It is so annoying having strict parents

my parents too are very strict.I mean yeah i get anything i want sometimes,and im a tad bit spoiled.But i cant hang with friends go places or have a boyfriend.My dad acts as if he doesnt love me and my mom go by everything he wants He is a very boring person and wants my life jus like his.im 14 ,,, and evryone else is going to the movies BYTHEMSELVES with frwends and evrything but i cant...theyre too strict and it effects me in a person..it bothers me alot too the point my mind isnt the same...like im going crazyy i can see if im bieng over dramatic but it took alot years of hearing no and YOURE NOT OLD ENOUGH too make me goooo fckn nuts

i have the same sentiments with the other children. i am 22 years old now and still i have no freedom. i have a boyfriend for about 4 years, i don't drink, don't smoke, and even taking drugs. but still my parents won't trust me whenever i say i will go to a place for a date or whenever i have to attend some seminars. i don't have failing grades or even go to bars at night. i sometimes go for music bars to attend some gigs of my boyfriend's band, but i tend to say the whole situation to my parents just to let them know that i don't lie to them. but what i don't understand why they don't have trust on me since i don't go on to these bad stuffs, while our youngest go to bars for parties, smoke and drink, and still can get their permission fast. i try to be mature and face the fact that maybe they are strict to me because i am the eldest, but sometimes i can not accept these situations and sometimes i flare out. we often shout and often discuss some issues through texting because i know my mom won't accept my reasons, i just know. i hate the feeling that we don't have a good relationship with my parents, though our family is whole, no problem. even my siblings, they have the same sentiments. it's just so hard that they were so strict. today, i have this issue on my enrollment, i really have to go back to school tomorrow, but my mother scolded me and say "you said you'll come back on your school on the 3rd of nov.?!" but i never said that, "i said maybe i'll come back on next week but i never said on the 3rd." then she kept on arguing with me as if it was a big issue. but the truth is she don't want us to go out the house. she wants us to stay at home like a 3-yr-old kid. hello?? we're already 22, 21 and 19 years old. we're not minors anymore. i felt so bad. really bad that my parents don't have trust on us, that's why we have to make some stories just to let us go out. we're like prisoners and i hate it. we're not like this when i was in high school, this started when i enter college. but gladly, when i read your stories, i told myself, why do i burn myself on a situation like this and entertain this bad feeling the whole day? i'll promise now to be mature, ignore if i can those bad vibes of my parents, let them scold you the whole day just stand for your principles, if you think you don't do something wrong just be it. you don't have to prove anything to them. on the good side, i thank them for raising me like this, i am as good as i know. and i am proud to be me. :-D

I am 23 years old, they say i am free to make my decisions and they trust me and I am now grown up. This weekend I planned to leave town with friends and guess what happened? They threw a spanner in the works and now Im not going. I am 23... finishing my degree... have a steady boyfriend... WHO knows how ong he'll stay because he's a farmer and i see him once a week for a few hours only and the abundance of rules my folks have chucked in has made me wonder... DO they want grans children or are they just so obsessed with controlling me that they forget to ask what I want.

I am actually STRONGLY contemplating moving away from my town, to get away from my parents just so that i can have my freedom. I am not a rebelious person and have never been, I never went out, never got drunk, I hevent even slept with anyone either... Im proud of my values, but Im NOT allowed to live my own life, make my own mistakes to learn from, GROW...

I want to rather die... The only way I know life is to wake up every morning, feed, use the loo, work towards my degree, eed use the loo, smalle talk with the parents, sleep... just to start it all again the next morning. Life is SUCH a toss up. TO such a degree that its almost not worth it anymore. They say that as long as I am under their roof and financially dependent on them I have no say... Not even when I am financially dependent. Im not allowed to go out and have fun, sleep over at friends places go out of town for a time period. I have to get married in order to enjoy those privellages. I am SO bound Its not even funny! I hate it SO SO SO much!!

O... i have a really strict dad, but he is strict in a different way.

Most ppl think strict is like banning you, grounding you, forbidding you to go out and have fun, being too paranoid, and all those other sorts of annoying things. But my dad is different. What he does is that he doesn't listen, he always thinks he is right, and he gets rly angry from wierd things. This doesn't mean that he doesn't do what you tell him, but that he doesn't want to listen to you because he thinks all you say will be bs and he's the boss.

So one day he was washing the dishes and he told me to give him my lunch box so that he could wash it, and he told me to tell my brother to also bring his lunchbox to my dad. I told him, he heard me, but i didnt hear what he said (he said that he forgot his lunchbox at school) and i just left. Then my dad became super pissed and started to yell at my brother and told me to come here too. He started to scream stuff about like "O ARE YOU TAKING ME AS A JOKE?" and "WHY DO YOU GUYS NEVER LISTEN AND JUST THINK U DID EVERYTHING?" because my bro didn't take out his lunchbox (and this happened in like 3 minutes.... ). Then my dad starting yelling about my bro stepping across the border (cuz he was already being a bad boy like b4, but it was just like bad grades and bad attitude, nothing illegal; and my dad was already in kind of a bad mood) and then he starting hitting and smacking my brother and he became even more pissed when my brother was touching his face bcuz it hurts and my dad told him to stand still, unless ur dead. Then he started hitting me cuz i was "not doing a good job and not listening to what he told me to do" and i told him to "calm down" in a polite way and then he became furious and starting yelling "SO YOU THINK UR MATURE HUH? TELLING *ME* TO CALM DOWN?" and then started hitting me even more so i kinda stepped back and he said like "DONT MOVE, DONT TEST ME, AND SHUT UP. TELLING *ME* TO CALM DOWN? (and yes he likes to repeat things we dont want to hear)"

    and i just became disappointed bcuz a few months ago my aunt, me, my bro, and my dad had this anger talk cuz my dad gets angry too easily. During that talk my dad confessed that he was being too hard, and that we can talk about how we feel and explain to him when he is angry, and he was serious about that promise.    But now, not only he doesn't listen, he's being a total hypocrite. He starts yelling out that we think that we're not wrong and he's the bad guy, but actually he's the one thats being treated badly (yeah like totally -.-). And he just kept talking and spitting out saliva and we had to rub it off our face but then he hits us cuz we moved. Then he hits my bro with his knuckles bcuz he was making a "glare" at him (but actually he wasn't trying to cuz he just makes that face when he's nervous or in a bad mood), and my dad hit harder when my bro said he wasn't trying to. And i didn't dare to talk about that anger talk cuz i know at this point he won't listen, he will jsut get madder. I started to have this urge to cry, not bcuz we were treated badly, but bcuz he was being a total hypocrite, and i thot out family wud be a lot better after the angry talk, but it didn't change a thing. I felt sympathy and dispair. So now im struggling with not crying cuz my dad would get pissed like hell cuz he thinks boys have to be like "men" and "men" shouldn't cry (total BS). So he starts lecturing wut is right and wut is wrong and we were just like pissed not just bcuz we got misunderstood, but he's being such a hypocrite.

 

 if only he would start listening and get out of his little box, our family will be so much better. And he never. seems. satisfied.

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well my mom is strict, she never lets me on the computer or the phone or hang out its annoying i'm 16 and she doesn't want me dating sadly i do everything behide her or i find loop-holes, well it sucks that my mom is strict for the reason that i don't talk to her or tell her my personal life cause when i have it made things worse for me so yea

I know what you mean my mom can also be to strick some times. And she never lettes me go out with a friebd on week ends

yea, i agree with u two.... im 19 now and theres no way they understand my view... im the eldest too so i know they're being protective but its too protective. They argue all the time mum and dad.....i jus wanna get away and i only get to do that when im at uni.... they wudnt even let me leav home to go to uni so i stayed at the uni in my city.... i still look for loop holes to do normal things... when i explain that theres something on and i want to go their immediate reaction is why?.... and i dont even bother asking no more thats how much it sucks

Mum sed things would be different if i had an older brother... but then again she knows thats impossible now...

They just fail to understand me and th type of person i am.... im friendly and i love socialising but unfortunately i cant do that much because of them.... the freedom i seem to have at the moment is to dress how i want....i have a mobile too but they dont want me to use it.... weird isnt it =S

ohh yea beacuse im a girl they have an issue with any guy i speak to..... and i get the more than 20 q treatment but i guess im used to that because i get interrogated on almost everything.....

I can't wait to learn how to drive then mayb i can zoom away to some kind of freedom.....

sorrry if this is depressing but its all true.....and because of all this i cant talk to them about anything and i just try to avoid them because im sooo fed up of all the arguements.... all i want isnt much just freedom to hang out whenever i feel like it and be out with my friends without being questioned... im not doing anything illegal... or what i feel is morrally wrong so why am i locked up in this sense =(

beena

When parents are away at work, so my grandmother takes charge. So when I use any electronic device that can play games(even though I am not), I get yelled  by her and my parents when they get home. They are quite worried about my exams ,so they get really strict.(IT SUCKS)

I'm 17 and I know exactly how you feel, except that my dad is the most strict person you'll ever meet and hes very judgmental. He usually ends up not liking my friends. My grades are fine, I'm overall a great daughter compared to most girls my age that i know, and compared to my cousins who have gotten married in their teens or have gotten pregnant at like 15. I do my chores when told, but im never allowed to go anywhere! My advice, is start saving money now as much and as soon as possible so you can leave when you turn 18. My parents told me to stay with them when i go to college and i was like hell no! I love my mom she and I are beyond close, I think thats the only way i've honestly survived in my house. But they wanted me to stay for college and they said they'd give me a house key but I had to be home b4 midnight...like wtf? I'm going to be 18 and in college, I'm not about to listen to you anymore. So, i've saved up money and i'm still saving, I already found a roommate, and i'm looking for a job near where I've applied to college. Just hang in there.

 

My mom is really strict. I'm 17, not allowed to have a job, or even get my license. I can't even walk up the street without her threatening to call police on me. I can't drive the car, and I can't even have a bike because I might get in an accident. I can't go to friends house and if friends come over she's in the room 24/7. I'm not allowed to wear tight jeans, skirts above my knee, shorts above me knee, and no pure black clothes. I'm not allowed to do my makeup unless she approves and I have to always wear nail polish when she wants me too. I'm not allowed to go anywhere unless she says yes and that is very rare. I know how it feels, I'm like a prisoner and I can't stand it. I wish I could run away or something.

I have amazingly strict parents that do annoy me but I'm going to say that strict parenting really does work. I'm not allowed to go out with friends,go on the computer or watch TV or have a boyfriend or get any grade lower than an A. Though it may not look like it, they are helping me so much. To this day, I'm independant with most of the things I do, a straight A student and famous for my sense of humour. I'm so glad that they are strict with me because I find it a way of theirs to understand me. I'm very close to them and it shows. Yes it's no picnic having them,but when you see those straight As and you know that there are people out there who love you,nothing else matters!:)

My advice to those with strict parents is to not give them an excuse to fight with you or pick on you. Goodluck! xoxo

I am 11,and my parents are CONSANTLY nagging me about checking my homework,bedtime and that I'm messy.They are kinda anti-social in a way because whenever theres a event going on,98% chance of them saying "NO"

Dude u r so f*****g right it like they antagonize u do that u can say something or do something wrong while u r arguing with them so then when u wanna do something they can say oh nope u we're talking back to me that 1 day!!! It's so annoying!!

You think you're parents are bad? listen to this. I got in trouble a lot three years ago when  was 14-15 and they SENT ME TO A BOARDING SCHOOL. Then they complained when i got back the following summer because they were tight on money. Like no sh*t you spent $45,000 on a pointless school just because you didn't want to deal with me. Now I'm in my senior year of high school. I worked really hard and got straight As to get my moms old car. And finally i got it then they took it away because i went to one party. They put a gps in any vehicle i drive now. They doors and windows in my house are set with alarms. They wont let me go anywhere but work and school. What my parents don't realize is that doing all these things makes me want to lash out even more, even leading to suicidal thoughts. No matter how hard I try I can't get through to them. So unless your parents gps you and cage you like an effing animal then I wouldnt complain. OH AND THEY BLOCKED FACEBOOK AND TWIITER ON MY COMPUTER. Like really... Kill yourselves.

Your 11 of course you have no freedom.

I understand what your feeling here. I happened to me too. I deal with them though too. I'm turning 14 next week and i have a bf. My parents is trying hard to get rid of him. I hope they don't.

I understand what your feeling here. I happened to me too. I deal with them though too. I'm turning 14 next week and i have a bf. My parents is trying hard to get rid of him. I hope they don't. I :-)