So I've been talking to a girl for a few weeks now, and I kind of like her. Her and I are in a league together so we do see other at least once a week. She's made every effort to be around me when possible and we have been texting now for a while, so she has to know I'm interested. She's has also initiated so I kind of know she's interested too. And all of friends can kind of see it too lol. But recently she's been changing her behavior, as in taking forever to respond to texts every now and then. I was hoping to meet up with her a few nights ago, and I was clearly hinting at it in my texts and she took forever to respond! I told her we could've met up, and she responded with "Another time". I also non-chalantly mentioned she could sleep at my place the last time we hung out as a group and she said she would next week (I mentioned it literally as she was walking out). I would hate to stop pursuing over small logistical errors as we both do work and time is never really on our side. I also haven't formally asked her out yet, but did invite her out and she came (even though it was a clear logistical conflict on her end). Any ideas?
It sounds like she's "playing it cool," but still wants you to pursue her. You could try back off for a week and see if she texts you back to ask where you've been. For both sexes, something that runs away from you or backs off intiates the drive in the other to pursue. We constantly want what seems to be something we can't have. If we have to chase something, it suddenly becomes more valuable. If it sounds like game playing, it is. And even 40, 50 and 60 year olds still have to play games with the opposite sex to get, and keep them, interested!