My 25 yr old bf who I have been dating for a year wants to join the military again.... He joined the Marines when he was 18 went and did Bootcamp but, when he came back he and a few friends of his went to a house party and beat up some kid.
Of course he says he had nothing to do with it except for trying to break up the fight. Regardless, as a result of the fight he was charged with a Felony and sent to jail for 10 months, therefore he was kicked out of the Marines before he really had a chance to do anything.
So, now literally a year after we've been dating he has been metioning the fact that he wants to join. But, this is someone who has been telling me that he is ready to "settle down" and start building a life with somebody. Oh, and this comes a week after we have kind of started planning to move across country within the next year... To his hometown not mine.
I am 20 years old and pretty mature for my age.. My Mom passed away almost 2 years ago from a ten year struggle with breast cancer and I am at a point where I want stability with my life since my parents marriage was chaos...
I feel like my bf has already had the chance to go do the things he wants to do and its not my fault that he messed this specific opportunity up. I want to have a realationship with him here beside me not across seas.
I honestly do not know how to handle this... I don't want him to resent me if he stays just because I don't want him to go.. But at the same time I don't want him to go and leave me here while he fufills his needs to feel like he's doing something with his life...
Ahhhhh any advice you have is most welcome!!
Of course he says he had nothing to do with it except for trying to break up the fight. Regardless, as a result of the fight he was charged with a Felony and sent to jail for 10 months, therefore he was kicked out of the Marines before he really had a chance to do anything.
So, now literally a year after we've been dating he has been metioning the fact that he wants to join. But, this is someone who has been telling me that he is ready to "settle down" and start building a life with somebody. Oh, and this comes a week after we have kind of started planning to move across country within the next year... To his hometown not mine.
I am 20 years old and pretty mature for my age.. My Mom passed away almost 2 years ago from a ten year struggle with breast cancer and I am at a point where I want stability with my life since my parents marriage was chaos...
I feel like my bf has already had the chance to go do the things he wants to do and its not my fault that he messed this specific opportunity up. I want to have a realationship with him here beside me not across seas.
I honestly do not know how to handle this... I don't want him to resent me if he stays just because I don't want him to go.. But at the same time I don't want him to go and leave me here while he fufills his needs to feel like he's doing something with his life...
Ahhhhh any advice you have is most welcome!!
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I don't think you need to worry too much. I don't believe the Marines Corps or any other branch of the military will take a felon.
However if you're looking for stability, I think you're looking in the wrong place anyway.
However if you're looking for stability, I think you're looking in the wrong place anyway.
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I wish your boyfriend luck and totally understand his sentiments, I just separated the Air Force not even a year ago after 6 years and now have the intense desire to join the Marines (at 26). Once you're a part of the military it's hard going (and staying) civilian. Even though I will have a steady pay check for PTSD, honorable discharge, and have college paid for, it's still not enough.
For me, being a part of the military isn't about wanting to "do something with your life" as you stated but more of a loss of interest in just about everything else in life. (after you're a part of the military)
Hopefully my perspective will help you make a decision.
Have you considered joining? hahaha
Good luck and Happy New Years.
For me, being a part of the military isn't about wanting to "do something with your life" as you stated but more of a loss of interest in just about everything else in life. (after you're a part of the military)
Hopefully my perspective will help you make a decision.
Have you considered joining? hahaha
Good luck and Happy New Years.
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