MMF Threesome Question

personally this is nothing that i could ever do me and my boyfriend have been engaged for over a year,and this is something that we both feel exactly the same about and i feel that this is on the same lines as cheating and sex is for couples and couples only and the fact that my partner would be pleasuring someone else in front of me would really disturb me and make me feel sick. this is something that ruins thousands or marriages people think it would be a good idea at the time but i really think that its something best left to a fantasy in relationships and marriages, i know it does work well for a lot of people also and doea spice up their sex life but is that a risk you would want to take.

Thanks for the response. This is not something we are close to doing. It has only ever been a discussion/fantasy I suppose. I do agree that the risks are high however I am just wondering if there are others out there who either have experienced something like this or have opinions.

My friend and I have been in several MMF threesomes with our wives. They started out as MFM threesomes but changed into MMF threesomes about 6 years ago. We have tried FMF threesomes, but 1 guy satisfying 2 women doesn't happen very often and our wives didn’t feel comfortable in bed together. I feel very comfortable in bed with my friend and enjoy sharing my wife or his wife with him. We all orally satisfied each other whenever we are in bed together, it feels natural to orally satisfy both our wives and him. 8)

I think it opens new avenues and ideas into a relationship

My wife and I have had a MMF threesome with our best friend several times. He is also married so discretion was assured. She has let him do oral, vaginal and anal with him usually finishing in her mouth. I really like watching her take another man and she loves having another to play with. At this time, he is at one end and I am at the other and occasionally, she will take us both in her mouth at the same time. We have been married over 20 years and this has not had any negative impact on our relationship

I did an MMF with 2 guy friends a couple years ago. They were kind and 'respectful', gorgeous young men - it just kind of happened. I wasn't cool with it at first but they made me feel so comfortable that I started to enjoy it. It was hot, basically.. Having 2 guys fighting to please you. I'm curious as to the psychology behind why you want to watch another guy please your woman though.. My current boyfriend nor would any guy I've dated ever tolerate that. My current guy is a beast in bed, he's so good at what he does that I can't fantasize about another guy.. but if you want to do this for your lady thats very nice of you. You're correct in assuming that it will cause her less emotional issues if the 3rd party is a guy because there is less for her to be jealous and insecure about.. but just make sure you're emotions will be safe in the long run and it wont feed into any inadequacies that you may have.

well Im married, my husband and I have been into thresomes MFMs now for while, for me its like you have said two guys pleasuring me, and as for my husband , well he is a voyeur, so therefore he get to gratify his voyeurism and have a certain amount of control over what happens, its basically down to trust in each over, Sally

Both my wife and I are in our late fifties. Two years ago we decided to invite a younger man in this thirties to join us for a MFM threesome. From the onset my wife really enjoyed the attention from the two of us and I enjoyed watching her experiencing another man for the first time in her life. We have had many threesome with him over the last two years and everyone is better than the previous one. I have reached the stage where I feel completely comfortable to let the two of them play while I watch and take some pics. This is really something that we should have tried out when we were in our forties or even thirties. Our own sex at home has improved with leaps and bounds and we are still very active even at our age. I would definitely recommend trying it out. Just make sure that there are no insecurities and jealousy.

The MFM relationship is going to bloom into what you can accept and your own internal registry of emotions. The woman in my life I can share with another man simply because the feelings she experiences are beyond words as well as my own. Her attitude and likes/dislikes and mine merge well in this life style. 

As for me being the husband, I am very secure in who I am and not the least intimidated or lacking self esteem, no jealousy what so ever.  Our bonds as a husband and wife seem, as we both express to one another, stronger now and run deeper with a very mutual respect, love, desire, happiness and a host of other adjectives.

If a couple is thinking about this lifestyle or simply want to try it, I strongly encourage you both to read and read and read some more. Start with "Rules" with a basic internet search. We read most likely 15 different writings with rules and found a little from each one to make our own. This is the most critical point we came across as it helped us talk through the entire process from start to finish. While you can't even begin to fathom the real outcome, you at least have rehearsed and discussed the situation or something close to it. Bottom line is we have a great grasp of who we both are, where we are in our relationship but most importantly we talk a lot. Communication is key to success. Talk about anything on your mind and share your honest thoughts and feelings. Talk with your partner and things will most likely turn into a very pleasnat,fun and positivve experience you will want to return to over and over.

Been there and done it with my wife ,it is fantastic to see your wife being pleased by two guys you wont regret it as long as you have a very strong relationship,oh and i also found out i was bi while it was happening but the wife loved that bit and wants more. So i say go for it. We did set limits but a lot of the time these go out the window as you all get very turned on so i wouldn't worry if she decides to go all the way.In fact i'd be disappointed if my wife didn't go all the way now. Enjoy

My husband introduced the mfm fantasy to me a few years ago. Initially I was shocked and concerned for my marriage and therefore it became the subject of many very long discussions. To cut a long story short, my husband reassured me, he made me feel special and we used the fantasy a lot in our love-making. We often talked about doing it for real and talked about some hyperthetical rules but nothing progressed. Then one weekend it just happened. We were having one of our regular weekend getaways and were staying at a hotel. We were in the bar when my husband's work called him about some unexpected issue and he had to make a few calls. He said he would only be 10 minutes, so I waited. I got talking to this young guy and didn't think anything of it. However, after a few drinks the guy was clearly flirting with me. I was very flattered and surprised because I was 45 and he must have been 10 years younger than me. An hour passed and my husband still hadn't returned.  When he did return, he was full of apologies and really thanked the young guy for keeping me company. Anyway, 2 more drinks and we were all getting on really well, the bar suddenly closed and my husband invited the guy for a final drink in our room. There was nowhere to sit, so we all sat on the bed. It was rather awkward until my husband kissed me. He then looked into my eyes and asked me if I wanted to kiss our guest. I gave him my answer by kissing him and then turning to kiss our guest. That was all it took, they were both all over me and it was very erotic. I actually loved all the attention and everything worked out really well. I had sex with both guys and achieved more orgasms than I had ever experienced before. My husband was fantastic throughout, kissing me and holding my hand as I enjoyed hot sex with the young guy. We all had a great time and my husband and I have enjoyed many MFM threesomes since. We believe that we actually love each other more because of it. So I think if it is handled in a loving way it can often be good for a maturing marriage.

My wife is 50 and I am 60. We tried a MFM threesome a couple of weeks ago. It was absolutely awesome! We hope to do it again soon! The guy was 30, fit and attractive. For my wife, it was a treat to have a fit, young, guy. For me, it was like watching the ultimate porno movie!

Hi Carol that sounds very erotic Can you suggest how do I start talking to my wife this is my ultimate fantasy. Lately when I am doing her anal she asked me to insert fingers in her vegina and enjoys alot and I asked her if she likes a double but never replied. Please help

Hi me and my wife are going to have our first MMF threesome Saturday , both early thirties been with eachother 12 years massivley hapy with eachother and sexually has always been great between us.  We want to try this as the fantasy comes back stronger and stronger , for me to see my wife totally satisfied is going to be amazing and im fine with a bit of light Bi stuff too.  Going to be a little bit nervy at first but we are meeting with a good looking younger lad who hasnt done this before either so I think we wont feekl out of our depth.  Wondering what and how others experiences were after the first time