hi im 14, and this is kind of off topic, but ive been wanting to have sex with my boyfriend of 6 months, but im scared of pregnancy, and im scared bout asking my mom about birth control, im scared shell freak out and i dont know wat to say. im really scared PLEASE I NEED ADVICE
you should not have sex its alot of things can happen to you, u can get an std, pregnant, it can destroy ur relationship,u guys lose respect for each other, or he thinks ur easy and he can get what he want sexually. you are also too young to have sex ur only 14 when i was ur age i was thinking the same thing as u but i had to remeber the relationship might not last and i will get my heart broken and i would have lost my virginity on a dude who only wanted to put his hand in my cookie jar and take the cookie and leave. just enjoy ur relationship, sex is not all there is about a relationship.
think about this
when a guy sleeps with you and tells you that he will take that responsibility if something happens, you may want to think twice as their hormones may just be raging. No boy (that is what they are) is ready to take on a responsibility as big as a baby.
you are at risk of contacting some type of sexual disease, even if you do use protection, your chances will still be there.
You will be risking pregnancy even using protection.
If you do not have sex with someone, then you will be labeled as “hard to get” and that is good, because that means all of those good girls and guys will come around to date you.
If you do not sleep with someone as a teenager, this means that you have good morals for yourself.
The wedding night will be wonderful and will be very memorable, especially if the both of you are still virgins.
You will be saving yourself for the right person to come in your life, which really does mean something.
You will not be putting your heart on the line…oh and you will be grounded by your parents when they find out. Yes, they will eventually find out, trust me.
Most of all, you will have something to wait for. You’ll have something to dream about and look forward to.
Oh, also did I mention the first times around it's SO painful, you'll find yourself crying (with pain) during the sex and asking yourself why you wanted to do it in the first place. And also, if you consider having sex with a guy just to make him fall for you, it's not going to work. All you'll do is lose virginity and any chance of having a real relationship with him.
u should sit down with someone u really trust and talk talk to them about ths also ,because my friend was only nine when she lost hers and she regrets it, wasting it on a guy who really didnt care about her alot and just wanted to feel how sex was.
have a nice day.:) just think about what i said ,do u really wanna go through all those bad things .
p.s if u guys have alot of sexual urges you guys can just masturbate by yourselves or by each other, hope thats helps.
Hi Ghost, I feel I need to step in here and give you some advice as well as the other poster seemed to put the fear of God in their post, not sure why or what they have against sex but I'm here to give some other advice.
You may be scared to ask for birth control but anyone can get condoms from the local grocery store, they have no age restrictions on them and they are not that much in cost. Put a couple in your wallet, pocket, purse, shoe, whatever or wherever or however you always can be protected. Using protection such as condoms saves you the fear of getting pregnant by at least 98% and as well you are protected against any STD's.
You may feel the need to want to have sex but do try to masturbate watching each other getting off first a couple of times, this is sexy and fun, very sensual to watch. Oral sex is safe sex as well, just wash each others genitals first before making it more sanitary. IF you still feel the need to explore further at your young age then use your protection.
There is nothing wrong with having sex, sex is beautiful and wonderful especially when shared with your loving partner whom you love, respect and trust. Saving yourself until you are older is a mature and wise decision and one that you would probably come to respect later in life, purity is sexiness - the younger you give yourself away the more the guys think you are 'easy'. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you are - this is the way young guys think.
I hope this helps and stay safe with whatever you choose
Then all I can say is be safe. You shouldn't be too embarrassed to ask your mom about bc if you tell it like it is, she's going to understand, don't beat around the bush, don't lie to her - just let her know that you and your bf want to take it to the next level but you want to be smart and not be a teen parent, could we get me on bc please? I'm a mom and I'd rather hear that than, mom you're going to be a grandma, oops. If she had young sex, she'll understand with you too dear, trust me. Good luck
see to make it easy 14 ain't a time for doing this things i mean test him for just more time find a perfect timing for doing sex i mean u were going for dinner or somthing and u did that u know what i mean u have to make a perfect environment for doing sex u cant just jump in bed and so it give yourself time what if ur mother did that at 13 u are not like ur mother and even if u do do things with ur bf just think u are just 1 year away from ur real maturity dont loos your virginity soo easy and if the guy is really worth just do it dont u dare ask him yourself just let him crave u xD and make perfect timing if he also wants to do it then its ok do it at a special place not at home ok and be sure to check urself with strips and take ur pills if u did endup having sex but think again sex is no joke i think 16 is best time 14 is kinda underage nevermind u are unique and u can whatever the hell u want go ahead to your dreaM :P i am 16 and havent had sex ever i am just finding a girl that i can trust and can have sex with her and have a strong relationship :P nevermind have a great day...............peace...................out......love weed.