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Male teenager with flatulence issues. Need to have this gradual social suicide stopped.

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Okay, so before I go on about this, I'd just like to warn you guys of potential TMI, but I'd like for it to be as detailed as possible, so as to make it easier to come to a conclusion concerning this issue of mine.

So, I'm a sixteen-year-old dude who has been suffering from abnormal flatulence-related issues for at least a year now. This has been bugging the c**p out of me, mainly during school time and in other social contexts (mainly where I spend a big amount of time around my friends; have completely avoided sleepovers as a result of this) where it's really become a problem, although I strangely enough haven't bothered myself to try and look it up until recently, which I guess is because I've just started at a new school and would prefer to not immediately royally mess up the chance to make some friends. At my previous school, I was a bit of a loner, even before this issue even came up, so I didn't care as much then; the schedule I had was very different as well, and made it easy for me to avoid being near people throughout the day (just to clarify, I didn't constantly fart when people weren't around or anything, the issue is more about the embarrassment that ensues when attempting to restrain it, which I mention later). I'd really like to have a fresh start now at this new school though (lolpun). I also recently saw some kind of documentary where they included some people who suffered from IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome), where I could relate to many of the symptoms brought up, so my concern for this has doubled, if it's revealed to actually be the result of some kind of disease.

So, to try and sum up as much of this as I can (this apparently ended up being how this mainly has affected me in school): In the mornings, I have since I was about 14 ALWAYS had the urge to poo after eating breakfast, which usually arises a couple of minutes after eating. The thing is, at least half of the time when I attempt to empty my bowels at this hour, it's as if I'm constipated, I just can't get anything to come out. And when I manage to to do so, it's only a fraction of what actually is in there, so the need to poo quickly returns once I've arrived at school. I wouldn't really say that the fact that I can't manage to defecate at this time is the abnormal thing in this situation, rather than the annoyingly-timed urge to poo, as I usually can't bring myself to do so after ~12AM either. As it is now, I do usually hold it in, as I get rather gassy really quickly after just partially dumping some excrement for some reason (same thing happens whenever I poop, normally, now that I think about it; weird, I tell ya). I once decided to entirely skip on breakfast for a week, which really didn't make that much of a difference (it lengthened the time before the urge to poo would arise, which still arose during school time; and the lack of breakfast essentially turned me into a zombie before the school lunch would come and save me, and instead led my stomach to make embarrassing hunger-related noises); here I also discovered that only drinking water for breakfast would incite the need to poo. :(

Another thing that should be noted is that the flatulence barely is an issue at all when I'm in situations where I move around a lot, or even a little, for example during P.E. class or just when I'm walking around for a bit, then it gets held back pretty well and it's not a bother at all. But when I have to be still and/or sit down for a long amount of time, then it can really get troublesome, and unfortunately this occurs a lot during school time. Anyway, the fact that I daily go to school with the need to poo has, as you probably can guess, led to some embarrassing moments, and does overall make me feel really anxious to go there. One thing that happens relatively often is that I feel all bloated when I sit still for a long time, like there's this big bubble moving around in my body that makes these embarrassing noises, some of which sound identical to farts. These noises do mainly come from the lower party of my torso, sometimes just above my butt area; weirdness. I've managed to conceal this pretty well though, and it rarely led to any awkward encounters. I do also get this really uncomfortable, slightly painful feeling in my stomach when it happens, so not having it as a part of my everyday life would be much appreciated.

Another thing that happens, being the most horror-inducing one, is that I get these so called "leaky gases", which is when my body starts to automatically emit gases by itself and is something that I find practically impossible to restrain (I used to think that it was a result of trying to hold it back for too long, but it commonly occurs right after eating breakfast as well). The gas feels a lot more "shallow" and softer compared to usual flatulence. Kinda like a slow, gentle and longlasting exhalation with one's mouth, except it's with my butt, and I barely notice it unless I'm sitting down, as I get this really uncomfortably warm feeling around the buttocks area then. This makes me really paranoid, as it occurs rather often, and I usually can't do anything more than tilt my butt toward the opposite direction of any students that are around. The worst part is that I can't tell if it smells or not, as I've personally never managed to sense the smell from it myself. But I do relatively frequently get this, um, "acidic" feeling while it's happening (as in this kinda burning sensation one may get after one's bowel movement, which I more or less get after every bowel movement nowadays), and I feel positive that it must be smelly as hell. But still, the reactions that have spawned from neighboring people have only been ambiguous at their best, no one has, like, abruptly relocated themselves or said "you smell like sh*t, yo" to my face. This uncertainty really bothers me, but I still remain sure that it must be smelly during at least some instances.  

I've also noticed that when I'm being anxious and nervous about it, it gets a lot worse, which, yeah, has a tendency to happen rather often, especially after I made this observation. For instance, just a couple of days ago, I went on some sort of field trip-ish activity with my class, where we traveled by bus for about 20 minutes. I managed to grab a single seat, and I had no issues with either flatulence or an upset stomach for the entire trip; one thing that I noted that probably contributed to this, besides having no people around in the immediate proximity, is that it was in quite a noisy setting, as opposed to overwhelming silence in the class room, which probably cooled my nerves a little.

One really important thing that I should mention is that my mother also have a similar issue. She once told me that her mother had some flatulent issues that she was really embarrassed of which supposedly both she and her brother inherited. Her issue seems quite different compared to mine though. From what I've experienced, it's that she occasionally lets them rip. Loudly. And often sequentially. But as opposed to my issue, she seems to be able to control it pretty well, as she only does it when she's by herself. She doesn't intentionally do it when we're around, but damn, those things are so loud that it's not really hard to hear them even if you are on another floor. I find it weird that they sound so explosive though, squeezing one out quietly shouldn't be too hard, heh (TMITMITMI). But as I said, it's kinda different compared to mine, as my flatulence issue is more about having a hard time controlling it, and that it often makes itself noticed through suspicious tummy sounds and, um, leakage when attempting to hold it back. I don't doubt that it's related to her issue though, it would seem way too coincidental otherwise.

Um, I'll end this by saying that I've never really had any problems with diarrhea (although my anal offspring does appear rather loose every so often, guess it's sorta normal though), nor constipation, except for between ~12AM-8AM (I've always had it like that though, although it didn't necessarily lead to gassiness back then, but I still don't really think it's constipation-related), which I know are typical symptoms of IBS. I do however rarely, if ever, manage to push the whole thing out when I'm number-two-ing, I always feel like there's some of it left, though I usually stop trying when I feel relieved enough, as I don't want to spend an hour sitting on the john (have no idea if this classifies as some kind of constipation or not). And (yet) another thing, this flatulence issue only, or mainly, occurs when I feel the need to poop, or when it starts to, like, accumulate. Like, an hour or so before I actually need to poop. And also immediately after I poop. So it's not really a 24/7 issue. The stuff I've described throughout these paragraphs are specifically about school and when I feel the need to c**p.

So, to summarize, these "flatulence-related issues" in this flatulence-related situation of mine are mainly these embarrassing stomach noises and these "leaky gases", and also the fact that I get the need to c**p in the mornings without succeeding in doing so. Also that the need to poo even results in gassiness to such an extent that it leads to the formerly mentioned issues. 

Whoa, sh*t, this really turned out redundantly long, but I kinda felt the need to vent a little as well. And sorry for any weird formulations or grammar errors, English isn't my native language. And also sorry for all the rambling, I had a hard time keeping this think cohesive as there were so many things I wanted to have noted (pretty sure I could've done this with half the size of the text by being more concise). Thank you for reading this incredibly boring and bizarre wall of text about my stomach and its nasty ways though (assuming that you didn't just scroll down just to read the end of the post).

Any suggestions of what might cause this and recommended measures to get rid of this would be GREATLY appreciated. It's sorta ruining my social life, or whatever is left of it. I also kinda miss being able to go one day without having to take a c**p. Even more so when it comes to farting. :c

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Holy c**p, this thing is intimidatingly long. o_O No way that anyone's gonna reply to it. Think I'll need to edit out some stuff.
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Guest

Hi there,

I found this post randomly when looking at info on constipation during pregnancy. Anyway, your problem reminded me a lot of my sister because she has been suffering from the same thing for a couple of years. She has just recently solved the mystery - she was gluten intolerant. She gave up ordinary bread and pasta (etc) and is now a new woman. Not a parp.

You could give it a try. It worked for her from one day to the next. You can easily find a list of foods containing gluten online.

 

 

 

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Alex

You just seriously described my life... >:c

I honestly am having the same exact problem. I'm 17

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Kevvytt

I'd be looking at your diet. You mention nothing of the source of your problem, what you take into your digestive system. Rubbish in, rubbish out. Check out what causes wind/flatulence on this website and reduce the amounts you consume. Check out the times that you eat. Do you eat late at night? Having a regular morning bowel movement must be great. It frees up most of the day. Should last you till you get home anyway. Do you eat plenty of fruit and veg and drink plenty of liquids? If so do you take more than your fair share? Constipation is a build up of material that causes a blockage at the back passage. It causes a lot of pain and can cause piles/haemorrhoids which can bleed.
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I am not a doctor. I am a female who has experienced many of the symptoms you have listed and I suffered for years without an answer even though I went to the doctor a LOT. My symptoms went away after excluding all grain and grain products from my diet. Wheat and corn were the worst offenders. A good website for information is 

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LUCKYLADY1125293579


i am a 75 year old grandmother , have been diagonist with Diverticulitus and IBS I am also having problems
with gas , I have a mentally challenged grandson one day I went into the kitchen and he followed me and said
oh Grandma that was bad. all my family were here and they laughed, I Suggest to you that you try Metamucil
every day , a lot of my friends do that. if that does not help you I suggest you ask your mother to take you to a
gastrologist , or your regular Doctor to have a colonscopy. it is not nice to have done but the day before is the worst and
you take a lot of medicine to clear your bowels, once you are in the operating room they put you out usually,
and check inside your bowels to make sure there is no pulps or diverticculie , I know what you are going through
and it is not a nice feeling, I am seeing my gastrologist on Monday and hopefully he can help me , you are young
and do not want to go through life feeling bad , I have almost turned into a hermit because of my problem and it is
effecting my social life like yours. i hope some of this information can help you
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blocked poppy

You've pretty much described my experience all these past years. I'm also a male in my 20's and my symptoms also started around 15 years old when changing schools, as far as I can recall i've never ever had bad experiences with excessive flatulences up until that point. Then all of a sudden something triggered it, I began feeling everything you've mentioned, it still amazes me how spot on your rant was. I've always been an introvert at heart but after that, i've isolated myself beyond belief, my life has taken a toll because of this. During my school years i've attempted to stay in the back corners of classrooms, as you've said when in silence in confined places surrounded by people something gets triggered and makes the situation exponentially worse. I've become a secluded person, didn't wanna hangout with friends just because I was afraid of how I was going to feel, couldn't go to the cinema with someone by side, couldn't stand classrooms, avoided all types of work that didn't involve open spaces. Dunno what to say... i've become a shell of who I was meant to be, no friends no girlfriends no nothing :(

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blocked poppy

I've decided to add more to it ( TMI sorry! )

Hello everyone, i've been having these symptoms since 7th grade or so. As i'm writing this i'll try to pick on the little details focusing more on the experience that i've had with constant chronic flatulence though various situations in life rather than treatments, consultations, pills, doctors.

Let me be honest, I don't think i've done proper due diligence as i've never fully committed to a specific diet, or I simply was too lazy to exclude various foods, as well as trying (Foomaps/testing for lactose intolerance/breath tests etc) Many years back all I've done was a colonoscopy, and the results came back as normal with the exception that I had a rather long intestine, all that the gastro medic suggested was something like flatulence pills combined with the charcoal ones, and sent me to therapy and prescribed me antidepressants. Cool right?

So let me dive in into the sad story that is my life. Way back when I was just a kid living in the countryside I swear I was the happiest guy around, nothing would get me down, there was a sense of freedom that has been lost over the years. Before something was triggered in me, for the life of me I can't recall a single bad memory that had anything to do with flatulence, not a single one, I mean i'm sure I farted but was so rare that I never thought anything of it. At most all I had was some serious tummy pains with trapped gas that my father would massage.

One day all changed, roughly in 7th grade (can't be sure but it was around that time) all of a sudden something changed, I was having constant flatulence on a chronic level. I very quickly realised that anxiety and stress were heavily correlated, when feeling anxious the symptoms were heavily aggravated. I don't think I ever was a great student as far as grades go, but at least I was able to focus on the lecture without that little voice that now is lodged in the back of my brain constantly reminding me, "you're going to fart". So now it was getting to the point where I wasn't able to arrive at school and go straight to class without going to the bathroom, I could wake up just fine, not feel the need to go to the bathroom nor pass gas at home, eat my breakfast take my ride to school, but as soon as I arrived, I started to feel discomfort, the need to pass gas and I couldn't go to the classroom without going to the toilet, and for the most part helped just a bit but not nearly enough nor for long. Then I was pushing friends away unconsciously, speaking less and less to them and in classes I was no longer able to sit next to anyone nor in front of the classroom, with every chance I got i'd pick the corner table in the back of the room isolated from everyone else. If someone was sitting next to me the situation would aggravate ten fold, not able at all to focus on what the teacher was saying as if my head was underwater and all I heard was a distant voice. I'd get palm and *** crack sweats, hot/cold flashes with that feeling of going that I was going to faint, from the serious clutching not to pass gas.

I've also noticed that when sitting down everything worsens, or just by being next to a girl, closed and small places in silence are the worse, it's almost guaranteed that the symptoms are going to pop up even though I might have been having a good day thus far. Here's what really bothers me, altho the need to pass gas is still there but in diminished frequency, when i'm outside and start walking in the streets, for the most part I just feel better...
During high school , I remember having supplementary physical chemistry classes to boost my grades, in the tinniest quietest room surrounded by colleagues, I don't think I ever attended a single class without going to the toiled before hand, I remember as it was today, how sweaty I was, trembling, heart pounding, hot flashes and if it wasn't flatulence it was really loud gas noises rumbling near the anus, i've never felt so trapped in my whole life.

So finishing high school was stressful enough, I've skipped classes multiple times, but I powered through it and finished it. I would have loved to to have gone to the University, but I honestly didn't had any strength left to attend it for the next 4 years and power through it all over again. Things like taking the drivers license, honestly wasn't as bad as I was expecting, I suppose I really had to be focused on driving and trying no to crash the car to worry about the rest, but still I delayed it for YEARS just out of fear, took me year to gather the courage to take the lessons. To this day i've only worked one traditional job, that provided me with tons of space, surrounded by noise, and not so many people. As you can imagine that really had me stress free, the work was hard, the schedule was awful, the pay was bad. I just didn't care about anyone of that, I had a purpose, I was keeping busy, and symptoms where non existent as I was constantly moving and not thinking about it. All that came to an end eventually, gladly i'm making a decent living for the time being from home, but you know what, grass is alway greener on the other side, doesn't matter how much I accomplish in life, i've never been so depressed, as i'm just alone at all times there's really a need for human connection.

I can't remember the last time that I went to the movies with someone, had dinner with someone in a quiet place, even when friends ask me to go out I try to dodge it even though deep down i'd love to go. Also it doesn't really help that i'm as introvert as I am, due to all this, over the years i've lost all my social skills, I can't hold a conversation even if my life depended on it, I just really don't know what to say or how to relate so I Just stand there with my mouth shut. I've also never had a chance to find myself a significant other that I could entrust with my issues, what I wouldn't give for someone that could relate to me, and enjoy the little things in life. Everything else that i've done in life doesn't matter at all, what I wouldn't give for a reset button and the ability to fully experience life without this weighing me down.


I'm nothing but an empty shell, i'm not the person that I was meant to become.
If you are suffering and need a friend, you'll find one in me.

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