hi, I'm 19 and earlier in the year I had a miscarriage. I was desperate to fall pregnant again. I've just found out I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I was so happy at first but now I'm not so sure. My partner is 25 and addicted to heroin, and I'm suffering with major depression. I'm not sure if bringing a baby into all this is right? We both live with my parents.
Loading...
Hi datbabylove, I think your right to be confused, it doesn't sound like the best environment to bring a baby into. However, there are things you can do to change that, and that is your job as a mother to make yours and your baby's environment safe, healthy and happy. So I guess you should start prioritizing your life. First, you need to get you some help for your depression, you have to be well to have a happy healthy pregnancy. If left untreated your depression could get severe when the hormones start raging, which they probably already have. Second, get your partner some help for his addiction, and if he won't try to clean up, then you need to decide if that is the father figure you want for your baby, is that a safe person to have around a newborn, can they make good decisions while high on drugs? Maybe look into a methadone clinic in your area, (methadone is used to get people off of heroin) and some counseling for both of you, on your own and as a couple. You said in your post that you had a miscarriage, that had to be incredibly painful and devastating emotionally, I am sorry for your loss. You also said you were desperate to be pregnant again, well you have been given a second chance at being a mother, some people don't ever get that and you should take it seriously and make the effort to give your baby the best life possible, that starts by taking care of yourself, and making the hard choices in life, like not having heroin in your home or a partner who uses it. This baby didn't ask to be here, but its coming in about 32 weeks, so set you some goals, get your partner involved in the process of getting your lives straightened out, and make a good life for you and your baby, because that is what your life is going to be about for the next 18 years. Good luck and God Bless.
Loading...