My first time was with a guy i didn't love. i didn't want it and he didn't ask. I tried to refuse but he didn't listen aand after he was in i was too ahamed and afraid to move so i didn't push him off. does this count as rape?
I lost my verginity to that... we had sex once a month after that first time i just stopped caring about what he did to me.
But now i'm with someone i love verry much. We had sex and he lost his verginity to me and i feel gulty that i couldn't lose mine to him because guy of #1. i wish i could been more forcefull other than just saying no...
Is it rape even though i was too afraid to fight him off ::'(
Yes, it was rape. You didn't consent. The first guy is a complete as****e and probably didn't know the full extent of what he was doing. Just because you were afraid and ashamed doesn't make it any less real. In fact, you were prolly trying to protect yourself from what further harm he may have done if you resisted.
Don't feel guilty about not losing your virginity to your boyfriend.. enjoy the sex you have now.
The first experience you had with this man was, absolutely rape. No question. Legally or otherwise.
Date, married and relationship rape is often the most difficult to sort through personally and legally.
Rape (legally called "sexual assault") is an act of sex that is not consensual between 2 people. It doesn't matter if you are dating the person who forces you, married to them or have a later relationship with them - it's still not consensual.
This type of assault is so difficult to deal with because it seems to involve a type of intimacy that we don't usually associate with the hard core rape cases that make the news.
Don't be fooled. When someone forces a sexual act - it's not just a case of a "selfish lover who got carried away" - it's an act of violence, carried out in anger or a need to take absolute control over you. A man who rapes his gf or wife is not terribly different from a guy who beats his gf or wife. The relationship of the violator to the victim has nothing to do with how wrong and criminal the act is.
My advice to you - contact a rape counselling center near you and talk this through. They would beable to better advise you on steps to take for you to heal from that experience.
as far as your virginity- that man did not take away your virginity even though he put his penis in your vagina. that was not sex, that was violence. you get to choose when you want to have your first consensual sexual encounter. you get to choose the first time you make love with someone you care about.
i know that you did continue to have sex with him, but you were so traumatized that, as you say, you stopped caring about what he did to you. you may not have used the words "no" or "stop", but those times were not truly consensual. consensual sex is not something that one person "does" to another, it is something that two people freely choose to engage in together because they both actively want to. the physical act of vaginal intercourse may have occurred, but you were certainly not making love of your own free will because you wanted to.
the first time you made love with the man you love was the day you truly lost your virginity. you both first experienced the act of truly making love at the same time. you lost your virginity together. a rapist cannot take that from you.
i want to give you the number and website of the national sexual assault hotline. you can call anytime day or night- there are counselors there for you 24/7- if you need support, want to talk, or have any questions, and it is completely anonymous. you might also want to look into individual or group counseling at your local sexual assault center. my heart goes out to you and i wish you the best.
1-800-656-HOPE
http://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline
i´m a lawyer and i know technically you can´t sue for that you can make the person in question take correctional classes but at the end of the day you can´t sue them