Why is it that some people think relationships are about adding value to each other's lives and others think they're about monopolizing another person and setting limits on them.
girl get ur mind rite...leave that DIRTY ASS FREAK he needs psychological HELP!!!!!!! He is addicted to sex u dummy! Do u love urself or do u love that penis cuz that penis can be found somewhere else! U need some help to if u can't realize that!
My advice
get over it. it doesn't mean he is a nympho, or that he loves sex more then you, hes just a typical oversexed male.
get over it. it doesn't mean he is a nympho, or that he loves sex more then you, hes just a typical oversexed male.
Hun, I'll tell you right now. Your boyfriend-if he's anything like me, he'll be into a certain thing, and that thing may change with time. I was once into oral sex, then I became interested in vaginal insertion, then anal, and so on and so fourth, it's what he wants. Now, where am I going with this?
Two things we can deduct from this:
1)He's not getting enough sex, yes, 7 times a week sometimes isn't enough. In other words, he's really turned on, this could be due to him not making use of his time productively. I have a girlfriend, we have sex on average 1-2 times a week. Sometimes I don't get any, we both work, we both have lives and that's understandable. Someone who doesn't do much with himself, will often find ways to pass the time, and if it's become a habit, PORN is definitely going to be addictive. So that's the first option.
2)I hate to say this hun, you have sex 7 times a week, one can only assume that it might be a reiteration of the sex the day before, if you aren't trying anything new or at least not giving him what he wants, it's going to get boring. Sure you can make a guy cum, but orgasm's for males aren't as satisfying as it is for females. You might want to try something new, and I don't mean opening up that book of 600 different sex positions. I mean just change the routine slightly, give it more passion and COMMUNICATE, find out what he wants and what he likes.
Don't have sex if you don't want to have sex, if he's always nagging you to have sex and you don't want to, don't do it. He's so used to getting screwed that when his f**k-clock doesn't ring at that good-ol' time he gets jumpy.
I apologize if I said anything that might even slightly hint that you are a sex addict or bad at sex. I was merely trying to help.
Two things we can deduct from this:
1)He's not getting enough sex, yes, 7 times a week sometimes isn't enough. In other words, he's really turned on, this could be due to him not making use of his time productively. I have a girlfriend, we have sex on average 1-2 times a week. Sometimes I don't get any, we both work, we both have lives and that's understandable. Someone who doesn't do much with himself, will often find ways to pass the time, and if it's become a habit, PORN is definitely going to be addictive. So that's the first option.
2)I hate to say this hun, you have sex 7 times a week, one can only assume that it might be a reiteration of the sex the day before, if you aren't trying anything new or at least not giving him what he wants, it's going to get boring. Sure you can make a guy cum, but orgasm's for males aren't as satisfying as it is for females. You might want to try something new, and I don't mean opening up that book of 600 different sex positions. I mean just change the routine slightly, give it more passion and COMMUNICATE, find out what he wants and what he likes.
Don't have sex if you don't want to have sex, if he's always nagging you to have sex and you don't want to, don't do it. He's so used to getting screwed that when his f**k-clock doesn't ring at that good-ol' time he gets jumpy.
I apologize if I said anything that might even slightly hint that you are a sex addict or bad at sex. I was merely trying to help.
Let me give you "the facts" as i see them:
1. Hand is NOT equal to lady parts. maybe i never got skilled but there's no comparison
2. Hand is NOT equal to lady parts. maybe i never got skilled but there's no comparison
3. He's not trying to cheat on you and that's great!
4. I ALWAYS wake up the next morning ready to go at it again.
5. I actually bought ALL my girl toys and showed her how to use them (yeah, right! she knew what to do!) so she could get off when i'm not there. I doesn't affect our sex life either, we still get it in regularly when we're together.
6. If it's not affecting his performance in bed i don't really see the problem.
what you give him when you make love is TOTALLY different then what he gets from porn. They look similar but don't confuse the two, they are very different. He probably is ashamed he can't stop even though you asked him and because he can see it bothers you so much. your ego shouldn't be crushed because his masturbation is NOT A SUBSTITUTE for the intimacy which you both enjoy regularly. In fact, it does not intrude in your life, it intrudes in your psyche. I'm not trying to throw blame on you because im a guy but consider the fact that YOUR interpretation of his masturbation is the only conflict here. It would not matter if he stopped today for the rest of his life, you would never believe him, EVER, you'll always think he's getting better and better at hiding it. you need to understand sex and masturbation have two distinct roles in a relationship and if they don't harm the other then they both have a place.
1. Hand is NOT equal to lady parts. maybe i never got skilled but there's no comparison
2. Hand is NOT equal to lady parts. maybe i never got skilled but there's no comparison
3. He's not trying to cheat on you and that's great!
4. I ALWAYS wake up the next morning ready to go at it again.
5. I actually bought ALL my girl toys and showed her how to use them (yeah, right! she knew what to do!) so she could get off when i'm not there. I doesn't affect our sex life either, we still get it in regularly when we're together.
6. If it's not affecting his performance in bed i don't really see the problem.
what you give him when you make love is TOTALLY different then what he gets from porn. They look similar but don't confuse the two, they are very different. He probably is ashamed he can't stop even though you asked him and because he can see it bothers you so much. your ego shouldn't be crushed because his masturbation is NOT A SUBSTITUTE for the intimacy which you both enjoy regularly. In fact, it does not intrude in your life, it intrudes in your psyche. I'm not trying to throw blame on you because im a guy but consider the fact that YOUR interpretation of his masturbation is the only conflict here. It would not matter if he stopped today for the rest of his life, you would never believe him, EVER, you'll always think he's getting better and better at hiding it. you need to understand sex and masturbation have two distinct roles in a relationship and if they don't harm the other then they both have a place.
Looking at porn is something that most men do. IT's not a reflection on any woman that a man dates, it's just something that we do. Porn is there when a woman is not in the mood as well as just being something we like to do. Men don't get offended when women read romance novels. It is very similar, actually. Does that make sense?
I think you only have to worry if he isn't giving you sex, and prefers the masturbation instead.
I'm sort of dealing with the same issue, but my man is 33 and "losing his sex drive"...and I'm the horniest girl alive at 27....so I always give him what he wants, because I want it more! I've trained him poorly.
But yes, it is hurtful when I can sit next to him all night and ask if he wants to f**k and he says "not in the mood" and then be gone the next night, and all of a sudden he is turned on...
it does NOT bother me that he masterbates to his playboy, or porn, in fact we usually watch porn and check out naked chicks together, that for me was the easiest way to "get over" the fact that he had naked women in his bathroom everyday...just join in, and it is fun and way less stressful. afterall, chicks are beautiful, just embrace it, you know you like looking at them too...(and you know if you were a boy you would do the same). He can do this and still be respectful to you, now if he is hanging up naked pictures with cum shots on them, then that is a different story...
I just had a conversation with him about this, and he assured me it's just a part of his life. He loves sex, and wont ever masturbate if I'm around, but likes to be alone away from me, and be able to do his "other dirty deed"...its just what guys do...course he got all upset when he had to explain this to me and I didn't "already understand", but that's just him....he's always right...ugh, men
I'm sort of dealing with the same issue, but my man is 33 and "losing his sex drive"...and I'm the horniest girl alive at 27....so I always give him what he wants, because I want it more! I've trained him poorly.
But yes, it is hurtful when I can sit next to him all night and ask if he wants to f**k and he says "not in the mood" and then be gone the next night, and all of a sudden he is turned on...
it does NOT bother me that he masterbates to his playboy, or porn, in fact we usually watch porn and check out naked chicks together, that for me was the easiest way to "get over" the fact that he had naked women in his bathroom everyday...just join in, and it is fun and way less stressful. afterall, chicks are beautiful, just embrace it, you know you like looking at them too...(and you know if you were a boy you would do the same). He can do this and still be respectful to you, now if he is hanging up naked pictures with cum shots on them, then that is a different story...
I just had a conversation with him about this, and he assured me it's just a part of his life. He loves sex, and wont ever masturbate if I'm around, but likes to be alone away from me, and be able to do his "other dirty deed"...its just what guys do...course he got all upset when he had to explain this to me and I didn't "already understand", but that's just him....he's always right...ugh, men
Give him what he wants more! If that's not enough give home more... Get it? I AM a nympho; and while nymphs can be sexually monogamous, he won't be truly happy unless you can step up to the bat! Think of it this way... You know that cartoon movie ice age? You know that squirrel always trying to get that nut? Your bf is that squirrel! And to anyone who thinks being a nympho is bad... I think anything less is worse! Sex is hard work! If you get sore that means you did a good job but, that better not stop you from showing up the next day... A person could get fired for that! Now, go have a great day!
Your boyfriend just has a high sex drive and it has nothing to do with whether your satisfying him or not..i agree with the previous comment about the fact that you should give him more..my partner has a high sex drive and so do I..we've been together for about 4 months and still having sex between 4 to 6 times a day..im 30 and he's 29 which is surprising considering he should have been over his peak along time ago where as mines just started..he said that he's never wanted so much sex until he met me so I'm very grateful that he loves sex as much as I do..you could always block the porn sites on your comp to keep him out but it wont stop him from going to the shop and buying a mag..you will either just have to give him more sex he wants or just have to put up with his high sex drive..one thing you could probably do is ask him what his fantasy's are and could follow them through which may ease his wanting to jerk off all the time or add some toys into the equation..good luck
At 22yo, us guys are at their peak..hormones, young, dumb and full of...
I had a partner when I was 21..still the same..back then when we got it on 1, twice a a day...sometimes even AFTER the act, I still masturbated again...it s nice to re-connect w/ oneself
I had a partner when I was 21..still the same..back then when we got it on 1, twice a a day...sometimes even AFTER the act, I still masturbated again...it s nice to re-connect w/ oneself
ffffuuuucccckkkkk him more
I'm having the same issue with my boyfriend of 6 years. Having him take pictures of you doesn't help. I've done it. He doesn't even watch people having sex, just girls showing their boobs is all it takes for him. It makes me feel like my boobs aren't good enough. He tell me all the time how much he likes them but it makes me feel like he's lying. I have no issue with him watching it if for some reason I'm not around. We can have amazing sex before I go back to work after lunch, and when I leave he's watching girls show their boobs within half an hour.
I'm a 25 year old male and recently finished my PhD in clinical psychology. I can tell you now, it's a matter if time before he goes elsewhere for his sexual release. His fantasies that he's living in a virtual world are subconscious suppressions of unanswered desires. I can't say he doesn't love you, but clearly he wants to experience sexual contact from women other than you.
Guys jerk off. I promise you theres times where he prob wants to have sex twice in a row and you wolnt let it happen. So what does he do? Bathroom? Jerks off again. Probably happened. I have 12 extremely close friends of which 4 are women.. All but one have agreed that they have masterbated after sex because their partner wouldnt go for round two..any amount of masterbation is normal depending on the person...it becomes a relationship problem if he/she is chosing sex alone over sex with their partner. End of story Not many girls like to admit it either but sex alone is just as satisfying in a different way.. If you girls let yourself go they way you do when your alone watch how intense your sex life will get.. Men can train themselves to be better at sex and last longer through masterbation and women tend to need to do the same in an opposite perspective.
So your jealous of a bunch of dots on a screen. Your jealous he likes to play with the best toy ever. In fact I think your jealous that he's playing with his penis more than your playing with his penis. You don't need to have sex with him 24/7...your so worried about controlling him try watching him...bring masterbation to the bedroom, try edging or forms of BDSM...he's simply exploring his sexuality...explore it with him. The more you press the more likely this relationship will end. Maybe he's not 100% into women...so this has nothing to do with you. BOttom line, who cares, there's a lot worse things to be addicted to.