my clit is stretched its also a dark piinky pruple colour

its actually discharge and that is perfectly normall, i dont truly know what would be wrong if anything but maybe there is a lack of stimulation and or blood to the clitorus i would suggest rubbing it and or spraying warm water on it to see if it helps with the coloring, and about the boyfriend (when/if) you let him "touch you" yall would probably be sirous so talk to him about it next time it comes up tell him that your embaressed about how it looks, or that he wont like how it looks and go from there. and by the way just so you know im 14

Honey! You are getting confused! The clitoris is just a small bump at the top of the opening of your vagina! I think what you are talking about is your labia - or lips - that surround the clitoris! And when you are as young as you are, it wont be ejaculate in your pants - it will be discharge from ovulation and hormones - ALL women have discharge! It is usually whiteish or clear gel like! And it it doesn't have an odor! Also I KNOW your hormones are raging BUT I TOTALLY disagree with letting your boyfriend finger you at 13 things can get REALLY carried away VERY quickly! And he should be respecting your body! NOT getting to 2nd base! Also at this age he shouldn't have a CLUE what a normal labia or clitoris is about - never mind comparing yours! IF he is a lot older or actually experienced, then he should back off till you are older! As this could be considered sexual assault on a minor - if he's not careful! so you are TOTALLY normal OK? And don't worry about what your boyfriend thinks, Take a look at a picture on a medical website about what the female genitalia looks like! And then grab a mirror and look at yours - know your body! so you will know IF something is wrong in the future OK? Good luck, hope this helps with your anxiety!

Dont worry hun its normal i have the same thing mines a dark brown purple color and that wet stuff or goowey its just discharge cleaning your vergina and making it smooth and about the clit thing i dont think he would care because in my opinion boys like fat verginas instead of boney ones and i was the same position as you my boyfriend wanted to finger me and i didnt want him to feel that part but honestly he didnt notice it and if your boyfriend does just say its the clit he shouldntt care if its stretched orr not he should just care that you love him and trust him with your body if you have any more questions just hit my inbox im 14 not actualyy 21 ;) & imaa female if you were woundering not a perv -.-

I agree with much of what has been written, above.

The discharge in your underwear is likely your natural vaginal secretions which have ramped up with the onset of puberty, and incidentally, your increased sexual feelings. While many girls have large clitorises (and many boys adore them), it is possible that your clitoris is enlarged (and the color of which you speak) when you examine it because it has become engorged with blood as a result of your sexual excitement (just like his penis). You may not even have such excitement in the front of your mind when looking at your own genitals, but trust me, your mind knows better. The desire you express for intimacy with your boyfriend is a sign that you are sexually sensitive and eager. This means that sexual thoughts and desires are usually present just below the surface. This is absolutely normal in a young girl or boy, since Nature is preparing them to become REALLY interested in reproducing. That is kind of the name of the game for humans -- all the rest is just to make us want to do it again and again.

As for your fears about your boyfriend being put off in some way by your lovely, perfectly normal genitals ... if he has a problem with it, get a different boyfriend! Okay, just kidding. Seriously, he is most likely to be absolutely dumbstruck by how amazing and beautiful your genitals are -- swollen clit, lubricating discharge and all. If he has an issue, TALK TO HIM about it. Your minds and your ability to communicate with each other are the most important part of your sexual interactions. Talk to each other. You are about to engage in THE MOST intimate behavior that humans can get up to, so talk to him about your own fears and his feelings about it. Enjoy that kind of intimacy with him too. Sex is not just two empty bodies banging against each other; it's a wonderful, delicate dance between two real thinking, feeling, loving people.