him.
He probably just needs some time here. It sounds like you two are hanging out a lot now and he's probably still adjusting to that. Just take it slow and easy, OK? You don't have to rush with anything. You don't want to make him feel pressured either. It's much better when a relationship builds at its own pace.
You know what you need to do. Good luck.
Keep us posted.
He probably just needs some time here. It sounds like you two are hanging out a lot now and he's probably still adjusting to that. Just take it slow and easy, OK? You don't have to rush with anything. You don't want to make him feel pressured either. It's much better when a relationship builds at its own pace.
You know what you need to do. Good luck.
Keep us posted.
Yep, i'm just letting everything go with the flow. But only now, it seems like there is an obstacle.
so as you know jesse and i have been hanging out lots more. and we've really gotten to know each other, or at least i learned a lot about him. lately how ever, he's been talking to this girl that doesn't live in our city, but our sister city which is just a couple minutes away. but anyways, he's been on the phone with her seems like every second, and sometimes its hard to finish our work.
and as time went on, they eventually started dating. at first i was like 'oh cool' and brushed it off. but as he keeps talking about her, or what not and i think im starting to feel jealous? we haven't hung out much lately since he's been with her. like at the football game today(9/25/09) during 3rd quarter when the band (we're both in band i'm a drum major he's a trumpet) we usually hang out, but she was there, and it was like i wasn't exactly there. I have to admit his gf is really cute, and pretty smart. but idk i felt jealous
i might be taking it over board, but i feel that way still. could it be that i'm used to being around himn soo much, but now that he has to share time with someone that i could feel kinda intruded upon? or overly protective of him?
lol right when one thing is finished, another thing pops up. sigh..highschool drama. isn't that the best?
so as you know jesse and i have been hanging out lots more. and we've really gotten to know each other, or at least i learned a lot about him. lately how ever, he's been talking to this girl that doesn't live in our city, but our sister city which is just a couple minutes away. but anyways, he's been on the phone with her seems like every second, and sometimes its hard to finish our work.
and as time went on, they eventually started dating. at first i was like 'oh cool' and brushed it off. but as he keeps talking about her, or what not and i think im starting to feel jealous? we haven't hung out much lately since he's been with her. like at the football game today(9/25/09) during 3rd quarter when the band (we're both in band i'm a drum major he's a trumpet) we usually hang out, but she was there, and it was like i wasn't exactly there. I have to admit his gf is really cute, and pretty smart. but idk i felt jealous
i might be taking it over board, but i feel that way still. could it be that i'm used to being around himn soo much, but now that he has to share time with someone that i could feel kinda intruded upon? or overly protective of him?
lol right when one thing is finished, another thing pops up. sigh..highschool drama. isn't that the best?
It's me the female!!!! ;-) XD EVERYONE one of us on here and reading this feels the EXACT same way when their good friends finds another partner! You're like "HELLO!!!!!!!?" It's hard, and yes it is jealousy, its like "I had him/her first!!" "Back of biotch!!!!!" ;-) XD So don't let that derail you from what you think OK? It is just another NORMAL part of being a teenager!!! Thus the reason NON of us want to go back to that time period!!! Except for the paying no taxes or having a mortgage!!! ;-) XD XD So just hang tight OK? He's obviously not gay - and I truly don't think you are either!, he will still be your friend, it's just his crazy hormones taking over too thats all! I've been friends with about 10 of my girlfriends since we were 14!!! Thats ?0!!!!!!! Years ago!! And we went through ALL of this that you are going through, phoning up each other to find out they have other friends or boy/girlfriends. So it's normal, and you will be friends with him, and when they have their first fight, you will be their too. Just leave yourself open for other friendships too OK?
So he's dating a girl right now--that's not really any indicator, but in any case, it means he's off the market for now so it's definitely not a good time to tell him about your feelings for him. Personally, I have been jealous of male friends when they ditch me for a girl. It sucks. I wish that I could have their attention without worrying about some girl taking their time. Eventually, your friend will learn to make time for the two of you, but in the meantime, try to find other friends to hang with so at least you're not always thinking about being jealous. What do you think?
Now that i think about it, you both are right. I posted that last post up a while back, so now, things are i guess kind of getting better? I think he's gotten over the exciting fact that he has girlfriend, and so the excitement at the beginning as worn off a bit. So yeah. I've trying to hang with other friends so that i don't seem to clingy to him. and true, i won't stop being his friend because he has a gf. and yep. i'll be there most likely through their first fight. and yeah. i have other friends to hang with, just i don't as much, but yeah. I'll try. the way i'm trying to look at this situation right now is "its just a small chapter in life. i'll get past this" but yeah. thank u again.
Its totally normal and sucky at the same time! So don't worry too much about it OK? I think anyone reading this will remember the "one" friend who ignored them for their boyfriend or girlfriend! It will happen with you too, just remember that you are a very mature young man, probably more mature than others your age, so you see things differently than others! But it happens ALL the time! My youngest is 14 and he is in classes with 13 and 12 year olds. He is way beyond these guys, but it's hard on him when I try to tell him that he is more mature than his friends! How are the feelings you were having?
Woah BIIIGGGG even happened yesterday on my birthday. (10-08) but first of all about my feelings. Well it's worked itself out, just like yall said, he's found a balance. and soo I can't be mad at him for compromising some time for the both of us. But yesterday, he flat out told me, if he'd be okay with it if i was gay or bi, and that he didn't want to put off the message of "hey if ur gay or bi, we can't be friends anymore". gasp!!!! i haven't told him anything yet. and i've certainly haven't tried to hint anything. But now. i'm just confused!! i don't know what i should do now that he's told me that. so its the question of "should i tell him? he'll still be my friend, he even said so, i'll finally be able to get it off my chest, and it might even develop?" or "i shouldn't tell him, I mean I don't consider myself actually gay or bi, because its a unique sitations and its only an attraction towards him and it could be just hormones combined with want of male 'companionship(?)'
ahh!! its like the whole world flip upside down, and was shaken up. I finally had my thoughts in order again, and now once more, they're jumbled up and strewn everywhere! help?
ahh!! its like the whole world flip upside down, and was shaken up. I finally had my thoughts in order again, and now once more, they're jumbled up and strewn everywhere! help?
Hi hon! REAL friends take you whatever way you are!!! So he was telling you that he will be your friend regardless if you are bi, gay or straight! I don't believe tha that you are gay and you know my ideas about being "Bi"! There is NO need to tell him anything honey!!! IF he ever shows these same feelings to you, THEN you can say something, BUT for now just BE!!! Just be you honey! He didn't come out and say "I'm OK if you have feelings for ME!!" He said IF you have feelings for OTHERS!!! When you have feelings - regardless of if there is anger, love, confusion, hate etc, you put that out into the area around you! So he is picking up on your confusion! Also it is SO rampant now adays, I suppose he wants to cover all the bases!! BUT he too could be having those feelings - why wouldn't he really!!!?
What I want you to know is this honey! IF you moved forward and this were to happen then this would be IT, you would be classified as a Gay Male! And unfortunately - unlike a girl who has a lesbian relationship - it will be nearly impossible for yout to come back from that - IF you wanted to that is!!! I know this is confusing for you honey! But it's a HUGE decision, that I feel has consequences for you males - ESPECIALLY - because you are judged on your actions! And even though you are experimenting, it wouldn't be something that you could easily overcome!!
So hang tight OK? Just know you have a REALLY good friend in this guy! And hopefully you will have his friendship as long as I have had mine! I promise you honey, this will change CONSTANTLY!
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! XD
What I want you to know is this honey! IF you moved forward and this were to happen then this would be IT, you would be classified as a Gay Male! And unfortunately - unlike a girl who has a lesbian relationship - it will be nearly impossible for yout to come back from that - IF you wanted to that is!!! I know this is confusing for you honey! But it's a HUGE decision, that I feel has consequences for you males - ESPECIALLY - because you are judged on your actions! And even though you are experimenting, it wouldn't be something that you could easily overcome!!
So hang tight OK? Just know you have a REALLY good friend in this guy! And hopefully you will have his friendship as long as I have had mine! I promise you honey, this will change CONSTANTLY!
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! XD
I can't tell if I misread this or not but I'm really glad that he says he's accepted you for who you are. It sounds to me like he's okay with you being gay or bi. And if that's how you feel towards him, you can feel free to tell him that you think you're bi or not. He might be inviting you to say that you're bi so he can say that he is too...or he could just be trying to be a good friend. So don't take it as an invitation. It probably isn't, but it could be. I think it would probably be good to tell him that you're bi or could potentially be, I guess, if not to just have a friend who supports you.
Does any of that make sense? I feel like it doesn't. :-)
Does any of that make sense? I feel like it doesn't. :-)