It is so annoying having strict parents

Yes. It's very annoying to have strict parents. I'm 19 years old and i live with my Mom and my Dad. My mother wears the pants in the family so what she says goes. I can only go out once a month and talk on the phone for 15 minutes (30 if i'm lucky)IOn my 18th birthday i took all my things and left behind their back to go live with my sister (someone i really didnt know as well since my mom kept me away from her) well, things didnt go so well so i moved back with my parents. They were terrified to see me leave again so they eased up. i was happy. i was doing things i thought i never thought i'd do but as the months started to pass by my mom started going back to her old ways. Now im at stage 1. I know some of you say "well, why dont you move out" or "why dont you get a job" and to them i say ITS NOT THAT EASY! My mom kept me away from not only my friends but my family as well. And my mom told me she would keep my paycheck. i honestly dont know where im going with my life. I resent my mom and im starting to hate her. i know its sad but she needs to let go. i try telling her how i feel but she doesnt listen, she doesnt care. She's not giving me a chance to grow into a woman and thats not right.

Im 17 turning 18 this january & my shockingly strict parents are making life so difficult for me. They never let me do things which other normal teenagers do & it has come to a point where i cant handle it anymore. the thing which has gotten to me most is that i am NEVER allowed to go out with my friends at all & honestly it sucks being the only one left out from plans every time when all my other friends have a good time. I think its getting to a point where i am getting depressed about it? because i never get to experience things which normal teenagers do. i swear my parents are controlling and taking over my life. i do everything to please them, i listen to them and do everything im told, i do my chores, i do well at school and make sure i have good grades, i dont drink or smoke, i wear appropriate clothes (they are strict on clothing to) and after obeying them so much i just wish that they could just listen to what i want and let me go out once in a while. i honestly have no social life whatsoever, and everyone knows it. whenever people ask me what i've done in the weekends i ALWAYS say the same thing which is staying home, whereas everyone else has cool stories to tell. it limits my conversation also, im already a little shy person, and quiet & quite unsocial, and i reckon that this is all because of my parents because they never give me any opportunities. Back in the days theyd let me go out to the movies with my friends like ONCE in the summer holidays..and that too after heaps of convincing. but i askd them if i could go christchurch this weekend cos there's a function going on and they said NO. when i asked them why i cant go they said "just leave it dont go" and my mom says 'oh wo u going to stay wiz & she'll say i should just go with my sister & not with my friends.. then when i argue with my mom she starts bringing up my culture (im african) & things like how people in my culture dont go places like by them self they have dignity and are respectful.. for gods sake its just capple of hour away :/ its not fair because it shouldnt have to be related to my culture as a billion other kids from my culture are allowed and have so much freedom in their clothing, outings etc.. when i tell mom that then all she says is that those kids have no respect for themselves? okay i get wearing respectful clothes but not being able to go town? what! damn, i just want them to realise that im no longer a baby anymore & im growing up.. im gonna be 18 i should get at least some freedom without having to argue with them so much. and i've tried so many times to have heart-to-heart convos with my parents but its really hard because i start tearing up and then i just cant do it anymore, im really sensitive but i want to have a serious talk with them but i just cant do it. & you know what really sucks? is that even after im 18 i'll still have to obey them & i cant move out until im married because its not in my culture to do that. dammit im going to do something stupid if im stuck living this way of life until im married! This is affecting me in such a bad way.. i even have anxiety and slight depression, & after a depression if i toke a test ill be 100% depressed and im really in need of a holiday. I cant keep doing this. sometimes i feel so angry i just want to do somthing or do something really stupid infront of them because im done. nowdays when i get invited to parties i always turn them down before even asking my parents cos i already know what their answer will be. i have no live i reather just be died.

izzy its like the same thing with my parents but i have a boyfriend the thing that sucks is that im not aloud to go on dates with him. oh and im 16. my friends dont ask me to go anywhere anymore cause they know my parents will say no to it. i might not be able to go to prom with him. i cant get a cellphone til i can pay for it myself. im stuck with them until i can afford to move out i have to do all the chores round the house and they yell at me for being too slow. they put me down and call me names. i havent even had my new ipad mini a week before they took it away from me. they have hurt me to the point where i dont wanna life there anymore

My parents can have the strictest rules ever, and it's so annoying when it collides with my personal time. 

...well you guys are young compare to me that is already 26! I already have a children and a husband but they were always the one who makes decisions for myself! I am so mad! I just want to be free from my parents... but what can I do? here in Philippines our culture is different from you guys... even though we already have husbands and wives we are still living at our parents house!I want to live on our own, with my family... but my parents never allow us to do so, and can you imagine that even though I'm old enough they were still spank me? and sometimes with other people looking at us! I am so embarrassed... sometimes I just thought of living the house without them knowing it!!! :-/ 

Exactly, parents are really annoying. I mean, none, well, none that i know of ever tries to think in the optomistic way, True some kids never do their homework, and talkative, but as bright as they are, they still get yelled at. I used to be a kid who doesnt do much of the homework, but ive tried my best to change out my behavior, but they dont seem to be able to ever,EVER, think from my point of view.

They dont even listen to what i try to explain to them, all they do is get mad, Yell at me.

My mom is very strict not about being on the computer or any thing like that but as for dating. Shes not strict on any thing but that, im 15 years old be 16 this month. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 8 months now and my mom lets me go to her house and hang out once a week. Its rediculous!! Also the reason why is because she had me when she was a teen. And she's offered to buy me condoms before and my girlfriend is on birth control. (Her moms making her) But sex isnt the issue. During our whole relationship weve had sex twice once on her birthday and once on our 6 month aniversary. My point is that i think i should be able to see her and hang out with her for more the a day a week ive assured her i wouldnt make the same mistake as she did at such a young age. My girlfriend has even offered to give her a little money for gas each week if i get to go over there more. Which would benefit me and my mom figuring gas is almost 4 bucks a gallon here and my mom drives a v8 truck. (gas hog) .. But i deal with it and keep thinking positive 2 more years and im 18 and can make my own decisions and if my mom tries to tell me i cant go then ill tell her to kiss my ass but my advice to any teen is just hang in there and dont do any thing stupid just deal with it until your an adult then you can do as you please :)

well im 15 yr 10 

my mum is heaps strict i cant swear cant go to places unless its a mates house but whats the fun then doesnt let we walk around town

but...

my dad is fine like i wen out to my club once and he asked if i had a drink and he would let my go where i want like when i was away with him it was dark and he sent my home to get his stuff so i had to walk across town to get in on my own like the second day we were there and that was like 2 years ago 

if i lived with my dad i would be able to do my own thing but i probably would end up as well placed as if will with mum

You know? Most parents are strict for a good reason. If they never, you'd do things that you'd later regret.

But there are times when one of arte both of them get too strict. And if or when that crosses the line, he, she, or they must be countered.

If you have one or my kids of your own, you sometimes have to be strict with them because he, she, or they might do say and/or do one or things that you'd wish he, she, or they never said and/or did.

hi me too my mom is so strict. yah i know that they just want me to be protective and to be a disciplined daughter but somethimes its over and so OA.
i cant enjoy my life as a teenager and get jealous with those other friends of mine :'(

Hey ladies (and gentleman): I just want to give a shout out to all of you who are bearing with your parents' overbearing parenting toward you all.

*In the prime of your teenage years, hormonal changes are going to cause you to drift away from your parents and toward your peers because of the changes you are encountering and the similarities you are discovery among you and yours peers.

So even though it seems as though your parents are over-parenting you, this is partly because of psychology.

Parents are parenting you more intense though.

This is partly because there are so many issues on the rise among teenagers such as; drug addictions beginning at a young age, teenage pregnancy, drop out rate of high school students, suicide among teenagers, drunk driving, texting while driving, and even young girls being date-raped at parties.

Parents are SCARED.

You will never know the love and fear a parent has of losing his or her child until you become a mother.

(MOST) parents will do everything in their will to know their children are safe and as far from harm as possible.

Many parents let their children run freely without any guidance.

-These parents do not care for their children or care about the potential harm their children may be in.

I have great respect for the parents who go out of their way to be in their children's lives; partly because I was an only child and neither of my parents were too involved in my life. But instinctively, I have always known right from wrong.

I want each and every one of you to praise your parents and thank them for what they do, and if you want to see a change, you want more responsibility or simply more freedom to meet people are experience life, then you need to sit down and talk with them on a mature and professional level.

Start the conversation out something like this:

-Mom, I really appreciate all that you do to ensure my safety and I think you're an awesome mom but I only wish that you would give me a little bit more freedom.

-You've taught me wrong from right and when I am put in a situation where I have to choose to make a decision that I will either regret or feel satisfied with my response, I will remember what you have taught me and make the better decision.

-But I need to experience life while I am young or it is going to diminish the relationship we have.

-I need to experience the good and avoid the bad in life, and I need to do this on my own.

-I am not going to lie to you and do things behind your back, instead I want you to accept that I want to do more and have more responsibility.

-You deserve a break as a parent. As a constant watch guard, you need to rest knowing that I will make the right decisions behind your back.

Roaming the world and learning about things from first-hand experience are two vital essentials to growing more mature and gaining first-hand knowledge of the world around you, and your parent needs to understand this.

 

I hope that none of you take offense to this post and take it as constructive criticism in a way to build a healthier relationship with your parents.

Try it. You'll thank me in the end.

And I beg you, don't hate your parents for their love toward you.

You won't understand how much you truly love and appreciate them until they are in your life less and less and being a teenager without a car, in that 13-16 range, you are around your parents too much.

Thanks guys

 

Sincerely,

Courtney

Alright I see what you're getting at. I really do need help though Courtney PLEASE!!!! I need to know how to get my mom to get me another Xbox 360 because she took mine back to the store and I really need to know how to convince my parents that I am worthy of one. If you could help me that would be great.

Jaidin :)

I have way more strict parents that you do. They don't allow me to br friends with boys or even talk to them. They go really angry when someone likes me. I mean i can't control that right? I understand that they do it for our own good but why do they have to hit me and say bad words and bad things about me then tell her friends and our neighbors? I have been forced to study hard. Of course I understand that because It's my only responsibility. But I am really jealous with my friends and classmates relationship with their parents. They could tell them their problems. Have really deep talks and have someone there when they need someone. Why do I feel that I don't have someone like that? I love them but most of the time I'm just something that they're proud of only when they are with their friends but I don't feel it when we are
Together?

Sadly all parent are like this. :( Just wait till you get to college 

my parents are not to strict its just all the kids in my town today can play any rated m game and im one of the few that barely has any all i have is halo 4 and skyrim and my mom ACTUALLY HAD TO THINK ABOUT HALO 4! EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE JUST SHOOTING f*****g ALIENS!!!